Where has all the romancing gone?

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  1. D_Geffarde Phartsmeller

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    Alright so I'm not talking about the traditional flowers, candles, blah blah blah. I'm more talking about the cybersex romancing that male members here seem to lack. Some females, too. I post this in the women's issues forum because I figure the ladies know what I'm talking about. Now, I'm predominantly straight but every now and then I feel...experimental. I don't have a problem indulging another gay/bi guy's fantasy and cybering a bit. But don't start a conversation with "you're hung, what are you wearing?". Pretend to give a damn about more than what's in my pants. Or my favorites are the ones that have no pics, make no posts and don't talk in the chatrooms. I'm not about to give it up, verbally speaking of course, to a lurking stalker!

    Girls, have you encountered the same problem? I mean, I'm not turned-on 24/7. Just because I'm in the lpsg chatroom doesn't mean I'm trolling for booty. Sometimes it's nice to talk about random shit or current events. If you private message me I'll be courteous but that doesn't mean I'm interested in you. ASL? Wow, you're making me hot now. Check my profile, check my name. If you can't even manage to do that, I won't be giving much of a shit about you. Are my expectations too high?
     
  2. Principessa

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    Welcome to the rude & annoying hell we women of LPSG often experience everyday. Sometimes many, many, many times a day. Worse, because we are women some of these jerks think our sole purpose is to meet their cyber-sexual needs.:mad: The polite salutations of yesteryear apparently died with Joe DiMaggio. :frown1:
     
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    I'm a complete romantic. Flowers, little gifts, songs, special occasions, write poetry, the works! I try to just sweep guys off their feet.

    Only it doesn't work very well. I've discovered that it comes across as desperation and neediness which is probably why I'm alone in my little lifeboat rowing across the Sea of Love. Too often people say they want romance but when it's attempted they think you're nuts or a stalker. Sometimes, in their minds they don't live-up to the romance you're throwing at them and so believe that they will disappoint you and push you away.

    So yeah, romance is nice in theory, but in practice it's dead. Maybe if you're already in a relationship it's different?

    These days John Cusak would have a restraining order slapped on him for standing outside someone's house in the rain with a ghetto blaster.

    That makes me a bit sad.
     
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    ASL? welcome to my ignore list. =P
     
  5. Mr. Snakey

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    Im pretty much opted out of all the one on one dirty talk with others. I have in the past and just dont feel comfortable doing it. I instead have some wonderfull people i keep in contact with on here. Give it a chance there are some great people on here. Also in reality this is a sex site and if people pm in such a manner take it as compliment. I do.
     
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    Jason,I don't see you being romantic, as needy, and the guys who think it is, obviously don't know a good man,when they see one!
    It was precisely those type of gestures that helped me fall in love
    with Mr. Ed. I always loved the little gifts {or big gifts!} flowers,cards
    and nice walks after dinner just to talk.
    I can't even believe some idiot would think it's too needy or clingy, and reject a person, for being more than decent.
    Geez! Some guys just don't know a winner, when one is romancing them!
    I wish everyone could experience, what Jason is offering. :07:
    cigarbabe:saevilw:
     
  7. IntoxicatingToxin

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    HugoB! It finally seems like there is a man on LPSG who knows what we go through! I hardly even go into the chat room anymore for specifically that reason. *sigh*
     
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    hey HugoB, ASL please. and what are you wearing if you don't mind me asking...

    haha. i'm just teasin. :hug: :biggrin1:

    i couldn't agree more with you. it's why i took my messenger addy's off my profile. :rolleyes: i like to have REAL conversations with substance. i joke around alot (if you couldn't tell:wink:), and i'd rather have fun that way than cyber. i'm here to read interesting threads and meet cool people that like to have real conversations. good to know there's others out there that feel the same. :cool:
     
  9. B_Jennuine73

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    Romance? On a computer? How's that work?

    I understand how men might feel shy about contacting someone and just saying "I like your pic". I will reply with a thank you, I always reply. Too often though they reply with "I bet you love big dicks don't you?"
    Would you go up to someone at a bar and say that?

