Where is the desire??

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by D_Ed69s girl, Feb 16, 2008.

  1. D_Ed69s girl

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    Just recently I saw bedheadred's thread about peircing her hood. Thanks to my wonderful husband bringing it to my attention and I have to wonder could this help me too. Yes Ed69 has brought it this piercing up to me before but I dismissed it and now I really have to question my thinking back then.

    Okay before I get ahead of myself let me give you a little history. For several years now I have been struggling with no desire for sex. I have all the physical pleasures of sex but just no desire to respond to or pursue it. It is so fustrating because how does your husband pursue you when you show no interest. You got to admit it is a huge turn off when you are horny as hell and the person you want is a dead fish. But for me, I like sex just no drive to go for it, at least not without a schedule for myself to do it. I mean really in the morning I tell my husband good bye and go to work then I send reminders to myself to give him a bj when I get home. Now this doesn't always work because if I have had a really bad day at work or not feeling good. The plan gets toss and next thing you know I am going off to work again telling myself I am going to do it tonite. Talk about being absolutely fustration. And that is my side of the story think about what poor Ed69 is going thru.

    Now understand I have researched this problem to death.
    NO I AM NOT DEPRESSED but I am getting there the longer this problem exist.
    YES I get plenty of sleep because I don't crave sex.
    NO My stress level has never increased. Well no I am getting stress about not craving sex.

    I am currently going thru a research study for this very problem. The problem being is if this drug works what do you when the study is over and the drug isn't available for another say two years. I am sorry but I am not putting all my eggs are in one basket.

    So this coming wednesday I will be getting my hood pierced. And no I am not expecting it to fix the problem. I am doing it because it has proven to help others and has been around for a very long time. I have already talked to a couple of people who know of someone who has done it and loves it. I am also looking into a few herbal helpers too.

    If anyone has any further info on this problem of no desire please I would love your input. it does not matter if it is here on the thread or PM.
    THANKS FOR READING.
    LISA
     
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    I don't know at the moment what might help with an increase in desire, but the hood piercing will help you. It's helped me and I'm always eager to tell people about it and how good it feels. I'm proud of you for going through the minor pain of the piercing for some interesting pleasure.
     
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    Thanks I don't figure it will solve my problem and so it is going to hurt a little. The way I look out it I don't got nothing to loose but a little time and money. The reward could be great and from what I am reading on bedheadred threads and your response they are worth the pain.
     
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    It's a minimal pain, it feels like a little shock, then the pain is all over. I threw my leg up in response to the shock feeling, but it was more because I can't submit to needles on my back.. so it was a pure panic thing.. I scraped my leg and I have a huge scar from a metal bolt or something that was on the chair. Anyways I got into my car after paying.. and the only thing I felt was the sting of that scrape.
     
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    I don't have problem with needles as long as I don't see them. but I have scrap myself like that before and yeah those kind of injuries are worse than actually cutting yourself.
     
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    Most anti-depressants actually lower your sex drive as a side effect. So, if it's depression... That's yet another blow to the old labido.

    Try:
    some role playing
    sexy langerie
    changing up your sex routines drastically
    sex in 'public'
    watch porn, maybe it will get you to that point
    bring in a third partner (animals, hamsters, men, women, horses, whatever does it for you, lol)
    toys
    massages (special oils and incense(sp?))


    >_> <_<
     
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    I guess this little man does not understand what being put on ignore means.
     
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    I know - he wags his finger at you (to put it mildly) in one thread and then comes in here and gives you frankly cheesy advice on spicing up your sex life - Reading that post I'm starting to wonder if he isn't a virgin anyway...
     
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    Don't really care who ignores what- I'll reply and if ya wanna ignore, ignore.

    Don't blame me for trying to help you get laid. (and notice that you AREN'T 15 ;) :D)
     
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    Haha, well, cheesy is what I do best.
     
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    Do I dare, I mean he made me so mad that I really don't care to see what Straightcock has to say. Frankly I am shocked that he even put comments on this thread.

    Straightcock You are ignored still, I really don't care what you have to say. Ed69 can see what you say and CHECK OUT MY IGNORE FILE IT HAS YOUR NAME IN IT, SO NONE OF YOUR POST SHOW UP ON MY SCREEN.
     
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    Yes my love I know you love me to ends of the Earth. And I am coming so be ready when I get my desire back. Tomorrow is the day of the piercing and a new turn in my getting my desire back.
    I don't know how much it will come back but it is worth a shot.
     
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    Fortunately you don't have eyes down there.:tongue: Seriously though, I wish you well when you go for your piercing and that it enhances intimacy with your husband.


    I have to say I was more than a little shocked to read your initial post because you and Ed69 seem to be one of those rare couples with evenly matched sex drives. I have never once heard him say that your sex life was anything but pleasurable nor have I heard him say that you turned him down or had a headache. As I'm sure you are aware he usually makes you sound a bit oversexed. :wink::biggrin1: Who knows with this piercing you might surpass him in sex drive. :cool:

    It just goes to show you never know what goes on behind closed doors. :rolleyes:

     
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    Good luck on the piercing!

    I have a female friend from the nudist club that was telling me about her clit hood piercing. She says she can put on a tight pair of jeans and walk around and be wet all day. And something about there are different ways she can change hers up.....different jewlry pieces.....like a little ball that hangs down and looks really pretty when she is nude sunbathing.

    She told me she wasn't supposed to but she was able to have sex with hers on the first day. I have no idea whether hers was vertical or horizontal though.

    Let us know how it goes!
     
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    thank you NJ and Kad you will have to look for a future thread on how the peircing is. Cause Yeah I got it yesterday and what an experience.
     
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    I cant wait to hear about it. Mine is doing really well roughly 10 days out. I've had sex many times and have masturbated to orgasm two different times. I had about a half dozen orgasms each time. It was very intense!

    Hang in there girl, the first 3 days are awful. I'd say the first evening was the worst with the bleeding. By the next morning i wasnt bleeding at all and had a hell of a time wearing anything contricting. Now i dont even remember its there until i go to the bathroom.

    It does get better i promise!
     
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    Yep I totally agree last night was a bitch, I had to cold pack most of the night, bleeding wasn't bad though. but if you read my other thread you see what I did. Glad to hear your having fun. ORGASM aren't they the greatest.
     
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    I think I have a new idea as to why your desire has been lessened my dear.

    I find that when I am not active for a few weeks (running/playing/jogging), enough to get my heart rate up for a decent workout, which causes the pleasure center of the brain to be more active and pain to be lessened, my sexual drive decreases dramatically.

    This could be a simple fix- weekly 'sex fitness' jogs or something? Normally I just play some racquetball and get a nice sweat and I'm good to go.
     
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