where is the 2nd Sphincter ?

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hi guys,

- in other threads i have asked why my BF can not FULLY penetrate me (i.e. "balls deep" - he would very much like to do this).

- he is 7-8 inches in length, and he its a "wall" about 4-5 inches inside of me and can go no further.

- several replies indicated the problem is my "2nd sphincter" allegedly 5 inches inside of me, which apparently i must "relax" so he can go deeper

- others said the so called "2nd sphincter" location varies in different people, but regardless of how deep it is in me, i can not "relax" it into opening, so he can not go any further, its just the way it is.

- some web links indicate the "2nd sphincter" is only 2 inches inside, not 5

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question: can anyone (who is experienced in deep bottoming) PLEASE explain the anatomical FACTS to me, along with any suggestions. my BF and i are patient, intelligent and willing to take it slow and learn, however we are also horny as FUCK and like to FUCK HARD !!

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You're rectom area has the two sphincters but you will also notice it has be bend to it. This can be straightened out over time as you take bigger and longer stuff in you. The best way to work on it is using inflatable dildoes and/or longer slim dildoes to help get that area straightened out (literally) and the second sphincter open and used to accepting penetration.
 

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there is no 2nd sphincter
there is a single muscle sling that holds up the intestine
it relaxes to let the shit go down into the colon and the sphincter relaxes to let the shit out of the anus. navigating past the Anismus - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
is the hard part as it is normally in the contracted state. (clenched shut or tightly pulled shut), see the picture in the link, is what everyone mistakes for a 2nd sphincter muscle. the "wall" you are hitting is the part of the colon that is up near the muscle. just like poking your tonsils at the back of your mouth. if you navigate correctly, you can go down into your throat. same here for the anismus, if you find the correct spot, you can force past the muscle and into the descending intestine. having the bottom relax or bear down like shitting, will relax the muscle and let the opening loosen up. (think gag reflex) once you are in past. you are home free. this muscle is the reason why tops love to fuck ass, cause it is the in and out action thru this inner muscle sling/opening that makes your cockhead feels like it is going in and out of a 2nd sphincter. think of very tight lips with no teeth behind it. and this muscle getting a "deep tissue" internal massage is what all bottoms crave. (getting at the itch that cant be scratched) this is why bottoms love a big long cock. there is no nerves up inside the ass, but the muscles there getting massaged by a good hard cock is heaven. muscles have nerves and that is what feels good when it is massaged. if your bottom is not relaxed enough , have him wiggle around till he finds his opening to let you in. just like a super tight asshole. let the bottom find the opening for you. no matter how much you push. you wont be able to go past the opening. you are just pushing and poking and stretching the colon walls and that poking against the muscle walls of the abdomen is what is hurting the bottom. (think of your own ass. then try forcing a baseball bat up into it. 1st you wont find the hole cause the blunt end is too big and the hole too small, then if you do find the hole, it wont open. easy to relate to right.
see diagram: F is internal and external sphincter= one big ring of muscle
you are hitting the wall at D, you need to go past A(the mistaken 2nd ring) this is the hardest part, to get into C. (the hardest part of going past A is what grips the cockhead to tightly and feels so good to the top. if you read the article. muscle A is so strong and tight that it can close off the intestine to the point of being watertight.
try stopping the blood flow to your hand and putting it to sleep by squeezing shut around your wrist with your strongest hand. almost impossible. use that same grip ans see if you can push it open with your cock. IMPOSSIBLE. that is why guys bleed when they get raped. the colon wall is usually punctured causing the bleeding and possible death by 1) bloodloss or 2) septic shock from blood poisoning from intestinal bacteria entering into the blood stream. ever get an "indian burn" when you were a kid? that is what is happening internally when you keep hitting the "wall"
 
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You're rectom area has the two sphincters but you will also notice it has be bend to it. This can be straightened out over time as you take bigger and longer stuff in you. The best way to work on it is using inflatable dildoes and/or longer slim dildoes to help get that area straightened out (literally) and the second sphincter open and used to accepting penetration.
muscledhorse is right about getting everything straightened out internally.
it is the colon into the intestine that needs (and can be) repositioned (straightened out) it is normally folded over in most people like an elbow joint. the inflatable toy will help stretch out the anismus making subsequent penetration easier.
 

