With as long as it's been, I may as well be a virgin again.
@Zeuhl34: Hmmmm... I'm an introvert too. And I'm lazy as hell AND I range from fairly extroverted (amongst friends or mostly friends) to very introverted (when I don't know anyone).
If you want some advice (ok, not like I'm a great source of this since my skills with women are so-so at best) women look for a few things.
1) Physical appearance. You don't have to be super hot. But you have to make it evident that you take care of yourself.
2) Confidence. Women love confidence and they're pretty good at smelling fake confidence. At the very worst, don't be wishy washy and/or passive. On early dates, you should have things planned. At the worst ask her what she wants to do from a select few choices.
3) Personality. You gotta make her have fun being with you. Humor is the easiest and most tried and true way. Good stories is another. Having fun topics to talk about is another. This means you can be argumentative as long as it's FUN for her, not frustrating (arguments can be mentally stimulating or very very annoying). If you have trouble, the best way is to have certain topics that you can talk about in an interesting manner AND that can involve her. Have some of these ready and use them when there's lulls in the conversation.
4) Wealth. Yes, for some girls this is really important. For some girls it's only important if you're poor.
Yeah.
I wouldn't say I'm good looking, but I don't think I'm quite to the level of fugly, so #1 is fine.
Despite what people may ASSume from talking to me for 10 seconds, I'm plenty good on #2.
My only problem is #3. I'm fucking boring. I've met a girl from here and she can vouch for that :tongue: (judging by the fact that I never saw or heard from her again and she was psychologically neither here nor there during the whole meeting; my fault though, obviously). I've read tons and tons of pick-up artist/seduction stuff and I've personally observed successful guys around me - friends, coworkers, etc. I KNOW what's going on, I KNOW how it works. Being fun, being funny, being interesting, being the person that other people seek out and want to be around.
But despite my best efforts, I just ain't got it. Maybe it's because I'm extremely anti-social (not shy, don't mistake that). I'm introverted, but not too much. I just flat don't really care about socializing with people, interacting with people, and generally getting experienced with being social. I got the really fucked up end of the social ability stick, genetically. I try to care, but I just can't.
When I'm in social situations, I KNOW what I'm supposed to be doing. But despite all of my interactions with people, my brain apparently doesn't absorb skills such as small talk and witty banter and various brands of humor. In a social situation, people think I'm not talking to them because I don't like them or because I'm a dick or stuck up or some shit, but it's more because I really don't know what to say. Um, hi? So um, how are you? How was school? How was work? So, like, did you see that one movie? Dum de dum......hmmm....what did you do last night?
BOOOOOOORING. I know what I should be doing and saying to be successful, but my mental book of social material never gets beyond the first page, i.e. I never collect anything to draw from despite how many social experiences and observations I have.
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Really, the point is that number 3 is by far the biggest factor. I've seen poor guys and fugly guys (some who were both) get plenty of pussy and plenty of attention, not just from females but from people in general. Why? Because they have the right personality traits and social skills. There's this blah-looking, fat, lazy, yellow eyed, pot smoking, arrogant son of a bitch at work who has the girls wrapped around his finger precisely because of personality. And he's by far not the exception, but the rule.
A guy's sexual trigger is something that has a tight, wet, hole attached to a reasonable body.
A girl's sexual trigger is a reasonably interesting person.