who does what? (Gay)

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  1. Beanie

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    hey guys, i was just curious, having not really experienced it yet, how you work out in the heat of the moment etc. who does what/is what. of course im talking about tops and bottoms. what do you do if you get with some one your getting down to it and find out your both bottoms, or tops, and wont budge from it either.

    any HELPFULL coments appriciated :wink:
     
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    It's very common for guys to avoid anal right away. It's also very uncommon to find guys who are totally committed to being only a top or only a bottom.

    Porn and softcore porn-ish TV shows like Queer as Folk are really, really unrepresentative of actual man-on-man sex, but they seem to reflect the prevailing stereotypes out there. Maybe it's reflective of a generational thing. Maybe back in the day things were more rigid in terms of "gender roles" in bed; I do find that most gay-themed entertainment is set in the present, but written like it's this weird mish-mash of the late 70s and early 90s.

    Anyway, even if two committed tops or two committed bottoms ended up together, there's loads (pardon the pun) of other ways to get off that most guys (in my experience) find just as much fun - and are less likely to involve dookies.
     
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    I attracted a top once. we just 69'd each other that night. No arument or anything.
     
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    It's always easy to play around and J/O each other. You can have a lot of fun pulling on another guy's rod and manipulating his orgasm. Harmless fun and no STDs.

    Getting into oral is a natural progression, and guys catch on quickly. Very hot! It's my favorite way to get a guy off.

    Beyond that, I would work up to fucking after I get to know the dude; it wouldn't happen right away. I'd would want to really like someone before going for the home run.
     
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    I have been gay all my life, and very rarely do anal sex. I have had the fortune to ave to langer term partners that accepted my non-willingness, and our physical side to our relationships remained and oral and J/O. as you ask in the heat of the moment, like any relationship, it is not hard to say, "I don't do that" and I have never had that lessen the intensity of the time at hand. It always tends to end up in a 'sticky moment'. Every one happy.
    Just be true and honest to yourself first, then to those closest to you. Love and rock on.
     
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    I just hear, "I want to fuck your ass tonight." Before even getting home. LOL. -true not a joke.
     
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    I have been lucky, have never ran into a moment where I have had to stop to talk to someone about what roles we would be playing for the evening, things always just seem to work in the right way.
     
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    When two men care for each other, when the ties of friendship have been set, sexual contact does happen as the most natural and most satisfying way of expressing the regard which each has for the other. Partners who know and love each other desire to please each other and will explore many ways of fulfilling that desire. What seemed repulsive to the unatttached male can in these most intimate moments become part of the grandest of experiences. Notions of dominance and/or submission play no part in such relationships.
     
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    Well expressed, Corius. And now I'm fantasizing doing exactly what you're
    talking about....with my best friend, who's 78 and str8. Oh, to have the
    sensuous pleasure of exploring him and having him do the same to me. And nothing would be repulsive to me in making love to him. I'd do anything he wanted me to, with an enormous amount of pleasure and total satisfaction, I'm sure. If only he felt the same(!). :smile: If I could read minds, I'd give anything to know if/what he feels towards me physically....
    even if it was zero, zip, notta. Then I'd know. But for now, the friendship is terrific and I am blessed
    to have him in my life....that's hard to beat.
     
  10. bigbiboy

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    Most guys I've been with are far more keen to be Top in one-nighters and quickies which I find fantastic as I adore bottoming far more than topping, making a guy cum is by far the best sexual experience for me with a man.

    I save my topping for girls and let the boys show me who's the boss.
     
  11. Sinnerly

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    I am versatile so have never experienced this problem. I also have been monogous since I was 20, am now 25, but am sure I would talk about positions before I go home with someone. Talking dirty in a bar would be, and is, fun and part of my foreplay (in that environment). I guess the guys just have to deal if they didn't have the foresight to talk about it.
     
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    but there's nothing like having my man deep in me and cumming. I love to bottom.
     
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