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abu, sorry for my posts being too long
and i did mean to say rectum in place of colon

- several replies indicated the problem is my "2nd sphincter" allegedly 5 inches inside of me, which apparently i must "relax" so he can go deeper

see your pic where there is an "elbow" where the whole rectum is bent and then turns into the colon?
that bend is where the anismus muscle sling is.
it is being held shut.

as a bottom myself, let me tell you how to get it in.

1. be cleaned out very well as in shower shot marathon enema the day before
2. when your top goes in and you feel that ouch. tell him to stop and hold it there.
3. take several deep, and i mean yoga really deep breaths meaning if one or two dont make you dizzy, do 20 of them, till you almost get light headed.
4) then push down like you feel like you havent taken a dump in 10 days and you feel the fullness and pressure backed up inside.
alternately like you got the runs and you want to get it all out already.
this will truly be the test if you cleaned out correctly or not
cause....
5) if you are not cleaned out, shit will come out, no i am not kidding.
6) or the cock will go in past the muscle.
dont go hog wild just yet. get used to the feeling of fullness.
let your top stay in and you just squeeze like you got to cut off a huge one or hold back the dam on a huge diarrhea.
7) your top will feel his cock getting squeezed and if he dont sigh with ecstasy, squeeze harder.
8) then you start the back and forth humping motion, not your top. YOU.
9) once you get the hang of it, let him try fucking you.
10) if you have an instantaneous or hand free orgasm, you may send me money via paypal, nah nah nah, jus kidding.

yes I lived in hawaii b4 too.
try it and soon you will know what my avatar means

and yes u are lucky to have a b/f that is a top with 7" in hawaii. a real rarity.
i know.

try it out lemme know how it goes.
 
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Here's what I can tell you based on my (not insignificant) experiences as both a top and a guy who ocassionally really likes a nice dildo in the butt lol:

Whether it is techincally a "sphincter" or not, it is certainly true that some distance inside there is a second ring that presents a barrier of sorts. I have found that this barrier can indeed be passed so that the bottom is "fully" entered and so the top is "balls deep." What I have found works is for the top to gently apply pressure with his cock head against this second ring; with a bit of time and patience the ring slowly loosens and I have to tell you, for the bottom and for the top this loosening is an amazing feeling. Once past this, the cock glides almost effortlessly balls deep, and the feeling of the cock stretching this is indeed quite amazing.

So I say relax and take your time, and you'll get him past that and you'll be amazed. My take on the anatomical facts.
 

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for all you readers out there
the prostate is under behind the area where the anismus muscle sling is
and when you tighten the sling it pulls the rectum close against the prostate
so the rubbing against the prostate is being concentrated on because the muscle is effectively holding the cock in the rectum tightly right up against the prostate.
the bottom gets the prostate rubbed really hard everytime the cock goes in and out of the muscle sling. this is why the bottom will tighten and squeeze this muscle. cause the tighter it gets the more pressure on the prostate. and the bonus is for the top the tighter it is, the more it feels like a tighter and tighter grip going back and forth over the cockhead.

you str8 people can either get disgusted or enlightened as to why gays/fags/and knowledgeable people like to get butt fucked.
for curious females, this is the instruction manual for guys how to hit the g-spot, where it is, and how to find it.

sorry I am gay, i dont know how to explain it to str8 men how to find yours.
 
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Here's what I can tell you based on my (not insignificant) experiences as both a top and a guy who ocassionally really likes a nice dildo in the butt lol:

Whether it is techincally a "sphincter" or not, it is certainly true that some distance inside there is a second ring that presents a barrier of sorts. I have found that this barrier can indeed be passed so that the bottom is "fully" entered and so the top is "balls deep." What I have found works is for the top to gently apply pressure with his cock head against this second ring; with a bit of time and patience the ring slowly loosens and I have to tell you, for the bottom and for the top this loosening is an amazing feeling. Once past this, the cock glides almost effortlessly balls deep, and the feeling of the cock stretching this is indeed quite amazing.

So I say relax and take your time, and you'll get him past that and you'll be amazed. My take on the anatomical facts.

thanks bigD
relax is the key to success.
you are lucky to have a big dick that can feel the "2nd" muscle up there
mine is too short to make it on most guys
only if the guy is really short.skinny.small framed.flat assed, legs up missionary style. can i get in that deep,
and when i do, i turn green with envy from the feelings that you hung guys out there take for granted that you can feel with any bottom you choose.
lucky bastards!
 

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There is a lot of confusion about this, with inconsistent use of the word sphincter in old medical literature not helping the situation. A true sphincter is a ring of muscle. But, there are other structures that can feel something like going through a ring, even though they are not.