    Now I like dirty talking, sometimes cybering but not all the time! I think some guys have a perpetual hard on and think women are wet all the time.

    I know what you mean about the chat room Meg. I always say "no pms please". Some listen, some don't. Gets very annoying having those windows popping up.
     
  10. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    If your on cam with your cock out the last thing i care about is the weather or how you'd like to suck my nipples or some lame shit like that. I want to see cock, i want to see you jack off and i want to see cum, thats all

    NO, im not big on conversation
    :biggrin1:
     
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    One day you'll find someone who will appreciate your romantic nature. Might take a little time and fine tuning, but rest assured it will happen. :smile:

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    Internet romance is tricky, unorthodox, and full of surprises.

    Engaging my mind was not optional but a requirement. I'm elated someone took the time and effort to do so with me.
     
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    I have no experience with cybersex or internet romance, but I could imagine that it is difficult to put the nonverbal side of romance and flirting into an internet chatroom. Often, a smile says more than thousand words, and the expression of a meaningful look doesn't come out of nowhere. And after all, soft illumination at a bar or at your home for a romantic evening can't be replaced by the shine of a computer screen.

    Your expectations are not too high. But keep in mind that it's not a computer you're communicating with through a chatroom, there's someone at the other end of the line. And however social that person is determines a lot of the quality of your conversation. There is no guarantee on that, of course, shy people or untalented typers can be exceptions, but in the majority of cases I think this approach can be applied.

    If you are into special forms of roleplaying, maybe you should try matching internet forums, to find like-minded people?
     
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    I started a thread in ETC last summer about the most romantic evening you have ever had?
    Hardly anyone posted, those who did had some really romantic tales, just figured romance was on the wane with the modern cyber world!
    But me...I'm a hopeless romantic!
     
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    :notworthy: :kiss::hug::kiss::hug: :notworthy:

    How can I reply to that? Thank you. I pray you're right.
     
  15. No_Strings

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    Not at all.

    I think this is a particularly relevant question on the matter. I personally try to talk and act as I would in real life; the 'internet' is merely intereacting with people through a different medium for me, but I still hope to maintain the same presence and awareness that I would in an offline situation. It seems to have stood me well, I've made friends here. :smile:

    When one considers how much can be learnt from simply sitting down and typing to one another, it's probably the equivalent to days of getting to know someone at the workplace, for example. The caveat to that is, you can really only learn about what they reveal and allow you to know.
    I udnerstand exactly what you mean about the nonverbal communication, which in the beginning can be tricky(webcams/phonecalls usually come later), but I speak from experience when I say; some things can travel through internet cables. There's no logic or rhyme or reason, but I can honestly say I have truly felt someone's presence while chatting to them online(in my case, before I'd ever even met them face to face - when I did, I learned that my feeling was a completely correct emulation/estimation.)

    Hey, if I can do it, then you can too. :smile:


    IMO, true romance is impossible without real chemistry. Real chemistry between two people seems harder and harder to come by these days, but it's out there. The fast-food society we live in doesn't have time for bonding.
     
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    Romantics are definitely out there. They are the Knights Templar of modern times. Some live in secret, and the lucky ones find each other -- sometimes, against all odds.

    So good luck to all the romantics out there... and especially our sweet Jason_ELS!

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    And no, HugoB, it's not too much to ask. :wink:
     
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    I wasn't talking about getting to know someone, I was talking about the actual process of dating and flirting. Sure it may be easy to find someone likeminded by visiting a web forum or site that represents common interest, but I actually always preferred hitting the clubs or bars and see what comes along. Probably that's different views.

    Careful with things that travel through internet cables, or radiowaves meanwhile (W-LAN). It is very easy to misinterprete written lines, and very easy too to read too much in them. I always tend to be hypersensitive for sharp tones, formal letters, letters and notes from authorities always appeared like orders to me. Disallowances always sound so harsh. So careful with that!
     
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