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I'm not sure if this is where this should go, but anyways:

I've had this question for years now. At first I was straight, then I became Bi, now I think I'm more straight than Bi.

I love women, want to have sex with them and even get married to one.

But the thing is, I find men attractive... to a point.
When I visit porn sites, I always enter the bi section.

The reason I'm not 50-50 bi is because, I couldn't see myself haveing a boyfriend much less getting married to one and anal just isn't my thing.

I do however think about penises a lot, which is my reason for watching gay porn. I've never really care much for the bodies of the gay men I'd watch until a few months ago when I started going to the gym.


So I'm unsure what this makes me, I love women, but also like penises (not the men attached to them, and she-males are a no).

If I was going to get in a bed with a guy, it would be for the sexual aspect and nothing more (though there would be no anal).
 

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Sexual attraction or interest is not neat and tidy categories or labels. It is much more fluid and mixed than that. There is no need to label yourself. You are you with your own unique sexual orientation - mainly heterosexual.
 

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Sexual attraction or interest is not neat and tidy categories or labels. It is much more fluid and mixed than that. There is no need to label yourself. You are you with your own unique sexual orientation - mainly heterosexual.

Mainly heterosexual is a label.
 

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Don't worry about trying to come up with labels. At the end of the day, they don't really matter very much because they mean different things to different people. I'd go with human as a label. The rest is subject to change without notice.
 

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Sexual attraction or interest is not neat and tidy categories or labels. It is much more fluid and mixed than that. There is no need to label yourself. You are you with your own unique sexual orientation - mainly heterosexual.

That sounds so Theravada.

But you don't look Thai at all.
 

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Just fall in love with who you want and have sex with whomever you want and forget about the labels. They don't matter.
 

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As I've often said around here and other places, the labels are man-made, and the chances of a male fitting every aspect of their sexuality into one of the three labels is almost impossible.

You have to consider fetish in sexuality too. So you could live a completely heterosexual life, but have a fetish for dick.

I'm in favor of dropping the labels altogether, just enjoy the sexual experiences without the need to explain it.

If you need to follow social doctrine and dogma, then you're Bi. Bisexuality isn't described as 50/50. It's the state of enjoying aspects of both men and women sexually, not always equally.

But, like I said, I wouldn't worry at all about the man-made labels, just enjoy sex of whatever kind with adults as you desire.