Where are the real men?

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No idea why it’s so difficult finding a normal person to commit with. In big cities the gay scene is full of sex parties and drugs and there is always a better option to go for/hotter guy so they never stay.
Is this happen to me only? Why people don’t show affect and caring? Can two men have this or the man nature is just being strong and don’t connect at that level? Is it a gay matter or depends on the person?
 

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No idea why it’s so difficult finding a normal person to commit with. In big cities the gay scene is full of sex parties and drugs and there is always a better option to go for/hotter guy so they never stay.
Is this happen to me only? Why people don’t show affect and caring? Can two men have this or the man nature is just being strong and don’t connect at that level? Is it a gay matter or depends on the person?


your not alone on this ... this happens to all of us . i truly think it depends on the person.
 

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No idea why it’s so difficult finding a normal person to commit with. In big cities the gay scene is full of sex parties and drugs and there is always a better option to go for/hotter guy so they never stay.
Is this happen to me only? Why people don’t show affect and caring? Can two men have this or the man nature is just being strong and don’t connect at that level? Is it a gay matter or depends on the person?
It is tricky. Just be patient, you’ll see when someone wants to give you that love. I know your frustration, for hook ups and fun anyone is fine, but for something deeper no everyone is up for it...
 
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No idea why it’s so difficult finding a normal person to commit with. In big cities the gay scene is full of sex parties and drugs and there is always a better option to go for/hotter guy so they never stay.
Is this happen to me only? Why people don’t show affect and caring? Can two men have this or the man nature is just being strong and don’t connect at that level? Is it a gay matter or depends on the person?

You rarely find relationship guys on the scene. It's kind of like wondering why there aren't many sober people in a bar.

I agree that it's not easy. I agree it is frustrating for something so essential is so hard to find. But I think it's worth the perseverance.

It comes down to expanding your circle of friends. The more friends you have, the more likely one of those six degrees of Kevin Bacon will lead to love.
 

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It comes down to expanding your circle of friends. The more friends you have, the more likely one of those six degrees of Kevin Bacon will lead to love.

Thank you, this strikes me as pretty good advice for any single person interested in finding a companion. I'd never heard it stated quite that way before.
 

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Get involved in social groups, not just the scene. Meet guys on the basis of shared interests beyond ”just sex” and you are likely to meet people with whom you can connect on more than just that one level.

Examples: gay sports groups: baseball, soccer, bowling, hiking and so forth. Or volunteering, local pride week organization, gay history projects, gay men's chorus, etc..

You're in Toronto, I personally know there are tons of gay social groups there. Look up the Judy Garland Memorial Bowling Society (that one is probably in its 40th year by now if it's still around), the Toronto Gay Choir, the Out and Out Club, and probably a ton more that have popped up in the last 20-some years since I lived there.

There are alternatives out there. And the guys who join those groups (and are single and available) likely aren't so much into hunting for their next one-off sex hookup either.
 
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I will admit it's tough to find someone who wants to be exclusive. Atlanta has a large gay population so you would think it would be easy to meet someone but it's not.

I'm at the stage in life where I did my little party scene and had fun but I'm ready to settle down with someone. I've watched my gay and straight friends start to pair off these last few years. The guys here in the city are pretty cliquish and i've just not met very many who are interested and where there is a good connection.

I admit to being a little picky and I have my own quirks that have probably turned off a few people. I think the longer we stay single the harder it is to find someone.
 
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I admit to being a little picky and I have my own quirks that have probably turned off a few people. I think the longer we stay single the harder it is to find someone.
i believe the reason we remain single is because of those same foibles and quirks but they are also what makes us different from the rest of the herd and causes the attraction of that large circle of friends. Stay different, stay quirky and zig when everyone else is zagging; that is what makes everyone an individual.
 
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Hard question to answer considering ur on a website the puts big dick mean and looks on a pedestal. Maybe its not everyone but loom inward; i had the aame feelings until i realized it was me, and not being sure of what i wanted. Not to mention as gay men we dont have the luxury of casual dating? Alot of our efforts invovlved back door sex rooms, hotels, and stair cases. I think also with the inclusion of connectpal, and onlyfans have made our perception towards connectivity a huge issue... idk but its out there
 
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Hard question to answer considering ur on a website the puts big dick mean and looks on a pedestal. Maybe its not everyone but loom inward; i had the aame feelings until i realized it was me, and not being sure of what i wanted. Not to mention as gay men we dont have the luxury of casual dating? Alot of our efforts invovlved back door sex rooms, hotels, and stair cases. I think also with the inclusion of connectpal, and have made our perception towards connectivity a huge issue... idk but its out there
Well if I had a boyfriend I wouldn’t be here...
 

