White men seeking asian women

[Strontium]

Thank you, Petite, for your comments.

Just a thought. Before you guys go chasing Asian women, just remember they may want youthful looks in their partner too.

Gong Li. OMG!!!
Could you believe this woman is 44 years of age. Do these women not age?
Fuck me, I am so going Asian.

My grand aunty at age 65 looked as old as the average White woman in her 30's.

Put it down to genes, lifestyle, culture and diet. Actually, its mainly genes, since my mum had the same amazing youthfulness despite having lived a western lifestyle. (Minus the KFC, and no idiotic sitting in the sun, trying to get a tan). And I have several male Asian friends who in their late 60's have aged no more than most White guys in their 30's.

 

[Wish-4-8]

Just a thought. Before you guys go chasing Asian women, just remember they may want youthful looks in their partner too.

Oh, I got that department covered. Most people think I look younger than I am. Plus working out and eating right, including suppliments probably helps too. :smile:

 

[hud01]

As an Asian woman who primarily dates Caucasian men (I was born in America and grew up in a predominantly white area, so I only look Asian), can I take a moment to make a suggestion that may help you avoid the first mistake white guys make when they try to date an Asian woman?

I know this is the internet and people say things online they wouldn't say IRL, but if you want to date an Asian woman IRL and have her continue to date you, may I make a few suggestions based upon idiotic behavior that has been displayed toward me?

1. Don't use the phrase "yellow fever" within earshot. It reduces her from an individual you want to date to just a member of a race that you're interested in, and that's not complimentary. She doesn't want to feel like she's interchangeable with any other Asian woman any more than you want to feel like you're interchangeable with anyone who has a penis.

2. Likewise, do not under any circumstance make a joke about Woody Allen, John Lennon, or ever utter the phrase "Love me long time," etc. I think you get the point. Everyone thinks they're soooo original with the white-guy/Asian-woman jokes, but she's been an Asian woman her whole life, so the bad jokes about Asian women's sexuality began the moment she started puberty and by the time you've met her, these jokes sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, because they're not only insulting, she's also grown to dread them.

3. Now it's been my experience that the men I've dated aren't actually the ones who committed #1 and #2, it's their friends, and an awful lot of these insults masquerading as "jokes" actually come out of the mouths of the non-Asian female friends of the men I've dated, who have jumped to incredibly unflattering assumptions about both me and the man I'm dating and feel no qualms with speaking up by saying something totally racist. So this is the critical part, you need to properly react if one of your friends/co-workers/relatives does #1 or #2.

You want to learn how to DT your bf's huge dick and you are Asian.....Damn I may be in love :You_Rock_Emoticon:

I live in the north. So I will make a inflamatory comment and say that those type of comments sound redneck to me...:joke:None of my friends which include a Korean, a Thai, a Vietnamese, among the many races would ever think of saying things like that. As a matter of fact, we'd have a good sized UN meeting if they all were at one party.
Edit: I forgot the Phillipino and the Malay

yes my gf is Asian too.....

 

[petite]

You want to learn how to DT your bf's huge dick and you are Asian.....Damn I may be in love :You_Rock_Emoticon:

Aw, shucks. You're going to make me blush! When you're dating someone, don't you feel compelled to out-do anyone they dated before you? You don't want them to wish they were in bed with an ex instead of you, right?

I live in the north. So I will make a inflamatory comment and say that those type of comments sound redneck to me...:joke:None of my friends which include a Korean, a Thai, a Vietnamese, among the many races would ever think of saying things like that. As a matter of fact, we'd have a good sized UN meeting if they all were at one party.

yes my gf is Asian too.....

Since most comments are usually made by female friends, I have always assumed that the motivation to make an unfunny insulting "joke" was actually jealousy and not ignorant racism. The subtext I've always heard was, "I wanted to date him! Dammit! I hate you!" Although there have been cases where someone just has a friend who is a dumbass.

 

[hud01]

Aw, shucks. You're going to make me blush! When you're dating someone, don't you feel compelled to out-do anyone they dated before you? You don't want them to wish they were in bed with an ex instead of you, right?

You know with your attitude I wouldn't worry too much. I bet you give it your all every time. Every lover has different skills and does somethings better and some not as good.

The last thing to remember is the first two letters ex. If the ex was that good and it was that important to him those two letters wouldn't be in front of her name.

