Wheres my libido, and will my dick shrink?

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by B_New End, Oct 2, 2007.

  1. B_New End

    B_New End New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 22, 2007
    Messages:
    3,029
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    WA
    I have not even masturbated for over a month now... and I don't even care.

    I believe jelqing to be effective, the idea seems to have merit, but now I have some anxiety.... If I don't keep my equipment operating regularly, I am starting to get afraid it will shrink... use it or lose it kind of thing. It don't matter to me now, but say I actually wanted to use it in the future.

    But I have no desire to jerk off. I think real life sex has killed that.... most my fantasies have been fulfilled... porn does nothing for me, and I can't even fantasize if I try. I have many chances with a hot girl... and I just don't care... she just annoys me.

    I don't want a girlfriend (OR boyfriend). I rememebr when I used to think masturbating was bad, I couldn't go 10 days without doing it, (that was my record, I usually failed after 2). Now I have run into nothing that makes me think... "oooh". No porn will do it... nothing.


    New End's libido..... R.I.P.
     
    simcha likes this.
  2. viking1

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 2, 2006
    Messages:
    4,706
    Likes Received:
    5
    Then send her over my way. I'm still horny...

    Seriously, this doesn't sound good. Maybe you should see a doctor.
     
    B_New End likes this.
  3. SpoiledPrincess

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 28, 2006
    Messages:
    8,167
    Likes Received:
    29
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    england
    It'll come back, we all have periods of time when our libido takes a rest. Libido is very much dependent on how you're feeling about other things in your life.
     
    B_New End likes this.
  4. Sixofspades

    Sixofspades New Member

    Joined:
    Sep 28, 2007
    Messages:
    411
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Boston, MA
    I know how you feel, bro. Whenever I'm involved with a girl it's just a matter of time before I lose interest. She'll be lying next to me in bed, feeling me up, and I'll just want to roll over and go to sleep. I also have periods like you, where I can't get motivated to even masturbate. It's like things just die off for some reason. But the libido will always come back eventually. It's not a case of use it or lose it, just of going through ups and downs. You'll regain your hormones, you just have to wait it out and in the meantime try to find new sensations and fantasies to get your testosterone going again. Don't beat yourself up about it though, it happens to every single guy at some point.
     
  5. viking1

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 2, 2006
    Messages:
    4,706
    Likes Received:
    5
    You guys make me so jealous. You've got women "feeling you up" and you're not even interested. I'm dripping with horniness, and can't get a woman to feel me up if I paid her too. Damn! It just ain't fair...:mad:
     
  6. simcha

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jul 16, 2007
    Messages:
    2,242
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Over The Rainbow
    Dude, do you have any stress in your life? Stress can be a real mood killer.

    There really is no problem here unless there's some unknown health issue or emotional issue going on here.

    You're 30 and not 16 anymore. The hormones for we men aren't bubbling as much at 30 as when they were at 16 when most of us are jerking off 5 times per day. Also, when you're 16 there's usually less stress and less complications to life so you have more time to focus on sex.

    I have chilled out some at 37 and I greatly appreciate it. Sex is not the all-consuming force it used to be. I get quality now where I had vast amounts of quantity in the past. I still get enough, mind you. I'm just no longer like a starving wolf when it comes to sex. I can take my time and choose partners more wisely. I don't go for the ones who are just cute even if they are annoying, like in your post you say you find her hot but she's annoying. I think it's called maturity when you realize that having sex with someone you find annoying isn't something desirable.

    And no, your dick will not shrink for lack of use. LOL! It's just not going to happen. You're huge dude, and you'll always be huge. Gravity will make things hang lower and lower as you get older when you are not aroused. So, you may look bigger as you age when soft?

    Anyway, barring any issues around health, stress, or emotional problems this quite normal. Not everyone keeps their high libido all throughout life. Some guys are just as horny at 65 as some of the 16 year olds. Most of us aren't.
     
    B_New End likes this.
  7. simcha

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jul 16, 2007
    Messages:
    2,242
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Over The Rainbow
    Oh, and if this is just the way it is and it's normal, like I think it is, your libido will return quite naturally. Sometimes it comes back stronger than ever!
     
  8. viking1

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 2, 2006
    Messages:
    4,706
    Likes Received:
    5
    I may be one of them. I couldn't tell any difference from 16 to 30. I can only tell much now at 46 within the last year. I think stress and my back problems have caused that...
     
  9. B_New End

    B_New End New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 22, 2007
    Messages:
    3,029
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    WA
    I think it's the opposite, actually. My whole life I have been really tense, and concerned about the future, and unhappy in my own skin, and sex was an escape, (a pleasurable one).

    But now, I am very happy with my life... when I used to think contentment was the highest I would ever reach. So now sex, while it would be nice, has taken a back seat to other goals, and dreams, and thoughts.

    I am at the point right now, where I forgot what an orgasm feels like. Were I to suddenly have someone meaningful to have sex with.... I am sure my libido would return, but for now... meh.

    It's not a huge problem, of course, because i am not missing something. I am concerned abotu shrinkage, however, because I will never forget how it felt to be in desperate want, and would rather not be smaller when the opportunity arises.

    thanks for the compliment, BTW, but I feel I am "above average" not "huge" :p
     
  10. antonio

    antonio Member

    Joined:
    Aug 10, 2005
    Messages:
    119
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    California
    I have come to believe these things are more chemical (and less emotional) than we used to think.

    My advice: try changing how you do everything for a week. Don't eat what you normally eat. Try eating salad. Or if you eat salad all the time, switch to grilled chicken. And avoid estrogenic foods for a little while (don't eat soy or green tea). Take zinc, lecithin, folic acid and magnesium supplements every day for at least two weeks. Don't use any soap or body lotion with lavender (its also estrogenic). And get more sleep.

    Let us know how things turn out!
     
Draft saved Draft deleted