The true sphincter is around your asshole, to use the word that everyone understands. This is knows as the sphincter ani. However, this ring of muscle is really two rings of muscle, one inside the other, known and the internal and external sphincters. Some people have heard these two terms, but don't really understand what they are. So, when they feel a second ring-like obstruction a few inches in, they assume the asshole must be the "external sphincter" (first), and the thing they feel deeper must be the "internal sphincter" (second). But this is simply wrong. Both the external and internal sphincters are located right at your asshole, one surrounding the other. It's just double insurance that you don't leak.

So what's the thing that sometimes makes that nice popping feeling on your cockhead a few inches in? Sometimes it's the Puborectalis muscle. This is a sort of sling made of muscle that holds up the rectum where it joins to the anal canal (the chamber just inside the asshole). This muscle can also pinch off the junction between the rectum and the anal canal (basically by kinking it), although it isn't a true ring of muscle. Nevertheless, some old medical literature calls it the Sphincter recti. Ah! There's that word sphincter again, even thought it really isn't. And sometimes this is the thing that guys feel when they say they are popping the second sphincter. But, this is actually only a couple of inches inside. So, if you feel the pop very deep, it's something else. And, you may not feel the Puborectalis at all, according to the angle of penetration, it it is relaxed, if the bottom has his legs tucked squatting position, etc. In some guys, the Puborectalis can be quite difficult to get past- tougher to penetrate than the actual anal sphincter! In others, you don't feel it at all. And is some, it just feels so good...

Now you can understand why there is confusion about how many sphincters there are...

So what do guys feel deep inside? The rectum, just beyond the Puborectalis, is about 4 inches long. The junction of the rectum to the colon beyond is sort of folded, or doubled-back. If it's long enough to reach this deep, a cock may or may not pass this point, according to a lot of factors. If it doesn't, you may have the sensation of your cockhead bottoming out against something. (A feeling I rather like...) But, it might also slip thorough, with some resistance. And this is the point that guys are referring to when they say the are passing the "second sphincter" deep inside, but this one isn't any sort of sphincter at all, just a kink in the plumbing.

And now you can understand why some say the "second sphincter" is just two inches inside (the Puborectalis muscle) or about 5, 7, or more inches deep (the bend at the rectum-colon junction).

I'm guessing the original poster is having trouble with the bend. He might want to do some experiments with a dildo of similar size to his boyfriend to explore how to navigate around the bend, or if it is even possible. Or just experiment with your boyfriend. Try different positions- on the side, bent over, kneeling, etc. Try pressing it gently against the obstruction, and moving from sideways, i.e. like the top gyrating his hips as he presses his cock against the obstruction.
 
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thanks guys wow these are all EXCELLENT replies and i am re-reading a few times and looking at the anatomy charts to make sure i completely understand.

thanks so much.

given all you seem to know about the topic, the other question i asked about on a different thread was: if a doctor is looking up there during a routine colonoscopy, is it obvious to him you are having anal sex ?

as long as everything seems to be functioning properly, i would think probably not but perhaps with his scope and medical expertise he can see evidence along the lining of the intestines ?

i ask since i live in a very small town and there's virtually zero privacy, once the staff who handle records start gossiping, its hopeless. .........

thanks again and if i have any more questions, i know who to ask now !

aloha, abu
 

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I met this 23yo I am 50. He said he needed a tight ass to fuck so I offered. I have not been fucked in about 2 years so I was very very tight. He got naked and laid back and I went down on him. He had a huge cut cock. I keep a 7 inch ruler with me all the time and measured it. The tip went over the top of the ruler so he was at least 7 1/2 or 8 inches. He proceeded to turn me over, I spread my ass open for him to shove it in. He used spit to get me wet and then shoved it in all the way hard. It hurt but I loved the pain then he lost his erection. He pulled it out and slapped it on my ass a bit and kept shoveing it in until I loosened up a bit then he mounted me and fuck me hard for about 30 min. I noticed that it was burning as he fucked me and my legs were tingling. He kept saying it was so tight when he went deep and LOVED it. He finally shoved it to the hilt and shoot his load in me. I wanted it bareback too. He pulled out - I cleaned him off and left. I was just wondering if he hit my 2nd sphinter when he was fuking me. Could that have been the burning I felt. It almost sent me into orbit when he went all the way in. Once he started pounding me I was dizzy and feeling so good using my ass muscles to squeeze as he pulled out and open up as he pushed in. We were in a rhythm with my muscles and his pushing and pulling. He told me it was the best fuck he ever had and would be calling me again. He has a couple of friend too he want to bring next time to use me too. I hope so, I would LOVE to be used by some young men and get filled up real good. I LOVE being fucked and fucked hard. I can still feel it in me and remember the feeling. WOW.
 
