SORRY in advance…but the fags drive me crazy. Ive always felt like an outsider in the gay culture. Hedonism and superficiality come with a price. It's progressively worsened in my opinion.
I've used all cruising and dating sites mentioned… and its "gay" identified men who are the flakes, liars, and rude encounters. The str8/bi identified guys are the most respectful -- even THANKFUL after in hookup.
The gay culture and lifestyle has shaped our most wounded & rejected males into bitches who show no respect to each other. The gays who LOOK THE BEST are also the first to throw shade, disrespect, agism, and embody the superficial values that bring it down..
In the last 7 years, Ive written off anyone living in gay cultural as too much potential for trouble for my life.
In those years, I also committed to being honest and vulnerable with my feelings and emotions with men in my life. THAT is the kind of life I want, so I work towards spreading that energy.
Men are raised to hide their vulnerability: so I assume the role of being the first to offer friendship, open the doors, make invitations. I respect the announced boundaries of sexuality or relationship status….
BUT will tell a guy he looks good, or make suggests of him as to su boyfriend....and they usually embrace the lighthearted (but hinting) humor.
If something "non platonic" occurs between (and it does)… I wait it out for them to make the move. Usually it begins with them offering a tender confession like "hey! you wanna give me blow job?". Sometimes thats how you take the edge off sexual tension. You joke about what ever man loves.
I've never been an Eye-Contact cruiser. It'a too invasive. I understand the communication and power of eye contact. If I want to indirectly invite them over To Do The Sex With Me… I use words like… be discreet, anonymously sneak off, or find some privacy.