Javierdude22:
You are certainly right that this is a cultural thing and varies from society to society (or even in different cities).
When in Europe, I see straight people having "sex" openly in parks and other public places -- heavy kissing, groping, fondling, etc -- behaviors that are more extreme that someone from most of the US would be accustomed to. I've never been to Holland, but I've certainly heard that there is no shortage of places for straight people to go that might be considered 'extreme'. I am skeptical that these behaviors you describe are isolated to 'gays'. I suspect you and others simply overlook it when straight people do similar things.
But if that is indeed a cultural thing, than I still do not have an explanation as to why so many gay men act 'average', so to speak, around a mixture of str8, bi, or gay men (a.k.a. society), and start flaming when they are in a purely gay surrounding. It is not because they feel threatened physically, or careerwise, for they do it in Amsterdam, SF, NY as well.
I'm Bi
Not all gay men act feminine. Not all straight men act masculine. (however a culture defines 'masculine' or 'femine')
I know, i have mentioned that somewhere already. But a very large and majority part does act feminine. And of course not all str8 men ct masculine in a by society desired way, but that is mostly confined to emotional reactions (how to react when your girl gets harassed, if you are in a panic situation etc.) or hobbies (opera, art etc.). But I'm not referring to that, im talking about simple -actions-.
I beg to differ. Before a person comes out, they repress their sexuality. Some may repress it more than others, but all do. Coming out is the process of coming to terms with your gay/lesbian/bi/trans nature.
Sexuality merely means 'that you like a certain sex', and this is the jit of the iscussion, i dont believe there is a nature to it. It certainly has evolved like this, but i dont believe there is more to it than you liking the same sex. Sex choice, means that you express a preference. I have several preferences, I also have the preference to eat oriental food over Dutch cooked vegetabl. But I do not attribute a change of actions to it. I do not relate my preference for oriental food with the simplest actions I do during a day. Sure, sex choices receive society's judgement, food choice doesnt. But that still does not explain the link to change an array of everyday actions for it.
How many posts have we seen here where a well-hung guy is propositioned inappropriately by a women, or made to feel like a sex object simply because he has a big dick? Boorish behavior is not isolated to gay people, nor is it isolated to straight people. You should be irritated because the guy is a creep, not because he is gay or in your opinion acts feminine.
You are absolutely right on the last point, he is a creep not because he is gay, but for simple character traits.
But on the proposition thing. Subtlty (is that how you spell it? :-/) is the key word again. 93% of westrn population is straight. 7% is gay, of which 5% pretty obviously gay (not scientifical, but a mere assessment). That would give you a pretty good idea of who likes who. Couldnt some people be subtle enough to not make seriously rude comments? Sure, girls do it too, and guys do it towards girl too. But I can honestly tell you that the frequency, and the severity of the insults or rudeness are way greater, than the ones from straight people. And that on a 7% population.
I also will not discuss how often it hits the news in Holland about older guys raping or abusing younger, or adolescent guys. How every park in Holland has nightly visitors leving behind condoms, gangbanging in parks where the next day children come and play. It can be mentioned that straight people do the same. But I am sorry, in Holland it is not anywhere near as severe. Or at least it happens inside the homes. We do not have biased newsreports here. And considering again the percentage of people that are gay (let's say 7%) and the frequency of sexual crimes, than it becomes shamefull.
And again, I am not at all saying that every gay person is like this, or whatever. I'm saying there is a large population within the gay community that does not have any moral values, respect for other people or tact.