B_Hung Jon
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This sounds exactly like TheBoyfriend! We're really physically affectionate and he couldn't tell the difference between a non-verbal, "I love you and I think you're sexy," and a signal that said, "I want to fuck right now!" The result was that we only had sex if he came onto me and never whenever I was trying to seduce him. After being frustrated by his denseness over and over again, I finally got so frustrated that I just confronted him about it.
The final straw was one time when he came into the kitchen and I came up to him and kissed him and started rubbing his cock through his pants and he kissed me back sweetly and smiled at me and moaned a little bit as I was rubbing him, and then the dense boy said, "I was thinking about going to the grocery store. Is there anything you want?" My mouth dropped open and I shook my head and he turned around and walked out the door and went to the grocery store!
When he came back, we had a little talk about the subject of, "What do I have to do to tell you that I want to have sex?" He just told me to tell him. He said, "Just say, 'I want to have sex.' It's the only way I'll figure it out."
I thought that it would make it less romantic or sexy, but it made things a lot more convenient. Now I'll just say, "I just want you to know that I really want to have sex sometime tonight," or I'll say, "after dinner," or something along those lines. Then he smiles really big and he comes onto me after dinner, or sometime tonight. It's so easy! We never miscommunicate any more.
So, yeah, some guys are REALLY clueless about signals. Even really big flashing signals. They just don't get them.
Petite, this is the funniest thing I've read on lpsg for a while. You are exactly right about some guys and how we react to the most obvious romantic signals. I'm not sure about your boy friend but I was taught by my feminist mom that guys should pay close attention to what a woman wants, NOT what we think or suppose she wants. In the past men just assumed that women would want to have sex with us just by our coming on to them or the crazy idea that if a girl said "no", she actually meant "yes". Then I think the whole thing did an about face, and guys were unsure of how to approach a woman romantically. Also there's the idea in society that we guys are horny beasts and want sex all the time, so girls need to be on guard against our "raping" urges. I know myself I usually wait for my g/f to initiate love-making because there are so many variables in her sexual desires or lack thereof. She may not be feeling like it. She may have some physical issues that impede her. She may be having her period. She may want to only cuddle and not have sex. Etc. Does this make sense? Most guys can have sex at any time and rarely have anything get in their way. So there is almost this built-in confusion for guys in approaching our women. Also guys have a harder time communicating about romantic feelings, and usually express it by a kiss or a touch. Anyway let me know what you think of this explanation. Great comment BTW. :smile:
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