Who DOESN'T have a dysfunctional family?

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  1. earllogjam

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    Ah the holidays are upon us and with the holidays come time to be together with the family. Joy...

    I have yet to meet a normal family without issues or problems...
     
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    Not that good a point, url.
    There is probably some degree of dysfunction in all families, sure.
    And then there are other families that, to paraphrase Christopher Hitchens, could be collectively buried in a matchbox if you kicked the dysfunction out of them.
    These may share a continuum, but they are not all the same.
    A newborn and a 90 year old are both on an age continuum, but they're not the same age.
    Some families have a touch of dysfunction; some are essentially dysfunctional.
     
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    but, not all dysfunction is created equal! there are those families in which dysfunctional is an art form--the real plots of the horror movies.
     
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    Ah. Dysfunction as talent. Yup ... that too.
     
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    There's not enough of mine left to be dysfunctional, really -- just me and my dad, neither of whom are really big into Xmas. IMO, it's all about the kids, and since I don't have any, there isn't much point...

    It's actually pretty much a pain in the ass.
     
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    People love thinking their families are dysfunctional. That's why it's the subject of so many movies and things. Ask anyone about their family, they'll tell you they're crazy every time. It's then that you get to gauge that person's perception of what qualifies as crazy.
     
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    dysfunction is just a part of the force that drives offspring to flee the nest.
     
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    Not to say dysfunction is necessarily a bad thing.

    Where would Proust, Tennessee Williams and Augusten Boroughs be without their dysfunctional families? The world would be a very boring place. It'd be like Stepford or The Truman Show. So revel and be proud you come from a dysfunctional family! Hazah!
     
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    whats a "normal" family look like? the cosbys?
     
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    No, the Cosby's are Oreos. Def not normal.

    The Cleavers
    Ozzie and Harriet
    Donna Reed

    Families with no problems or harsh personality. Everyone is happy ALL the time.
     
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    Have pondered for many years, how best to break the cycle of genuine entire generational family dysfunctionality
    The sheer dependancy on the state for same...disturbing
    Short of some very major & drastic reforms, no answer has become evident
    Intriguing topic, along with homelessnes.

    i LIKED Mike cleaver, or was it Siever..hah
     
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    Mike Seaver was pretty hot....and still is....except for the whole Jesusfreak thing....

    For that matter, so was Wally Cleaver... WHEN HE WAS 18 -- GTFO of the gutter :)
     
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    My family and I get along quite well.
     
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    Me. I killed them all when I was 5. Poison works wonders.
     
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    Yes, but there are degrees of disfunctionality

     
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    My family is near perfect. I am so lucky.
     
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    No problem for .....mine are all dead !!
     
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    Who needs family on xmas when you're getting an entire day of basketball?

    The nba is back!
     
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    It's a bit ridiculous to think all families are dysfunctional. It implies there is a correct way a family should be - like something out of a 50s TV commercial, where everyone smiles all the time. It's just not real life.

    There's been a trend for quite some time to pathologize otherwise normal behaviour, in people, and in families. It's as if everyone has become obsessed with trying to fulfill some ideal model of how they are supposed to be - often based on image that's come via TV, magazines, or advertising. The truth is, nobody knows what a human being is "supposed" to be like.

    Of course, there are extreme cases where things go very wrong in families, and someone gets hurt, abused, or killed, but these are rare, and obvious.

    I don't think my family is "dysfunctional", but there are arguments now and then, a few long term grudges, and some sibling rivalries. I think all that is normal though.
     
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    Everyone in my immediate family is dead to. I feel like Edward Scissorhands at Christmas
     
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