Okay here is my deal...im a 48 year old guy who is semi retired and very single. Where does one truthfully seek a partner who starts off as a friend and then if all goes well goes into a long term relationship? I mean i have done it all. Even places where they say "no dont look there." Im not what one would call handsome nor am i ugly but its just so hard to find someone. The guys in my area are very superficial because it seems you have to belong to their "elite" group in order for them to even look at you. I have even asked straight friends to talk to other people and see if anyone knows of anyone...with no luck. I have tried long distance (which didnt work), bars, social gatherings, im going bonkers here. Please help!!