Why are Americans so focused on blowjobs and Europeans on pussy eating?

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  1. B_johnschlong

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    It's a strange cultural difference. In America, people are obsessed with blowjobs and it's self-evident that a girl will go down on a man. But a man giving head to a girl is seen as more exceptional.

    In Europe, it's just the other way around. When you're in a bar looking for a date, you will probably seduce a girl and kiss her pussy first, before anything else happens. Pleasuring the woman is central for European men. They can't enjoy sex if the girl doesn't enjoy it.

    Where does this difference come from? Are European men more curious, open-minded, social, mature and less phallocratic than American men, who would be more selfish, egoistical, pubescent and primitive?

    Or are European women more liberated and emancipated, resulting in them having succeeded in getting men to do their duty - that is, kissing the pussy until it comes.


    In any case, in Europe you will find that men will eat out a girl, just for her pleasure, without asking anything in return. In the U.S. this is, as far as I can tell, not the habit. There, it's a blowjob-centered universe.
     
  2. _avg_

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    I just learned I'm European. :biggrin1:
     
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    Americans are good at customer service. I mean full service. Satisfaction guaranteed !!!
     
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    There are American men that eat pussy. You probably aren't getting the information right through the proper channels.
     
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    Ah, where would we be without another patronizing bash-American-men thread from our elitist betters on the other side of the Atlantic?
     
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    Seriously though, I wonder if the practices really differ or if it's just a perception. Could it be that American men may be less likely to admit they 'go down'?
     
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    Sorry, I have this info from two American books, written by American professors.

    So let's call it self-bashing, shall we?

    But as AVG said, it can just as well be a matter of perception and cultural taboo. Maybe American culture is too macho and can't allow men to admit that they have a more poetic, pussy eating, gentle side.
     
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    It's just another example of stereotyping, fueled by the media-report-of-the-week. Just like saying that Germans are good at organization and the French should bathe more. I'm so-called "European" I suppose, because the best arousal for me is knowing that my partner is aroused by my touch. And giving her the first (or second) orgasm is a pretty sure way to get one myself. But I'm all-American.

    Plus, don't take it for granted that all American gals will gladly go down. Sadly, it's not true.

    As for the books, don't believe everything that you think.
     
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    "Bullshit" call. Name the books. If one of them is The Golden Book of Euro-Pandering, don't bother.
    They don't have a poetic, gentle side. And, strangely enough, they don't want one. And they don't give a rat's ass who doesn't like it. It's well-known that the world's testosterone supply left Europe and emigrated over a century ago. Spengler missed it completely, which is why his Decline of the West is such crap. If he'd named it Decline of My Neighborhood, now, he'd have been onto something.
     
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    Sounds like you are a selfish what-not. And your theories are just as bull shit
     
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    From more than a few years on the web and US sites, I would say that there is some truth in the theory that the Blow Job is more revered in the US.

    As to whether European men give head more or more willingly, I don't know.

    Don't be so aggressively defensive guys - there must be differences in sexual culture.
     
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    blah blah

    :rolleyes:
     
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    So, is this a direct quote indicative of the tone of those American books? Or are you selectively paraphrasing and trying to disguise an editorial as a question?

    Are European men more curious, open-minded, social, mature and less phallocratic than American men, who would be more selfish, egoistical, pubescent and primitive?
     
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    What absolute shit. Utter bollocks to the Nth degree. Unjustified, unresearched and possibly the stupidest thing on here
     
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    I stand corrected - this is the stupidest post ever.
     
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    He's one of yours. Don't blame us for it.
     
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    I think that the OP may have a point.

    I'm not big on being eaten, but half the men I've "been with" never did it and never even suggested it. Meanwhile, all but one of them asked for blow jobs.

    But on the OTHER HAND, it seems that all these particular lovers were, hmmmm, about ten or more years ago... pre-Internet....

    So maybe it's more of a "fashion" thing? (People didn't know much about it until porn was more prevalent)

    But still, I dislike painting whole cultures -- even whole nations -- with the same paintbrush when the evidence is (I'm guessing) mostly anecdotal.
     
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    How is it even remotely possible to say "A European man does..." or "An American man does..."
    European ranges from Greenlanders to Greeks and Portuguese to Russians. And there's a whole lot of different ethnicities in between...
    And as for American, there's probably a little bit more uniformity but there've got to be a lot of differences between the states.
    So in my opinion, this generalization is worth as much as "Americans aren't cultured and Europeans like art and classical music" stereotypes.
     
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    Speaking only for myself this is true. I've not had a single man ever in my life go down on me. Most fought the idea when I brought it up. No matter how I might request it it was refused. My last boyfriend believed that eating out women was nastier than eating shit. No joke. The thought of eating out women he said made his stomach nauseaous.

    But every last one of the men I've been with has always, always, always insisted on getting blowjobs. Now I don't mind giving them. I enjoy it myself.

    OH...there *are* European men who think eating out women is disgusting too. I had a German boyfriend and lived with him for a while in Witterschlick. He too believed licking women was a wretched activity and
    adamantly refused to get his face anywhere near a woman's nether regions.

    I've come to think the guys who post on message boards that they love to eat pussy are an exception to most men. First - they post on message boards. Second - they all insist they love eating pussy more than any other activity they do with a woman.

    All I know is message board men are rare. Not a one of the men I've ever been with in my 20 years since I started dating has ever liked the idea or desired to go down on women and would fight doing so. But they have no problems pushing for multiple daily blowjobs.
     
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    My boyfriend is english and he's a serious muff junkie, moreso than most lovers i've had who were american. He'll happily spend hours giving me head without wanting anything in return. I have no idea if that's indicative of the male english population or not.
     
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