Since most comments are usually made by female friends, I have always assumed that the motivation to make an unfunny insulting "joke" was actually jealousy and not ignorant racism. The subtext I've always heard was, "I wanted to date him! Dammit! I hate you!" Although there have been cases where someone just has a friend who is a dumbass.

Yes, women can be very catty when it comes to other women being with a man they want. Men will go off and grumble to their friends, women will actually make comments straight to the girl they don't like

 

[Strontium]

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3. Now it's been my experience that the men I've dated aren't actually the ones who committed #1 and #2, it's their friends, and an awful lot of these insults masquerading as "jokes" actually come out of the mouths of the non-Asian female friends of the men I've dated, who have jumped to incredibly unflattering assumptions about both me and the man I'm dating and feel no qualms with speaking up by saying something totally racist. So this is the critical part, you need to properly react if one of your friends/co-workers/relatives does #1 or #2.

Petite, you're probably the delightful target of discerning American men who have been attracted to the particularly feminine grace that many Asian women possess, so don't stoop to the level of the women that insulted you, just enjoy the company of the men that passed them up for you.

My last ex (an astoundingly spunky Asian girl) handled this with remarkable tact.

 

[petite]

You know with your attitude I wouldn't worry too much. I bet you give it your all every time. Every lover has different skills and does somethings better and some not as good.

I try my best, but I know that he's been with wilder women (who could handle his dimensions better than me) that he didn't take seriously. I'm the type of woman that men date when they're looking for a serious relationship, which you probably can't tell from my openness here on this forum, but I'm not a person who discusses all of this stuff with anyone except Boyfriend when I'm off-line. I'm actually quite ignorant about a lot of this stuff and the past 36 hours have been a crash course education for me.

Petite, you're probably the delightful target of discerning American men who have been attracted to the particularly feminine grace that many Asian women possess, so don't stoop to the level of the women that insulted you, just enjoy the company of the men that passed them up for you.

My last ex (an astoundingly spunky Asian girl) handled this with remarkable tact.

I'm always a lady, I assure you!

But I have been turned off by how the men I've dated have handled such a situation, and considering how many times it's happened, I thought I'd bring it up as a helpful suggestion!

 

[hud01]

I try my best, but I know that he's been with wilder women (who could handle his dimensions better than me) that he didn't take seriously. I'm the type of woman that men date when they're looking for a serious relationship, which you probably can't tell from my openness here on this forum, but I'm not a person who discusses all of this stuff with anyone except Boyfriend when I'm off-line. I'm actually quite ignorant about a lot of this stuff and the past 36 hours have been a crash course education for me.

Good to see you are so open. Don't worry about the others. He is with you now and probably for many good reasons. You can read many posts here where guys write about how it took their wives a very long time to be able to handle their large guys, but the guys still stuck with them and....ended up marrying them.

Could say it is better than the other end where you couldn't feel him......

I'm always a lady, I assure you!

But I have been turned off by how the men I've dated have handled such a situation, and considering how many times it's happened, I thought I'd bring it up as a helpful suggestion!

It is a no win for your bf to get into it with the woman who insulted you. Odds are she'll turn on him, then his friend has to get involved. Could ruin a friendship, or start a fight. I think you are doing it right.

 

[petite]

Good to see you are so open. Don't worry about the others. He is with you now and probably for many good reasons. You can read many posts here where guys write about how it took their wives a very long time to be able to handle their large guys, but the guys still stuck with them and....ended up marrying them.

Could say it is better than the other end where you couldn't feel him......

Yeah, I'd marry him. :smile:

I've only had sex with one guy who was too small that I couldn't feel him, and he gave lots and lots of really great head. Lots and lots of it, so I really don't consider him to be unsuccessful in bed with me. He was actually much better in bed than a lot of men who had larger penises. Seriously. Some guys compensate by acting macho, he learned to have a talented tongue. I approve of that!

It is a no win for your bf to get into it with the woman who insulted you. Odds are she'll turn on him, then his friend has to get involved. Could ruin a friendship, or start a fight. I think you are doing it right.

I don't expect a man to tell someone off or pick a fight, but the right disapproving look on his face that lets her know he disapproves would be a right move, it would do it for me. A look of shock and disbelief while shaking your head, that works. Saying, "I can't believe you just said that" is also good. Or, saying to her, "I'm so sorry. He's an idiot." Looking extremely embarrassed is also appropriate, and may even win you some sympathy, so that's a definite way to turn it around to your advantage. Not reacting at all is bad. The worst reaction is laughter.