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dear Craig, your post reads more like a porn novel than a thread post but it was excellent nonetheless ...... the only thing that strikes me as worrisome however is having unprotected bareback with a complete stranger..... uh oh... hope you are ok

as for your question about the so called "2nd sphincter", from what the prior thread posts indicate, there is much confusion and misleading terminology

i am no expert, but reading a few blogs the past day or so, plus the other posts on this thread, apparently the 1st and 2nd sphincter are very close to each other, within an inch or two from your actual asshole, i.e. "anus".

The so called "2nd sphincter" , when it is meant to imply the "brick wall" that is 6 or so inches deep, is really a misnomer, apparently its not a "sphincter" i.e. valve at all, but rather a sling of muscle outside the intestine that wraps around it like a sling to hold it in place, and when that sling is contracted it keeps shit in and above the anus, and when it relaxes, shit can flow down to the anus and out. Similarly, when it is contracted its nearly impossible for a dick to penetrate further up the intestine, however when its relaxed, the dick (or dildo or whtever) can proceed further.

This is apparently what we all feel when at the 6 inches deep zone. Its NOT a sphincter per se, but rather a "sling" which is a muscle that surrounds the intesting from the outside to hold it in place and also limit shit flow when contracted or allow shit flow when relaxed, and the same holds for dick insertion.

Hope this helps, and thanks for your post, aloha mate, abu
 

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ps Craig, how does a 50 year old pick up a 23 year old ???

that's gotta be a good story too........ are you a rich member at some luxury country club where the busboy is 23 and hot........

or you sat aside each other on a long airline trip and became horny chums......

or you were in an elevator at the same hotel.......

or he is the bartender at a work function and you grabbed his crotch when no one was looking........

or he was a paid escort,

or.. .........?

fill us in , i'm curious (unless its a fiction then please don't)

thanks bud, abu



I met this 23yo I am 50. He said he needed a tight ass to fuck so I offered. I have not been fucked in about 2 years so I was very very tight. He got naked and laid back and I went down on him. He had a huge cut cock. I keep a 7 inch ruler with me all the time and measured it. The tip went over the top of the ruler so he was at least 7 1/2 or 8 inches. He proceeded to turn me over, I spread my ass open for him to shove it in. He used spit to get me wet and then shoved it in all the way hard. It hurt but I loved the pain then he lost his erection. He pulled it out and slapped it on my ass a bit and kept shoveing it in until I loosened up a bit then he mounted me and fuck me hard for about 30 min. I noticed that it was burning as he fucked me and my legs were tingling. He kept saying it was so tight when he went deep and LOVED it. He finally shoved it to the hilt and shoot his load in me. I wanted it bareback too. He pulled out - I cleaned him off and left. I was just wondering if he hit my 2nd sphinter when he was fuking me. Could that have been the burning I felt. It almost sent me into orbit when he went all the way in. Once he started pounding me I was dizzy and feeling so good using my ass muscles to squeeze as he pulled out and open up as he pushed in. We were in a rhythm with my muscles and his pushing and pulling. He told me it was the best fuck he ever had and would be calling me again. He has a couple of friend too he want to bring next time to use me too. I hope so, I would LOVE to be used by some young men and get filled up real good. I LOVE being fucked and fucked hard. I can still feel it in me and remember the feeling. WOW.
 

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thanks guys wow these are all EXCELLENT replies and i am re-reading a few times and looking at the anatomy charts to make sure i completely understand.

thanks so much.

given all you seem to know about the topic, the other question i asked about on a different thread was: if a doctor is looking up there during a routine colonoscopy, is it obvious to him you are having anal sex ?

as long as everything seems to be functioning properly, i would think probably not but perhaps with his scope and medical expertise he can see evidence along the lining of the intestines ?

i ask since i live in a very small town and there's virtually zero privacy, once the staff who handle records start gossiping, its hopeless. .........

thanks again and if i have any more questions, i know who to ask now !

