Why Are All The Good Girls Taken?

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One thing I realised years ago, was when I was out looking for a bloke, all dolled up and 'trying', I never found one.

The night I just went out for a few pints with my mates, I always scored....
It was always on those nights I was most 'me'.

Same thing as someone in a relationship... they aren't trying to score either.
Osiris is right... in each case the confidence is there

The moral of my story.... stop seeking and ye shall find!! :wink:


You are a very wise woman. Thanks for the advice.
 

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Funny how so many women have a similar complaint about how all the good guys are taken. I've said this too! :biggrin1:

Perhaps you're in the wrong place. Or you're setting your sights too high. Or otherwise setting yourself up to fail.

I guess the good ones (men and women) are usually taken. (So why am I not taken, huh?! I like to think I'm good, at least not a total loser! :rolleyes:) In my case I'm sure that shyness is the main reason. I am in a number of social clubs here and am trying to get out of my shell and meet people, but it's a slow process. Also, I may be (will if I can get the money together) taking a striptease and pole dancing workout class. They give you assignments to work on your self esteem as well, and I think that would work wonders if I can do that.
 
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I am not taken I cannot find anybody that is sensible to talk to I always get somebody overly superficial or they just don't like the things I like or maybe they are just gay? I dunno...... So it's fair for me to say why are the good guys taken? Am I not right here?
 

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we're all "TAKEN" cos guys with cock watches, aren't really that cool. get your head out of your butt and act like a human being.
 

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As we get older the pool of available mates gets more shallow every year.

When I was 20 there were tons of available women. ( I was married from age 21 to 30, so those years dont count) Now as I approach 40 they are few and far between.

By "Available" I dont mean just single, but available in the sense that they want a relationship, haven't been burned/hurt/damaged by a previous relationship, and are willing to be honest from the start.
 

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Try changing the yardstick. Defining someone by their appearance isnt necessarily going to lead to finding a 'good (or 'hot') girl'...

Fuckin A, baby.

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I am not taken I cannot find anybody that is sensible to talk to I always get somebody overly superficial or they just don't like the things I like or maybe they are just gay? I dunno...... So it's fair for me to say why are the good guys taken? Am I not right here?

While I disagreed earlier that Houston in general sucks, I will say this: The dating scene in Houston sucks more than a Dyson on crack. I don't even bother anymore. (Thus, the kitten.)

I'm 32. I feel like chances are, I probably won't find "The One" in my lifetime. I certainly don't think I'll find him in Houston, where the general male IQ seems to hover somewhere around -12. I used to get upset at the idea that I probably won't ever find a partner to get old and wrinkled with. Now, it's just something I've accepted and so I just go about my life doing things the way I like. Honestly, it's much more pleasant than wishing the "good ones" weren't taken or weren't basing their selection on pants size and magazine quality of face.
 
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Fuckin A, baby.

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While I disagreed earlier that Houston in general sucks, I will say this: The dating scene in Houston sucks more than a Dyson on crack. I don't even bother anymore. (Thus, the kitten.)

I'm 32. I feel like chances are, I probably won't find "The One" in my lifetime. I certainly don't think I'll find him in Houston, where the general male IQ seems to hover somewhere around -12. I used to get upset at the idea that I probably won't ever find a partner to get old and wrinkled with. Now, it's just something I've accepted and so I just go about my life doing things the way I like. Honestly, it's much more pleasant than wishing the "good ones" weren't taken or weren't basing their selection on pants size and magazine quality of face.



I feel the same way too. Houston really does suck. I don't know what is wrong with the guys here. Even growing up I couldn't find the right guy I never had a bf in HS. I mean yeah I know HS is immature but after graduating I still can't find anybody here. They are really superficial here in Houston. I tried dating on a phone chat and I tried finding the right guy but they are really rude. I am no Kate Moss but at least I am at the gym constantly and I eat unlike the bitches they date. They expect you to be a size 0-5 in pants and be some model. It upsets me that's why I am leaving this dirty city for New York or San Fransisco. Not just career wise either but I cannot find anyone here that likes the same thing I like. And usually when I do find him he is married or has a girlfriend. Go figure.... so I say it is fair for me to ask where have all the good guys gone. They sure aren't in Houston anymore.
 

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*wldhoney opens the unlocked door without knocking*

Well, SLB, I would say it's because they are apparently all on the internet doing German porn........