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No idea why it’s so difficult finding a normal person to commit with. In big cities the gay scene is full of sex parties and drugs and there is always a better option to go for/hotter guy so they never stay.
Is this happen to me only? Why people don’t show affect and caring? Can two men have this or the man nature is just being strong and don’t connect at that level? Is it a gay matter or depends on the person?
Lol a real man is the one who shows emotions, makes you feel special and also gets angry when things are not good.
If you find someone call me! They are in extinction!!
Pd: if he is a wild beast in sheets a PLUS!
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No idea why it’s so difficult finding a normal person to commit with. In big cities the gay scene is full of sex parties and drugs and there is always a better option to go for/hotter guy so they never stay.
Is this happen to me only? Why people don’t show affect and caring? Can two men have this or the man nature is just being strong and don’t connect at that level? Is it a gay matter or depends on the person?

9 times out of 10 the problem is a lot closer to home. How many guys have you turned away because they’re not your type? Guarantee one of these guys has the traits you’re looking for but maybe not the looks...
 

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hello, nell…
lol…
you seem particularly unchained this saturday night…
it must be the miami saturday night fever enhanced by the fact we are reaching the maximum of heating in the northern hemisphere with this july month third week…
so… if you're as full of energy as I suspect… lol… I take this opportunity to ask you if you could describe your real man using, if possible, the porn imagery… lol… with a porn actor illustrating your idea of masculinity at his best…
thank you, nell…
have a nice week-end!...
 
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hello, nell…
lol…
you seem particularly unchained this saturday night…
it must be the miami saturday night fever enhanced by the fact we are reaching the maximum of heating in the northern hemisphere with this july month third week…
so… if you're as full of energy as I suspect… lol… I take this opportunity to ask you if you could describe your real man using, if possible, the porn imagery… lol… with a porn actor illustrating your idea of masculinity at his best…
thank you, nell…
have a nice week-end!...

LOL, brilliant question! Je pense que tu veuilles dire "unhinged", pas "unchained" dans ce contexte :p

Here's another question for him, has he done any introspection into his own personality? Or mistakes he's made in his own dating life?
 
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hello, nell…
lol…
you seem particularly unchained this saturday night…
it must be the miami saturday night fever enhanced by the fact we are reaching the maximum of heating in the northern hemisphere with this july month third week…
so… if you're as full of energy as I suspect… lol… I take this opportunity to ask you if you could describe your real man using, if possible, the porn imagery… lol… with a porn actor illustrating your idea of masculinity at his best…
thank you, nell…
have a nice week-end!...

Oh alcor972, this is Miami baby we don't go out until at least 11pm so I had some time to get my thoughts together before I left and went to a gay ball called The Jungle Ball 2.0. It was lot's of fun seeing the houses compete. Anyway, if I had to use porn to describe my real man let's see. I used to really like Brian Pumper then I found his social media and he's short and likes to make very corny rap songs. Right now I like Manuel Ferrara and Bruno Dickemz. Again, in this age of social media, Bruno looks really lame with his friends on IG, always smoking and hanging out with corny local rappers from South Florida. Thus, essentially it's Manuel Ferrara for the win. In terms of gay actors, there's not many I like because I don't really watch professional gay porn because I think it's really lame in terms of the repeated actors used and the fact that I don't see many sex positions explored during shoots. I watch amateur porn if it's gay or self-owned companies like HarlemHookups and BeefCakeHunter. But I used to be into Antonio Biaggi (what gay isn't) and that's pretty much it. It's hard to use porn actors though because they act a different way off camera as seen in their social media.

LOL, brilliant question! Je pense que tu veuilles dire "unhinged", pas "unchained" dans ce contexte :p

Here's another question for him, has he done any introspection into his own personality? Or mistakes he's made in his own dating life?

Yes Englad, we all have yo do some introspection into our own lives - meanwhile this same question "where are the real men?" will be asked next month, the following month, the month after that. At this point we should just put it on our calendar, but don't worry guys! Englad will be here to ask you, "Now, have you done some introspection into your own life to wonder what you could have done better?"
 

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Yes Englad, we all have yo do some introspection into our own lives - meanwhile this same question "where are the real men?" will be asked next month, the following month, the month after that. At this point we should just put it on our calendar, but don't worry guys! Englad will be here to ask you, "Now, have you done some introspection into your own life to wonder what you could have done better?"

Once you've bothered to do some introspection, instead of dodging it every single time. Get back to me.