i'm happy single.
if love came along i wouldn't spit in it's face, but i'm not going looking for it.
So "hetero" doesn't apply to you if you're genuinely asexual.I think this will interest you : BBC News - What is it like to be asexual?Hetero aromantic asexual.
I just don't care! Coupling is irrelevant to me.
I can definately relate...
I've had four serious, long-term relationships blow up in my face. In the end, looking back at each of them I can clearly see now that I was just being used and manipulated and ultimately devistated.
I've kindof came to the rationalization myself that it appears that all of the sane, normal people are gone. I'll be 39 in a few days and I've come to the conclusion that much of the misery I've been through over the years to find 'the one' wasn't worth it.
I've now decided to focus on the things that make me happy. I've decided to pretty much reinvent myself and actually live my life and give up on the hopeless search for Ms. Right.
I've gone back to the gym, started learning some martial arts, taken up competition shooting, etc. Things that 10 years ago I'd have never even attempted because I was too stuck on the notion that I was supposed to go out, fall in love and get married.
I admittedly don't have many friends and try pretty much to keep to myself, but I honestly think I'm happier now than I've been for years. I don't have the drama. I don't have to deal with all of the cheating, lies, and manipulation. I don't have to adjust my life and goals to make everyone else happy.
If that perfect woman is out there she's going to have to find me because I've called off the search. I've spent about 20 years searching and have decided that I'm devoting the next 20 to ME.
Can you see that at The Temple in Salt Lake City?
Lacking a sex drive doesn't mean that I lack a preference...I frequently joke that I'm "1/10 of 1 percent" hetero, and 0% gay.So "hetero" doesn't apply to you if you're genuinely asexual.I think this will interest you : BBC News - What is it like to be asexual?
28 is still young. You may find someone and not even know it. When I stopped looking something came along. 'Do you' right now and something will come up.
sux that you had the hair removal and it didn't work.
Keep your head up.
Dude you are in DC. You can get a direct flight to Amsterdam from Dulles. If you have enough money to spend $6K on laser hair removal you can afford any of the whores in the red light district.
Pretty sure they have some high class call girls (and boys) in DC...all of those politicians are getting laid. :biggrin1:
I've been more or less single for 5 years. I flirted with an "online relationship" during that time...but I'm not sure how much that really counts. Its been over 10 years since I've actually lived with the one person I ever co-habitated with. So...even though I'm not technically eternally single...it feels like it.
Why is this so? Lots of reasons. I'm not necessarily opposed to a long term partnership, but things get int he way. A) I live in a small city, so the opportunities are very limited, and I can be very picky and shallow. B) Most gay guys expect a full menu of sexual expression that includes anal sex...and I have no interest in that...which further reduces any prospect pool. C) I am easily frustrated and impatient, which means if I venture into a relationship, it is somewhat doomed from the start. Throw in my intraverted and apathetic disposition, my work schedule, and my love of travel (which not everyone can keep up with), and relationships are doomed.
Am I happy about it? I have learned to be content with myself. Society tells me that I must couple to be happy...but I forge my own path. If I were not content, I would drive myself crazy in not having a partner, and I don't want to live my life wanting for something I might never have. In the meantime, I actually do enjoy my quiet weekends. I enjoy watching tv in bed and hogging all the covers. I enjoy not having to live to someone else's schedule or dealing with their problems. I tend to get very anxious when trying to cope with the actions of past partners. I am calmer going solo.
In the meantime, I might have a few stretches of boredom, but I'm good at figuring out things to keep me occupied.
All that said, if I ever do meet someone who can tolerate me and that I find interesting and attractive...then I'm open-minded to where that might go.
This is me. I'm almost 28 and never had a relationship. Hell, I haven't even been on a date in 6 years. Never did anything sexual either, not even a BJ. I also have major hangups about my appearance. After spending nearly $6k on laser hair removal for my back I found out it doesn't work on me because "I have too much testosterone" or something. And now the hair on my head is receding and thinning, plus I have crooked teeth. I think I'm decent looking in the face and I've lost 85 lbs from my career high, so I have that going for me. But I can't get over my other issues, especially the body hair. I don't want anyone to ever see me naked. And like others have said, nothing has happened by this point, so why would it?
Am I happy? Not really. I've never really been. But I am content. I get to spend all my money on myself. I get to travel and do what I want without worrying about another person.
Would I want to be with someone? Maybe. I do feel like I'm missing out on life. But now that I'm almost 28, I think time is lost and it can't be made up. All that fun people had while they were young, in college, etc, I missed out on. And I can't imagine anyone wanting me.
So I just live alone. I'm somewhat introverted, but I like to go out with other people. I plan my days and my future around myself and try to think of the positives.
But God, I would love to try sex on day. But I don't see it happening.