Where Do Bi-Curious Guys Hook Up?

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FortiesFun You wrote..."Sooner or later, you are going to have to give over to the idea that to find homosexuals you are going to have to compromise your stance a little..." I know that's true, but for some of us it's a comfort factor and not a compromise issue.

I found out about the "male only" nude beach, this was something I was comfortable with and visiting that beach many years ago was my break through. I love being looked at when I was younger, now I'm all scared up [just over 52" of scaring due to open heart surgery, cancer etc., etc. but I'm still here.] and a little self conscious, friends don't care and being older has some advantages, I don't need a ripped and toned body at 60, though I still look pretty good for an old man 6' 2", 250 with the older build of an Olympic Power lifter, which I was.
 

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This is an interesting post, Meniscus. This is my view about what you've said. I don't think a lot of guys who identify as bi or straight are as interested in having sex with other men in the same way guys who identify as gay do. I know myself that if I meet a guy who i think is attractive and the feeling is mutual, then I might go ahead and see where it goes. But I need to feel that attraction first, which doesn't happen to me all the time. I'm not looking for sex with guys most of the time, so I feel I'm not missing something. Hope this makes sense.

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You'll have to excuse me for a moment. I'm all goofily flattered that the beautiful Hung Jon responsed to one of my posts. Hung Jon noticed me.:flirt::shysmile::nervous::tongue22:

OK, enough of my girlish nonsense. My questions are about this sentence: "...if I meet a guy who i think is attractive and the feeling is mutual, then I might go ahead and see where it goes." OK, but how do you figure out if there's mutual interest? Do you get them alone and seduce them, like earl does? Do you wait for them to hit on you? Do you try to become friends with the guy first, or are you just looking to have sex with him? If you become friends first, do you stay friends? Do you continue to have a sexual relationship, or is it usually just a one-time thing? And where do you meet these guys? Bars, clubs, parties, work, or what? More specifically, where should I start hanging out so that I might be one of the guys you notice?
 

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You'll have to excuse me for a moment. I'm all goofily flattered that the beautiful Hung Jon responsed to one of my posts. Hung Jon noticed me.:flirt::shysmile::nervous::tongue22:

OK, enough of my girlish nonsense. My questions are about this sentence: "...if I meet a guy who i think is attractive and the feeling is mutual, then I might go ahead and see where it goes." OK, but how do you figure out if there's mutual interest? Do you get them alone and seduce them, like earl does? Do you wait for them to hit on you? Do you try to become friends with the guy first, or are you just looking to have sex with him? If you become friends first, do you stay friends? Do you continue to have a sexual relationship, or is it usually just a one-time thing? And where do you meet these guys? Bars, clubs, parties, work, or what? More specifically, where should I start hanging out so that I might be one of the guys you notice?


Hey Meniscus...I'm not sure what attitude you're putting out there with your first paragraph about me responding to your post. I'm just a guy like anybody. It's hard to tell if you're putting me on or what. Anyway to answer the rest of your question, if I meet a guy (or girl) I'm attracted to then usually there's some chemistry between us or we wouldn't be checking each other out in the first place. "Mutual interest" doesn't have to be figured out. It just happens. I don't know when I meet a person what direction it will go in. We'll probally just talk or dance together to get a feel for each other. As I've said before, just be yourself & don't try to "seduce" somebody. People want to be respected & valued unless they're wasted big time. Most of us don't like some stranger hanging all over us without an invitation. Just my experience but I don't think there's some formula for getting with peeps. Most guys I know think that they have manipulate the situation to attract girls. It doesn't work too well. Most girls are way ahead of guy's games. As far as where to hang out, all the places you mention sound cool to me. I think it's more about who you are and how you come across to others that attracts people to you. If you're all desparate & weird peeps will pick up on that.

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Hey Meniscus...I'm not sure what attitude you're putting out there with your first paragraph about me responding to your post. I'm just a guy like anybody. It's hard to tell if you're putting me on or what.

Take it at face value, kiddo. All I was saying is that I think you're really attractive. I was just being a bit silly about it.

..."Mutual interest" doesn't have to be figured out. It just happens...

Oh, how I wish that were true. Some of us are really dense when it comes to this kind of stuff.

But thanks for your reply. You did answer my questions and I feel like I get where you're coming from now. Thanks.
 

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bi-curious guys are all over the place in aol chat rooms. it's been a long time - i don't hang there anymore, but can't count the number of guys i chatted it up with wanting to experiment. went for it twice. but that was 10 years ago.
 

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Are they bi-curious or rough trade? That's something you have to be really careful about, particularly if the object of your attention has been drinking or is otherwise drugged. People under the influence can become violent or change their minds suddenly and then turn on you for trying to go after them. There's a fine line between bi-curious and rough trade. Be respectful of it because otherwise you can end-up in serious shit or dead.