aloha, abu

this is my most favorite topic to share
the doctor can only guess at it.
but for me, it was very clear upfront
i told him i was gay and if he saw anything to let me know and to fix it right away.
needless to say he was not surprised at all.
they hear and see it all i guess
i asked how big the scope was and he showed it to me
i told i didnt need to be put to sleep for that.
he chuckled and said they'd put in the thing into my vein just incase i couldnt handle it. so the day came, i went in and the nurse came in to put me out
and i told her the doctor said i didnt need it, she asked if i had the procedure before, i said no, she said you sure? i said yes no problem for me
she then just added the needle into my vein like for an i.v. drip thing for just in case. so i got to the exam room on a gurney. and they started.
i asked if i could get a copy of the scoping cause it was on the tv monitor, they said no, they only record it for operations or something big.
but the doctor was great, he told the nurse to adjust the position of the gurney so i watch the monitor. and he proceeded to give me a step by step play on what was going on! just like Nova or the Science Channel.
when the scope got stuck at the traverse colon i helped by moving and wigging around so the intestine opened up as they pushed externally.
the doctor said that was the first time the patient helped them like that.
he went all the way down to the appendix then back out to take a tissue sample, and he showed me 2 or 3 spot where i had a small hemorrhoid.
he said see here. and showed me on the monitor, he said just make an appointment to come back and we'll take care of that.
so i did and that was just a bit painful due to the heat and cauterization process. but i was out in a flash no bleeding or anything after.
just a feeling like my butt was really worked over hard.
obviously the doctor assumed that taking in something was not going phase me or freak me out and me telling him i gay helped i guess.

if you have damage back there that is not the ordinary kind, they will assume you did it gay or not. or if like me you butt hole just opened up and/or everything is already straightened out they might be able to guess.

my doctor and nurse friend all tell us nameless stories of things like this.
so yes people do talk
but if in a small town people find out, it will be obvious that your confidentiality has been breached and a law suit will be in order.
if you are that worried, go to a bigger town for it.

without you knowing

2+2 is easy for most people.
over 30 and still not married
over 30 and still living with a "roommate"
over 30 and no serious dating or fiancee, not even ex-girlfriends
you get invites with "bring your friend"
please adjust the age to your local region's average

i am guessing you are over 40 for a routine colonoscopy
all the medical staff will know when you have to list your parent or
roommate as the emergency contact anyways.
everyone else has a wife or domestic partner

no escape , so dont stress on it
 

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hi martin, another great reply, thanks !

actually i have had a colonoscopy before, when in my early 20s and i had some acid reflux so they did it just to be comprehensive. as someone interestd in science i was fascinated by the whole thing and also asked if i could remain awake for it. i think you and i may be the ONLY lunatics on the planet who have made this reqeust.

from what i gather, everything looked fine, and it was very ho hum.

fast forward a few years, and i gotta have it again for the same reason, acid reflux. so its a routine check.

the difference is i had the procedure on the mainland then in some big anonymous hospital, and it was before i ever discoverd the anal activities i have recently been exposed to, in my now small town.

i am actually not so concerned about me as i am those who are close to me and would suffer some complications and as ridiculous as it sounds, even financial setbacks due to pending inheritances that would be jeapordized for some people based on stupid consequences. its always a complicated story, but trust me, it is much easier for certain people not to know. it complicates everything...... finances, property, relatives, offspring, much too much to explain here.


thus my simple interest to know if a doctor can ascertain with high confidence that an otherwise young healthy and non-suspect male is engaging in anal sex, due soley to his routine colonscopy conducted for routine reasons (i.e. acid reflux).


have had lots of replies stating emphatcially YES, and just as many stating NO and just as emphatically.

btw, someone else suggested flying elsewhere, the only issue is that the records are sent back to my main doc here in Hawaii, so it really doesn't help too much.......

anyway, not trying to make my problems your problems......... just an interesting topic with all kinds of tangents

so thanks for all your very insightful comments,

aloha abu
 

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hi guys,

- in other threads i have asked why my BF can not FULLY penetrate me (i.e. "balls deep" - he would very much like to do this).

- he is 7-8 inches in length, and he its a "wall" about 4-5 inches inside of me and can go no further.

- several replies indicated the problem is my "2nd sphincter" allegedly 5 inches inside of me, which apparently i must "relax" so he can go deeper

- others said the so called "2nd sphincter" location varies in different people, but regardless of how deep it is in me, i can not "relax" it into opening, so he can not go any further, its just the way it is.

