Which is worse?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Principessa, Jul 28, 2007.

  1. Principessa

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    Which is worse: liking a person then finding out you are sexually incompatible; or having great sex, wanting more of a relationship then finding out the other person is a jerk?
     
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    The later.
     
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    The latter
     
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    The former
     
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    I'm not sure the first one is a problem
    If you like eachother, you make it happen

    The second one deffinitely is a problem
    but it's not necesarily all that bad
    you had a good time - and now
    you have a better idea of what you are looking for
    Maybe even, next time you might
    figure out if you like the person before sleeping with them???
     
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    the latter
     
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    The 2nd one sounds like the majority of relationships in this country. I'll take the first since I've been in that predicament.
     
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    I live the first and love her, I have not experienced the latter.
     
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    It's a tie.

    Having one night of great sex (FUN) with a person you find out is a jerk is fun.

    The best sex I ever had was a one night stand.

    Liking (not loving) a person and you find no sexual compatibility is not fun.

    But loving a person and finding out you are incompatible is worse, and you may be able to get around it, if the love is mutual.
     
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    the 1st one is worse... at least with the second option you could still be having hot sex with a jerk if you are both into that... until you find the right partner. Am I shallow or what.... ha.
     
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    The Latter Because It Hurts Worse.
     
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    (a)liking a person and finding out that you are sexually incomptaible is worse....(b)if you are good fuck buddies with a person and find out this person is a jerk...then reconcile yourself to being just fuck buddies..the hell with a relationship...good sex is ....good sex....
     
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    lol why did I read that as KILLING a person...I'm still drunk from last night that's why :tongue:

    See I have been on both sides of this situation. Good sex is better than bad sex. But good sex packaged with a load of drama and bullshit is a bit of a cop out. I'd actually choose good sex and them being a jerk. Because I can deal with that, and the hot sex would make it all worthwhile. If I was getting enough of it :wink:
     
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    You are such a stereotypical badboy! You aren't the only one that chose option 2, but you are the only that worded your reasoning so...eloquently.

     
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    In a relationship, the latter. If you can admit you're sexually incompatible, you're probably mature enough to stay friends despite your differences. If he's an asshole nothing can be saved.
     
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    My first reaction was that the former is worse, further thought changes it to the latter.
    If I liked someone enough to want a relationship with them, I'd be pretty devestated to find out they weren't all that I hoped - to me that's worse than any sexual shortcomings.
     
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    I've never actually had sex with someone without establishing the emotional connection first, so I guess my answer is self evident.
     
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