Who gets to be your friend?

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by earllogjam, Jul 14, 2008.

  1. earllogjam

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    When and how do you decide who you hang out with and be buds with?

    It is a two way street but it seems like it is just as complicated as finding a mate.
     
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    Good question! I honestly have no idea. :confused: With the exception of my friend Jeff, whom I chose to be friends with in the 2nd grade; I think I was always, not the one doing the choosing.:cool:
     
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    the way a person becomes my friend depends a lot on how much we click. some of my really good friends actually gave me first bad impressions and i thought i could never be friends with them... so wrong haha. other times, i just get along with people with right off the bat.
     
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    I think you're right its just as complicated. Generally I look for friends into the same stuff i'm at when i'm at a group event. If there is such a thing as "looking" for a friend. Most of my friends just kinda happened. *shrugs* just my two cents.
     
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    cool question. well, there's always the whole similar interests stuff, but like stacy said, it's more like clicking. i've met people who i have nothing in common with, yet, they're some of my closet friends.

    also, proximity. i'm close to alot of people from my high school class, i'm best buds with my neighbor, and i've made alot of friends from my college classes.

    though making new friends is not so easy with me because i'm always cautious/apprehensive with new people until i get to know them. i didn't even know about that side of me until one of my friends told me. She thought i was a judgemental asshole when we first met at a summer job, but now, we're so friendly and cool, that we just laugh ourselves silly about it.
     
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    Someone I am comfortable with and can share with. This can vary in degree from one friend to another. It is something you both build together.
     
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    If you're gay, you automatically get to be my friend and I will spend as much time with you as possible. We will also talk about lots of your day to day problems. I will astound you with my past, but your future is more important.

    I don't keep girls as friends and I only have one straight male friend.
     
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    Anyone who can enjoy teh silence. Doesn't feel the need to flood me with an endless stream of meaningless chatter.
     
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    Why's that T_K if its okay to ask .

    I like/make friends whom i can have fun with, feel at ease with, thing is, this thread has made me think about my friends and out of the lot, there is only one friend who i would really trust and strangest thing is we hated each other for at least ayear when we first met and used to avoid each other and be sarcastic etc, thing is earllogjam, i cannot recall the day we got to be friends or how we drifted into it, that was 12 years ago, but we could not be without each others friendship now. Good Post OP.
     
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    I just don't get along with them well. They don't understand my personality or how I flip from acting like a gay man to a girl in a snap of my fingers.
     
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    That's something I've noticed. Girls tend to be vicious to each other. Whereas with the fellas it's like "fuck you"...." no fuck you"....10 minutes later..."you want a bear/got a light?".
     
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    You're all abunch of fucking losers and none of you can be my friend except njqt
     
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    very predictable reaction, Hick! I take it you don't agree with that long tradition which says friendship is ultimately what makes life worth living. For human beings, that is.

     
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    FIne! Be like that, bighead!
     
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    You are off my Xmas card list :rolleyes:
     
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    What did I do?:eek:
     
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    If you want me to be your close friend, you better be able to laugh a lot, and give and take picking. Good natured picking is a sign of love. No mean stuff, just good natured. Someone on here took it the wrong way, and stopped being my friend. Their loss.
     
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    well said hooters, you can pick on me all you want, and by the way what am i supposed to do with the underwear you left in my jeep???????????
     
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    I was referring to folks who'd already posted in this thread, sweets.
     
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