While Earl's tips are good, always keep your personal safety at the forefront of your mind. Not every bi-curious guy will rationally and courteously decline doing something that crosses his line from two straight guys getting off on each other to what he believes makes for gay sex.
 

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I agree with the author. I have meet lots of bicurious guys, the last thing they want to hear is gay. Hell bicurious scares them.If it is just two guys having fun, and no one is going to know about it, they are up for it.I have found the army and navy the best places to connect, you just have to be cool about it, and trust me, things happen.
 
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I have always been puzzled by the term bi-curious and don't remember it even being used prior to the early 90's. If you are looking to "hook-up" i think you are realizing you are sexually attracted to men. I don't know how long one remains bi-curious,if it continues for a while and you finally have sex with a man or continue to be bi-curious in my opinion the more accurate term is bisexual. A sraight guy might admirer guy for his looks, body, athletic ability, etc. but the feelings aren't sexual. Just one old man's opinion whether it is right or wrong.
 

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Rough trade would imply that they're on the game, in it for money which is a far cry from a man who's curious about having any physical contact with another man. You can always tell them apart. Common sense would dictate whether it's okay to approach someone based on the environment you're in and if you notice that the person has noticed you as much as you've noticed him. Dulling your or their senses with booze or other substances is never a good mix and I would imagine not very exciting if you manage to 'snag' someone in those circumstances. It could also lead to violence or situations that could escalate in that direction based on substance use. Talking to the person before hitting on him to get a sense of the lay out so to speak is always best. That's my opinion on it.
 

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I think Mick here sees things the way I do. I'm not a mathmetician, but math just can't help but spill into our everyday life sometimes, heh.

It's just extremely unlikely that you'll meet someone who's interested in your friendship....never mind anything else. It's amazing it ever happens.:tongue:


In my experience, finding sex partners is the eternal question!
Think of the odds: gay/bi men are supposedly, what, 10% of the population?
Of that 10%, You have to be in the right place to meet people.
Of that percent, they have to be single and also looking.
And of that percent (here comes the big trip-up), they have to be mutually attracted & interested.
Slim odds at best.
Now, we'll narrow it down even further... If You, like me, are more attracted to straight/bi curious guys, Your odds are cut down dramatically.
And those of us who prefer big cocks - now Your chances are TRULY slim.
Have a particular ethnic type, body type, age, etc You like or dislike? Kiss it bye-bye.
It doesn't help me that I have no tolerance for blaring dance/trance music giving me headaches in bars, tho that's apparently where a lot of people have a good deal of luck.
I've personally never gotten lucky through the internet (but I'm still trying!), tho a lot of guys seem to.
Baths? They're hit and miss. I've had some luck in them (especially in Los Angeles). There are only two left here in NYC, but they're the most godawful of any I've ever been to. I check them out a few times a month cos they're they only game in town.
...But I'm as stuck for answers on where & how to find sex as anyone else.
The guy who can bottle & sell the answer to this will undoubtedly become VERY wealthy! :biggrin1:
 

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I meet other bi guys at the gym all the time when I travel. Adult bookstores too, possibly. And online here. Try messaging ones in your area. Also, you might try NYJacks site. Many gay, but many bi married guys too. Write me and I'll gladly elaborate.
 
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I know this is not what you want to hear, Earl, but I still think you got the problem that you want it both ways. You want to find homosexuals who aren't gay, and you want to find them where straight men spend their time. Bi-men are there, it's true, but when they're in those places, they are mostly in their str8 persona.

Sooner or later, you are going to have to give over to the idea that to find homosexuals you are going to have to compromise your stance a little...

Bi-curious are gay. They just don't want to admit it. They still want that connection the straight world. I'm not sure why he asked the question when he appears to have it down to a science in just 6 easy steps.

http://www.lpsg.org/1003264-post33.html
 

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Why are you such a douche?

I'm a realist. Fortiesfun said he(earl) wants it "both ways." He wants to be in the scene but not really be part of it. It's how you live your life. You can live it in the straight world, the gay world, or just the world.

Because Italian978 has a personal vendetta against some of the members here. Earl is one of them.

Jason, you know I don't have a vendetta against anyone. Stop with the conspiracy theories.
 

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I've an idea..some brilliant web designer/programmer needs to come up with a legitimate, non-sexually-oriented matching website for gays & bi dudes & ladies. Something where people can meet up for friendship, or whatever. For those of us with different boundaries, friendship might turn into sex, and why not? But it'd be good to have a non-smutty place to at least meet online, that might actually work for those of us that live in smaller towns. Squirt, manhunt...all of these have yielded nothing in my location. Sometimes I'm more in the mood to just meet a new non-sexual friend.....that can never happen on something like manhunt.