Not sure if this should be in here or the healthy penis forum. Anxiety is apparently a larger problem for men that we might have thought. I've always suffered from condom anxiety, just the very thought of having to put one on brings on dread. Had some good times but mostly bad and it's the bad that perpetuates the anxiety. Which is a shame because when it's going well I'm a pretty good lover if I say so myself :tongue: But I won't do bareback much as I would love to. I used to in the days when it was safer to. When I get with a girlfriend again and we both get checked out first, fine. But with casual sex, it's a nono for me. As much as I like to blame the condom for lack of sensation, I think if I'm honest, it's more a case of not being able to switch my brain off and just enjoy. The brain keeps saying "remember the last time you tried sex and lost it? It's gonna happen again buddy, hahahaha!" So I'm trying to find a solution for this. Because as much as I like handjobs and blowjobs, I would like to regain confidence for full on sex with no hangups about condoms and hardons. I stay away from intercourse because of this. I smoke. I think the biggest problem might be that. I get a raging hardon in the morning but when I've smoked the hardon is just not the same. I reckon that if I quit smoking, the hardons would be more consistent which in turn would get rid of anxiety, meaning condoms wouldn't be a problem. Who here smokes and do you find the same thing? Have you quit and did it solve the problem if you ever had the problem in the first place? Do you think making a strict habit of only masturbating with a condom would solve it to get used to the condom? Am I wanking over too much porn, lol?