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I made an informed and carefully researched decision, and for the past 5 years I am a barebacker. That said, I have in place my own "protocol" on what is accepted or not.
I am Neg and I have had two boyfriends who are Undetectable. No cum inside me. I trusted them and they respected it. It is about that sexual cumplicity, trust, respect with a partner, and that touch skin on skin. There is no comparision to the feeling when you have a condom.
I check my status every three months, between the 1st and the 5th of the month, give or take. I created a routine and it is always better knowing than not knowing your HIV status. As a gay man, I see many gays who are afraid to test and therefore they "don`t care". I find it sad, really.
It is believed more and more that Undetectable guys are far more reliable than those who say they are Neg and they do not really know. Undetectable guys have to be checked every 3 months at least. That in itself is an assurance that proper medical care is being taken. It is practically impossible nowadays to distinguish in the public who is and who is not poz. The advances in medicines have been tremendous.
So, my suggestion is: educate yourself before making a decision. Talk to your doctor (mine knows that I bareback). Keep up with the news on any of the many medical websites. It is not rocket science to find it.
Last, but not the least, I in fact have a pretty much quiet sexual life. Given my very crazy working hours, IF I have sex 4 times a month I am lucky, but each one is special. I have my little and tight Buddy circle. I have minimal interaction with guys out of that circle, but it happens. I always ask the other guy status and we should always do that. With all information in hands, establish your own protocol and then make your decision. This issue is highly divisive like me ny others, therefore you make this decision yourself!
And most important: be honest to yourself and to those who you engage in sexual encounters.
I am Neg and I have had two boyfriends who are Undetectable. No cum inside me. I trusted them and they respected it. It is about that sexual cumplicity, trust, respect with a partner, and that touch skin on skin. There is no comparision to the feeling when you have a condom.
I check my status every three months, between the 1st and the 5th of the month, give or take. I created a routine and it is always better knowing than not knowing your HIV status. As a gay man, I see many gays who are afraid to test and therefore they "don`t care". I find it sad, really.
It is believed more and more that Undetectable guys are far more reliable than those who say they are Neg and they do not really know. Undetectable guys have to be checked every 3 months at least. That in itself is an assurance that proper medical care is being taken. It is practically impossible nowadays to distinguish in the public who is and who is not poz. The advances in medicines have been tremendous.
So, my suggestion is: educate yourself before making a decision. Talk to your doctor (mine knows that I bareback). Keep up with the news on any of the many medical websites. It is not rocket science to find it.
Last, but not the least, I in fact have a pretty much quiet sexual life. Given my very crazy working hours, IF I have sex 4 times a month I am lucky, but each one is special. I have my little and tight Buddy circle. I have minimal interaction with guys out of that circle, but it happens. I always ask the other guy status and we should always do that. With all information in hands, establish your own protocol and then make your decision. This issue is highly divisive like me ny others, therefore you make this decision yourself!
And most important: be honest to yourself and to those who you engage in sexual encounters.
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