 

[hud01]

I don't expect a man to tell someone off or pick a fight, but the right disapproving look on his face that lets her know he disapproves would be a right move, it would do it for me. A look of shock and disbelief while shaking your head, that works. Saying, "I can't believe you just said that" is also good. Or, saying to her, "I'm so sorry. He's an idiot." Looking extremely embarrassed is also appropriate, and may even win you some sympathy, so that's a definite way to turn it around to your advantage. Not reacting at all is bad. The worst reaction is laughter.

I get that, but I bet most of these women are so stupid and full of themselves that anything short of a 2x4 wouldn't get through their thick skulls.

Also, a little honey, this is really insulting to me talk might help.

 

[wseattle]

What is the deal with Western men's erotic obsession with the East?

They are sexy and treat men well pretty simple.. And its not like women arent attracted to other races and cultures.

 

[petite]

I get that, but I bet most of these women are so stupid and full of themselves that anything short of a 2x4 wouldn't get through their thick skulls.

It doesn't matter if the insulter doesn't "hear" you because they're dense or dumb, your date will notice how you've reacted and that's what matters. That's the moment that will either win you points and impress her or you might lose her.

Also, a little honey, this is really insulting to me talk might help.

It definitely would, and would win you serious points, but won't work in all situations.

 

[Wish-4-8]

To petite:
You'd be surprised how easier it is to open up in an annonymous forum. And from that, you learn a lot about stuff and about yourself. I defintely have benifited from this site. So please, be open. We dont know who you are so speak freely. Sometimes its better that way.

Oh, and welcome to the site.

 

[petite]

To petite:
You'd be surprised how easier it is to open up in an annonymous forum. And from that, you learn a lot about stuff and about yourself. I defintely have benifited from this site. So please, be open. We dont know who you are so speak freely. Sometimes its better that way.

Yeah, I have to admit, I'm totally shocked by how much I've told. It's like the freedom just opened up a floodgate.

Oh, and welcome to the site.

Thank you! :smile:

 

[Strontium]

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My last ex (an astoundingly spunky Asian girl) handled this with remarkable tact.

She had an allure that could literally pull men from hundreds of yards away.

One time, we had finished a rafting trip in Northern Thailand, and we were chilling on the riverside where the river passed through a small city. She got out of the car and walked to the river bank, where three teams of Dragonboat racers were training (that's 150 testosterone-charged young men). They saw her from a 300 yards away, and rowed over to her, disobeying their captains in the process. There was a lot of banter between her and them, till I finished at the car and joined her, and made it clear SHE WAS WITH ME.


Hot women are high maintenance...


Pic of one of the teams in departure:

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[petite]

She had an allure that could literally pull men from hundreds of yards away.

One time, we had finished a rafting trip in Northern Thailand, and we were chilling on the riverside where the river passed through a small city. She got out of the car and walked to the river bank, where three teams of Dragonboat racers were training (that's 150 testosterone-charged young men). They saw her from a 300 yards away, and rowed over to her, disobeying their captains in the process. There was a lot of banter between her and them, till I finished at the car and joined her, and made it clear SHE WAS WITH ME.


Hot women are high maintenance...


Pic of one of the teams in departure:

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That's a great story! She must have been really hot!

I never thought that "high maintenance" meant that she attracted attention from other men. I always thought that meant that she demands lots of attention and worship from her boyfriend.

 

[Zayne]

Who is this an issue for?
If a White man doesn't like Asian women, then he doesn't date one.
If an Asian woman doesn't like White men, then she doesn't date one.
If anyone has an issue with it, then it must be a personal issue.

 

[hud01]

That's a great story! She must have been really hot!

I never thought that "high maintenance" meant that she attracted attention from other men. I always thought that meant that she demands lots of attention and worship from her boyfriend.

That is exactly what it means. She demands time, attention and pampering. And if you do it, this is what is expected, no thank you's, if you don't........

 

[hud01]

Who is this an issue for?
If a White man doesn't like Asian women, then he doesn't date one.
If an Asian woman doesn't like White men, then she doesn't date one.
If anyone has an issue with it, then it must be a personal issue.

Ok you have this backwards. The original question was why do white men want Asian women, not why don't they date. Most of the men posting here love Asian women.

 

[Truck]

they have such tight cute bodies.