Look, I said it once I said it again now, there are no such things as tops and bottoms. Those are BDSM roles that almost no one does right. Porn has made gay men think they have an identity that is all about not doing anything outside prescripted lines and lately I run into total bottoms that don't suck dick and total tops that think they have no obligation past penetration. This is the reason orgy sex and sex parties suck giant non existent donkey dondonlingers.
You cannot go to a sex party unless invited to be such and expect to be total bottom, breeding whore or total top I only fuck muscle pigs. That means the party is not going anywhere as the fastest hottest most vers guys get in get out while the rest wait for the other 10 total bottoms to magically fuck them while also wanting the others to do the same. It's amazing how many times I see the same guys making the same claims and expecting it to be different, bitching at hosts, at others, demanding, calling hookers, it is sloppy.
If you are in a group, you have obligations to the group. To each other. If everyone wants to get fucked and instead one guy takes all the others and their loads, then he screwed over all the others for his needs. Not cool not going to make for a good repeat. Repeat play is important fro those elaborate fantasies everyone seems to have but never do. You can't do most of it with strangers, again it's not porn. I also think in a relationship there is give and take and both men need to step up and stop being so demanding and not flexible. I have fucked, been fucked, fisted been fisted etc etc etc when I didn't want to and was not really living for it. Why, because another man needed me to give him pleasure, I am his lover or friend and I do the fucking work so one day hopefully he reciprocates.
We have preferences. Most of you learned to eat your veggies and some even like them now. Learn to like taking care of each other and go outside the comfort zone,