- some web links indicate the "2nd sphincter" is only 2 inches inside, not 5

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question: can anyone (who is experienced in deep bottoming) PLEASE explain the anatomical FACTS to me, along with any suggestions. my BF and i are patient, intelligent and willing to take it slow and learn, however we are also horny as FUCK and like to FUCK HARD !!

aloha all, abu

I will say the second ring or sphincter whatever you want to call it is deeper like 5-7 inches in. Not a lot of tops can even hit it. Or penetrate it. If your lucky and your guy is hung practice with a dildo and make yourself relax and learn to take him balls deep. You'll never be the same lol. I've been with. A guy for 6 years that can't hit mine and i didn't know what I was missing until i messed around with a guy thats 9.5. Amazing!
 

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If you're relaxed enough and enjoying the sex, your ass will open up slowly to allow the top in. But a lot of men can't be bothered, but patience pays off.
 

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That's correct. No second sphincter but there is the equivalent of a second barrier, and getting past that can be awesome both for the top and the bottom. My cock feels like it's getting special treatment and so does my bottom. It doesn't happen easily unless you're experienced, but the payoff is unbelievable

there is no 2nd sphincter
there is a single muscle sling that holds up the intestine
it relaxes to let the shit go down into the colon and the sphincter relaxes to let the shit out of the anus. navigating past the Anismus - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
is the hard part as it is normally in the contracted state. (clenched shut or tightly pulled shut), see the picture in the link, is what everyone mistakes for a 2nd sphincter muscle. the "wall" you are hitting is the part of the colon that is up near the muscle. just like poking your tonsils at the back of your mouth. if you navigate correctly, you can go down into your throat. same here for the anismus, if you find the correct spot, you can force past the muscle and into the descending intestine. having the bottom relax or bear down like shitting, will relax the muscle and let the opening loosen up. (think gag reflex) once you are in past. you are home free. this muscle is the reason why tops love to fuck ass, cause it is the in and out action thru this inner muscle sling/opening that makes your cockhead feels like it is going in and out of a 2nd sphincter. think of very tight lips with no teeth behind it. and this muscle getting a "deep tissue" internal massage is what all bottoms crave. (getting at the itch that cant be scratched) this is why bottoms love a big long cock. there is no nerves up inside the ass, but the muscles there getting massaged by a good hard cock is heaven. muscles have nerves and that is what feels good when it is massaged. if your bottom is not relaxed enough , have him wiggle around till he finds his opening to let you in. just like a super tight asshole. let the bottom find the opening for you. no matter how much you push. you wont be able to go past the opening. you are just pushing and poking and stretching the colon walls and that poking against the muscle walls of the abdomen is what is hurting the bottom. (think of your own ass. then try forcing a baseball bat up into it. 1st you wont find the hole cause the blunt end is too big and the hole too small, then if you do find the hole, it wont open. easy to relate to right.
see diagram: F is internal and external sphincter= one big ring of muscle
you are hitting the wall at D, you need to go past A(the mistaken 2nd ring) this is the hardest part, to get into C. (the hardest part of going past A is what grips the cockhead to tightly and feels so good to the top. if you read the article. muscle A is so strong and tight that it can close off the intestine to the point of being watertight.
try stopping the blood flow to your hand and putting it to sleep by squeezing shut around your wrist with your strongest hand. almost impossible. use that same grip ans see if you can push it open with your cock. IMPOSSIBLE. that is why guys bleed when they get raped. the colon wall is usually punctured causing the bleeding and possible death by 1) bloodloss or 2) septic shock from blood poisoning from intestinal bacteria entering into the blood stream. ever get an "indian burn" when you were a kid? that is what is happening internally when you keep hitting the "wall"
 
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I recall my first really hung guy and how I felt that I let him down when he hit that "wall" and could go no deeper. I was a little scared, tense and dissatisfied. I also make a promise to myself that I'd learn how to take anything a human could possibly bring.

Learn to relax and as others have said it it soooooo worth it. I'm going to strongly recommend you get yourself a long but not too wide dildo and learn to take that at your own pace. Lots of lube, bent legs and slow, steady pressure as you exhale. Your body, once it's relaxed and starts to straighten out the bend entering your sigmoid, will almost draw the toy in and you'll feel something very special.

After learning the feeling of how your body responds, you'll have the confidence to then relax with your BF and it'll open up a hole new chapter in your lovemaking. (See what I did there? I'm too fucking witty for my own good sometimes)