where to find other dudes?

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Seems like most guys aren't looking for other guys on the internet so much anymore. Has all the action moved to smartphone apps like grindr and other gay apps? What is the new trend on this? Any good websites to meet other "young" guys?
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I'm curious myself... Been trying to find someone local to play with occasionally and It appears my chances of winning the lottery would have been better. In my experience, just when you think you have something setup they flake or no-show. VERY frustrating!
 

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Grindr or scruff are the better aps for meeting guys. Although they have reputations as hook up aps, ive met a couple of guys who have become friends for grindr as well as a fuckbuddy.
 

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Used grindr for a week and found it trite and useless. CL and a4a are a toss-up. Mostly gay dudes on a4a, in my experience...which can be a turn off for me. Needless to say, it's been pretty dry for me.
 

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SORRY in advance…but the fags drive me crazy. Ive always felt like an outsider in the gay culture. Hedonism and superficiality come with a price. It's progressively worsened in my opinion.

I've used all cruising and dating sites mentioned… and its "gay" identified men who are the flakes, liars, and rude encounters. The str8/bi identified guys are the most respectful -- even THANKFUL after in hookup.


The gay culture and lifestyle has shaped our most wounded & rejected males into bitches who show no respect to each other. The gays who LOOK THE BEST are also the first to throw shade, disrespect, agism, and embody the superficial values that bring it down..


In the last 7 years, Ive written off anyone living in gay cultural as too much potential for trouble for my life.

In those years, I also committed to being honest and vulnerable with my feelings and emotions with men in my life. THAT is the kind of life I want, so I work towards spreading that energy.


Men are raised to hide their vulnerability: so I assume the role of being the first to offer friendship, open the doors, make invitations. I respect the announced boundaries of sexuality or relationship status….


BUT will tell a guy he looks good, or make suggests of him as to su boyfriend....and they usually embrace the lighthearted (but hinting) humor.

If something "non platonic" occurs between (and it does)… I wait it out for them to make the move. Usually it begins with them offering a tender confession like "hey! you wanna give me blow job?". Sometimes thats how you take the edge off sexual tension. You joke about what ever man loves.


I've never been an Eye-Contact cruiser. It'a too invasive. I understand the communication and power of eye contact. If I want to indirectly invite them over To Do The Sex With Me… I use words like… be discreet, anonymously sneak off, or find some privacy.
 

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I've been trying gaydar, plenty of fish, manhunt and fitlads. I've several offers to meet. but every time the guys chicken out and never set up a date. Online dating just seems to be full of flakes / ungenuine guys.

Even a couple of self advertised 'genuine' guys were the same, online dating sites are useless, I dont even know why such guys bother making a profile on them in the first place.
 

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This is an interesting discussion. I've had some email conversations with guys who would trade maybe 2 or 3 emails with me then disappear. I always assumed it was because I was upfront with them about being only curious, and unsure of how far I want to pursue things, wanting to go slowly, etc. I figured they were looking for a quick score and when it turned out I wasn't it, they moved on. But I guess maybe some of them were just flaky.
 

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I am having a hard time finding partners to play with too. Lots of fakes and just some like doing endless emails! I have tried a variety of the groups mention with no success and CL is just full of fakes. Though I have had some success on CL too. I use to have some regulars locally, but both have moved due to job relocation. I miss doing the regular fun thing!