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Not sure where to post this, so bear with me

I am a Diabetic 63 year old man, married for 30+ years, living in Yorkshire.

I love sex, and I have always had an interest in learning more about how other people feel about sex, what they like, how things change over time, and how relationships differ from ours.

I have had Erectile Dysfunction for more than 5 years, originally treated successfully with Cialis for 4 years, then Caverject injections for 6 months, now on Invicorp. For the last few years, Anorgasmia has begun to develop.

My wife has a number of deteriorating health conditions which are have begun to seriously affect our sexual relationship. Up to now we have found ways to adapt, but I fear that things are about to get significantly worse.

We have always had an open, adventurous and experimental sex life. My wife loves sex in many different ways.

I am now having to come to terms with the reality of the situation, and I have been working through how our sexual relationship developed, and, although our preferences may not have changed, how we have had to change what we do, so that I can be prepared for what is down the road.

My wife and I have an open relationship, we don’t keep secrets from each other, but she accepts that there are some things she can’t help me with – she’s the wrong gender. She can sympathise but she can’t empathise.

I am looking to develop a private conversation with someone who is happy to undertake a frank exchange of information and opinions about a range of issues. Anything we talk about will be private.

Ask me some questions, tell me something about yourself. Maybe something interesting will develop

If you are interested in sharing, please message me.
 
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I had a poor experience before with open posts about very personal stuff on a different website (not related to sex). It seemed that a lot of people just wanted to hijack the thread with off-topic replies, and some of the trolling was quite awful.

However, when I responded to a couple of unexpected PMs, I was able to develop conversations which observed whatever boundaries were defined and which were totally relevant and supportive.

Some people who feel more comfortable in a one-to-one environment, and therefore the PM system works better for them.

We'll see how this thread develops. It will be interesting to see where this goes
 

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Not sure where to post this, so bear with me

I am a Diabetic 63 year old man, married for 30+ years, living in Yorkshire.

I love sex, and I have always had an interest in learning more about how other people feel about sex, what they like, how things change over time, and how relationships differ from ours.

I have had Erectile Dysfunction for more than 5 years, originally treated successfully with Cialis for 4 years, then Caverject injections for 6 months, now on Invicorp. For the last few years, Anorgasmia has begun to develop.

My wife has a number of deteriorating health conditions which are have begun to seriously affect our sexual relationship. Up to now we have found ways to adapt, but I fear that things are about to get significantly worse.

We have always had an open, adventurous and experimental sex life. My wife loves sex in many different ways.

I am now having to come to terms with the reality of the situation, and I have been working through how our sexual relationship developed, and, although our preferences may not have changed, how we have had to change what we do, so that I can be prepared for what is down the road.

My wife and I have an open relationship, we don’t keep secrets from each other, but she accepts that there are some things she can’t help me with – she’s the wrong gender. She can sympathise but she can’t empathise.

I am looking to develop a private conversation with someone who is happy to undertake a frank exchange of information and opinions about a range of issues. Anything we talk about will be private.

Ask me some questions, tell me something about yourself. Maybe something interesting will develop

If you are interested in sharing, please message me.
Rich, speaking specifically about your comment that she's the wrong gender, there are many of us in similar situations. Based on numerous conversations I've had on this and other sites, I started a group here, Married, Bi and Discreet, for anyone who wants to share their frustrations desires, experiences, advice, etc. I hope things are well for you, and I hope we can chat. You're also welcome to message me directly. Cheers. :)
 

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Rich, speaking specifically about your comment that she's the wrong gender, there are many of us in similar situations. Based on numerous conversations I've had on this and other sites, I started a group here, Married, Bi and Discreet, for anyone who wants to share their frustrations desires, experiences, advice, etc. I hope things are well for you, and I hope we can chat. You're also welcome to message me directly. Cheers. :)

I fear I may have misled you.
When I said “she’s the wrong gender”, it was within the context of understanding some of the issues about a man growing old. No hidden agenda, I’m afraid.
But thanks for the offer of help anyway.


It does raise another possibility.
Are there any other groups that anyone can suggest might be appropriate?
I have had a quick look, but it wasn’t immediately clear.
 
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I fear I may have misled you.
When I said “she’s the wrong gender”, it was within the context of understanding some of the issues about a man growing old. No hidden agenda, I’m afraid.
But thanks for the offer of help anyway.


It does raise another possibility.
Are there any other groups that anyone can suggest might be appropriate?
I have had a quick look, but it wasn’t immediately clear.
Sorry for the confusion, Rich. May I suggest starting a new group? I started one recently on an unrelated subject, and it has gotten decent feedback for such a short time being up. If you do, make the title as clear as possible, and announce it on threads where you've chatting with people or where you've seen similar or related subjects come up, and to anyone who follows you. I wish you the best, Rich. I'd really like to know how you're faring, since you're in a place where many of us may one day be. Thanks, Joe
 
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