*slams door and skips away* giggle

*Opens the door and hits her with a cream puff as she skips away.* Just couldn't resist could you? :biggrin1:

We are in Texas waiting for Scared Little Boy to come over and play ;)

Now there is a statement from a truly confident and beautiful woman. They are everywhere my man. Sometimes we are too self absorbed to see it.

You are a very wise woman. Thanks for the advice.

Very wise and very hip to how this man (me) can at times miss the "painfully obvious". :biggrin1:

I am not taken I cannot find anybody that is sensible to talk to I always get somebody overly superficial or they just don't like the things I like or maybe they are just gay? I dunno...... So it's fair for me to say why are the good guys taken? Am I not right here?

The truly good ones are worth waiting for it may not be today or tomorrow, but he'll find you or you will find him. Don't look for him, just let him bump into you at the bookstore. Pick up your dropped sunglasses at the market. You get the picture. Good people happen by chance, not because we look.
 

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"Why Are All The Good Girls Taken? Or at least the hot ones (hot /= good)...

So why are they all taken!? I would have liked a go on that ride :wink:"


The real questions that should be asked:

"Why are those good girls running away from you to be taken by someone else?"

"Because they leave you for someone else, does this MEAN that they are GOOD?"

"What makes them so good? Should all girls be bred to be good for you?"

"Are you good enough for them?" "Are you their dream guy?"

"Would you be able to handle bad secrets from a 'good girl'?"

"To first BE with a good girl, you must KNOW (EVERYTHING) about good women. Do you know where to go to find them and are able to keep a GOOD woman?"

"Do you think that there IS such a thing AS a good woman?"

I believe that it is VERY VERY hard to be perfect and good. You have to be comfortable with women. If you keep saying the good women are taken...you are probably looking for the wrong kind of women...or have wrong ideas about women and keeping them. Yeah, I know what does a gay man know about love and finding women. Well, I just address it personally. With empathy. You actually have to meet lots of women and talk. Talk. Talk. Ask questions. Questions leads to answers. Ask them what they consider love to be all about. You may need to ask that of what it means for you as well. You CAN fall in love with the wrong people. You have to have logic too. So know that a beautiful woman can be a wrong person for you...and don't take it personally that she wants someone else. After all, she wants a good man (or woman) for her.
 

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...<snip>... are really rude. I am no Kate Moss but at least I am at the gym constantly and I eat unlike the bitches they date. They expect you to be a size 0-5 in pants and be some model. It upsets me that's why I am leaving this dirty city for New York or San Fransisco. ...</snip>...

I hate to break it to you but if you think that the dudes here are shallow, you're in for a world of hurt in California and New York City. That's like moving from Seattle because of all the wet and rain and choosing to settle in, oh, the bottom of the ocean.
 

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The dating scene in Houston sucks more than a Dyson on crack. I don't even bother anymore. (Thus, the kitten.)

I feel the same way too. Houston really does suck. .... so I say it is fair for me to ask where have all the good guys gone. They sure aren't in Houston anymore.

Austin is where it's at, ladies. :wink:
 

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Maybe the cosmos have alligned strategically to ensure the goos ones are taken so I can be your Raspberry Beret...?

Hehe. If I were just a little bit gay(er?) I'd ask you to show me what a raspberry beret is! Haha apart from an item of clothing of course.

Anyway we were talking and it was going extremely well...I think it was a mutual attraction. Until she said she had a boyfriend haha then I backed off...she had the most amazing eyes though. Those big, beautiful ones where you know there's something going on upstairs *sigh*

I didn't get her number but I guess she'll be in again...maybe without her boyfriend? lol :tongue:

I have only recently started talking to women...I guess with practice things will improve. Girls are thin on the ground here though!

Where have all the raspberry women gone? :tongue:
 

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Austin is where it's at, ladies. :wink:

No offense, HG but I'ma pass. I said in a different thread (I think) that Austin strikes me as an ersatz Berkeley. And I don't like Berkeley. So you might be the only one there that's worth it, and then we're all gonna scrap and fight and while you might enjoy the sight of it all, I've gotta keep it in line for sisterhood, ya know? (And if you do know, you're ahead of me because I was just totally talking out my ass.)


OH, are you HATIN?
No dude, that's the next line of the song. :tongue: