Who here gets anxiety over condoms?

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  1. Dan the man

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    Not sure if this should be in here or the healthy penis forum.

    Anxiety is apparently a larger problem for men that we might have thought. I've always suffered from condom anxiety, just the very thought of having to put one on brings on dread. Had some good times but mostly bad and it's the bad that perpetuates the anxiety. Which is a shame because when it's going well I'm a pretty good lover if I say so myself :tongue: But I won't do bareback much as I would love to. I used to in the days when it was safer to. When I get with a girlfriend again and we both get checked out first, fine. But with casual sex, it's a nono for me. As much as I like to blame the condom for lack of sensation, I think if I'm honest, it's more a case of not being able to switch my brain off and just enjoy. The brain keeps saying "remember the last time you tried sex and lost it? It's gonna happen again buddy, hahahaha!"

    So I'm trying to find a solution for this. Because as much as I like handjobs and blowjobs, I would like to regain confidence for full on sex with no hangups about condoms and hardons. I stay away from intercourse because of this.

    I smoke. I think the biggest problem might be that. I get a raging hardon in the morning but when I've smoked the hardon is just not the same. I reckon that if I quit smoking, the hardons would be more consistent which in turn would get rid of anxiety, meaning condoms wouldn't be a problem.

    Who here smokes and do you find the same thing? Have you quit and did it solve the problem if you ever had the problem in the first place?
    Do you think making a strict habit of only masturbating with a condom would solve it to get used to the condom?

    Am I wanking over too much porn, lol?
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    Yea condom's suck. They break the mood and you have to warm up again to get things going. If they are too thick you don't feel anything.

    I say this and I can count my sexual encounters with out a condom on one hand. That doesn't include hand jobs or bj's.

    Something that has helped me is fucking a flesh light with a condom on. You still have to clean the flesh light when you are done but you get use to fucking and cuming with your rain coat on.

    With the flesh light condom training it made things much better for me and my partner.

    Your Milage May Very.
     
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    Thank you for breaking the ice. I kinda figured I can't be the only person here with this little problem. I just googled fleshlight. Lol, not sure about that. I might just hollow out a large chunk of plasticene in the shape of a vagina instead, put some vaseline inside it and try that.:biggrin1:
     
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    "that if I quit smoking, the hardons would be more consistent"

    Best stop smoking ad for men!

    1.) work on quitting smoking

    "Am I wanking over too much porn, lol?"
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    2.) No laughing matter - Probably - decreased sensitivity - don't want to take away all your fun vices - can you substitute more sex or another kind?

    3.) I don't know about masturbating with a condom with a fleshlight but don't use vaseline it will eat up the condom.
    Regular masturbating with condom - I would think might only make things worse

    4.) Read the Ultimate Condom Sticky - first post in "Sex With Large Penis" section - maybe a different brand and/or size condom may work better for you.
     
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    Different brand could help, but I don't think that's really the main problem. I used to, but I've changed my mind.

    In what way would masturbating with a condom make things worse? You might be right though.
     
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    don't like them of course. I am older and we primarily used them as a contraceptive device. my biggest fear was finding they failed and broke open which happened a few times because of my thick cock. I was glad when larger condoms came out.

    I never had much anxiety of them though. in fact, if one is a premature cummer, condoms can slow you down, have a few drinks, slip a condom on and have stubborn cock. have your gf cumming all over the place, and sit back with a sly drunk grin while your slipping her the high, hard one.
     
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    You're right! The time I remember having the best sex ever, albeit with no condom, was after a couple of whiskeys. You've reminded me to get the whiskey bottle out next time, I mean it's been sitting in my house unopened for ages, might as well make use of it. I don't drink you see, I haven't had alcohol for a long time. Well, half a pint of beer a few weeks ago. I'd forgotten how much drink in moderation breaks down barriers and could hopefully make sex with a condom less of an ordeal.
     
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    Masturbating is almost like training your penis to respond to your hand.
    Too much of it and you might need more or better stimulation to get off.
    Any interference and it is more difficult for you.
    That is why it is easier to ejaculate without a condom when having sex.
    It is a barrier not only to pregnancy and disease but a barrier to stimulation.

    Now you make it so that more stimulation is needed by using a condom when masturbating - you and your partner do nothing different - so I think it might be more difficult.
    I could be wrong.
    Good discussion topic.
     
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    Sometimes the decrease in sensitivity can be a plus on those days when you have a quick trigger, but a hinderance when you don't.
     
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    Once you practice they can go on very quickly. What is 30 seconds in a night of sex? You can get ones that are too thick, that is why you need to try on different types. This I do masturbating so I am ready for the real thing.

    Condoms less than five times, hope you are monogamous, or frustrsted :biggrin1:

    I can't count on two hands the number of times I have used a condom this year.
     
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    What can you put on a condom that won't eat it up but which will make it slide into pussy more easily and give better sensation? kyjelly?
     
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    KY, Astroglide

    http://www.safesense.com/lubricants.shtml
     
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    Thanks. Never tried astroglide. But I remember using KY for sex without a condom, fuck is that stuff good. The same sort of feeling as wanking with a soap covered dick. I wonder if it'll increase sensation with a condom on. I'm just gonna have to try that later I guess. Solo, lol. If it does, my problem might be over. If I'm gonna lose a hardon during intercourse it's usually within the first minute if I'm not feeling much, but this might just prevent that.

    * goes out to pharmacy to buy some KY*... :biggrin1:
     
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    Oh one more thing, can you put a small bit of kyjelly on your cock as well as the condom or is that just asking for the condom to come off? I know I'm practically answering my own question, but anyway, can you? I'm sure doing both would ensure a rock solid hardon. Woman massages cock with kyjelly, rolls condom on, coats it in kyjelly, gotta be a winner?
     
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    I would be afraid of it rolling off, so I have never tried that. Her wetness and occassional lube have been enough for me.
     
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    can't do condoms, they give my cock a rash from hell.
     
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