Who has the power during oral sex?

[madame_zora]

This is interesting to me how everyone's views are so different. I have always ascribed any "power" in oral sex to be held by the doer, they are the one setting the pace and controlling what happens when. Personally, I like the power and control aspects of sex to be included, but I think the best sex is when the power shifts back and forth a lot. I know if I'm giving a guy a bj, he's not going anywhere until I'm done with him! I like feeling that that is a form of control.

 

[hose 85]

I totally agree with you Zora, when my wife goes down on me she has my undivided attention.

I also have all of her attention when I go down on her. :wub:

Just my 2 cents, J.

 

[deleted1223]

i usually feel in control durin a bj but i feel most power durin sex

 

[InsertHere]

I'm not sure if I can pin this down to one person being in control, or even control switching back and forth. When I'm going down on him I'm sort of...worshipping his cock, trying to make him as happy as possible with my mouth. I suppose since I feel this way he is more in control in that I'm pleasuring him. But I also tease him a lot, licking up the underside of his cock and swirling my tongue around the head and just sucking a little bit, kissing and licking until he's going crazy because he wants to push into my throat so badly.

I was sort of thinking out loud there, but I guess really it is a balance, shared power like some people here have said. I really love being in love because we are partners in everything, working together to make both of us happy (in bed&#33. There are very few situations where one person or the other is in control, except when we bring out the ties or the blindfold :wub:

oohhhhh I miss him so much!

 

[13788]

Winger: It's tough to say really...I mean when my g/f is giving me head I am absolutley powerless really. Although she could be seen as submitting she does it because she likes it so there isn't any real submission involved and she is in total control of when I come. If I'm on the verge she could slow right down and hold it off or speed up and make me come. I would say when you are giving you are in control and have the power, when receiving your partner has the power. Similarly when I go down on her I'm in control of everything.

I think for women there is more of a vulnerability in letting a man give head to her, after all I think women feel much more differently about their vagina than guys do about their penis. It seems to be more of a big deal to let a guy go down on you if you are girl than for a girl to go down on a guy, it seems more trust is involved.

At the end of the day I don't care that much who has the powe. All I know is I love giving head and could eat my girlfriend for days and I love it when she gives me head, who has the power is irrelevant.

Peace
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[mekkler]

The one with the teeth.

 

[jeepwranglerboi]

Originally posted by mekkler@Feb 1 2005, 06:40 PM
The one with the teeth.

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LOL Hopefully both people would have teeth.

 

[B_DoubleMeatWhopper]

Originally posted by jeepwranglerboi+Feb 1 2005, 07:49 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(jeepwranglerboi &#064; Feb 1 2005, 07:49 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-mekkler@Feb 1 2005, 06:40 PM
The one with the teeth.

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LOL Hopefully both people would have teeth.

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Not necessarily to be expected if they&#39;re guests on The Jerry Springer Show.

 

[jonb]

So who has the power then? The brother or the cousin?

 

[madame_zora]

Uncle-Grampaw, of course&#33;

 

[Kimahri]

I don&#39;t necessarily believe there is a control thing in a sexual experience. Although, if there were, it&#39;d have to be my bf. 3 ejaculations in 10 mins is impressive and he was totally in control while performing on me.

Interesting that DMW mentioned about not seeing his bottom as submissive. Some of the guys have had problems with me for that exact reason, trying to make me submissive instead of equal. That doesn&#39;t go over well with me. I&#39;m a bit too aggressive to be forced into submissiveness without a major incident and even then, I&#39;m still not.

Hmmm..that start of another thread. How can an aggressive guy feel safe being a bottom. I better get my act together before my bf and I move to that point.