Why are bottoms against fucking vers dudes?

[Onlyonly]

And I also get a lot of shit because I say that I like both hot guys and hot chicks, but my desire for men is a lot stronger than that for women. 100% gay guys, especially, tell me that I'm basically lying to myself. They can't comprehend that I'm "versital-gay" with regards to gender.

I don’t tell gay guys I’m bi anymore cuz I’ve found that there’s more stigma coming from gay guys than straight girls.
Every single gay guy I’ve fucked and told I’m bi tells me “oh you’re just confused” or “you don’t wanna fully come out” - I’ve been bisexual for 13 years I think I know what I like - and it’s the same bottoms who are “total top only” or “no vers”

Their next question is have you fucked as many women as men as if being bisexual is 50/50 or as if dating men and women is equally the same. Each sex and person is unique.

 

[find83]

I’m 5’5”. They ask me to bottom until I start fucking them. I don’t mind it though cuz it doesn’t happen often. But again I usually don’t have sex with tops cuz I’m usually the top lol I usually fuck vers or bottoms obviously

same here I think some guys just think height=dominance which in our cases isn't it. Btw nice to meet another bi short bro ;-)

 

[find83]

I don’t tell gay guys I’m bi anymore cuz I’ve found that there’s more stigma coming from gay guys than straight girls.
Every single gay guy I’ve fucked and told I’m bi tells me “oh you’re just confused” or “you don’t wanna fully come out” - I’ve been bisexual for 13 years I think I know what I like - and it’s the same bottoms who are “total top only” or “no vers”

Their next question is have you fucked as many women as men as if being bisexual is 50/50 or as if dating men and women is equally the same. Each sex and person is unique.

Tell me about it hehe

 

[Onlyonly]

same here I think some guys just think height=dominance which in our cases isn't it. Btw nice to meet another bi short bro ;-)

Nice to meet you too dude.

Okay but also why do guys 6’2” and higher hit me up cuz they like to be dominated by a short guy?
I used to be self conscious of my height until I noticed tall muscular dudes love to bottom for short guys.

 

[902369]

I can have my experiences represent myself which is what I thought I was doing.
Our experiences are different. I’m vers so I don’t interact with a lot of tops, you do. But that doesn’t mean that it makes my opinion a minority or invalid. Which is how you’re coming off now. “Shut up about it cuz you’re one out of ten who does this therefore it doesn’t even matter” - you’re discouraging people from speaking about their experiences and wanting to get insight.

True they are your experiences but for me I like to find the “why”. I like to ask, “ok why do I see threads on the internet about why bottoms don’t like to mess around with versatile guys, or why bisexuals complain that gay men don’t want anything to do with them.” There’s a reason why people are asking these questions and making threads like this and in my opinion it’s because there are a number of instances and shared experiences where versatiles haves asked bottoms to top, as well as instances and shared experiences where bisexuals will mess around with but won’t date men who are gay. These shared experiences are the majority, that just how I see it and if things like this continue to happen repeatedly, people will just come to their conclusions.

It’s like these gay white men who only want black men because they want a top and or want to play with BBC. Gay black men have so many shared experiences with this happening to them repeatedly that a lot don’t even want to date or deal with white men because they are tired of constantly being fetishized by them. Now I’ll wait for the black men on the website that’ll again voice their minority option and say, “we’ll i date white men and they don’t fetishize me...”

 

[find83]

Nice to meet you too dude.

Okay but also why do guys 6’2” and higher hit me up cuz they like to be dominated by a short guy?
I used to be self conscious of my height until I noticed tall muscular dudes love to bottom for short guys.

Yeah I noticed that too, they do the same with me. I think the who height difference turns them on and the dominance thing and they never try to get me to bottom which you would think they would try it's the dudes 5"11-5'8 that do that shit LOL

 

[902369]

True they are your experiences but for me I like to find the “why”. I like to ask, “ok why do I see threads on the internet about why bottoms don’t like to mess around with versatile guys, or why bisexuals complain that gay men don’t want anything to do with them.” There’s a reason why people are asking these questions and making threads like this and in my opinion it’s because there are a number of instances and shared experiences where versatiles haves asked bottoms to top, as well as instances and shared experiences where bisexuals will mess around with but won’t date men who are gay. These shared experiences are the majority, that just how I see it and if things like this continue to happen repeatedly, people will just come to their conclusions.

It’s like these gay white men who only want black men because they want a top and or want to play with BBC. Gay black men have so many shared experiences with this happening to them repeatedly that a lot don’t even want to date or deal with white men because they are tired of constantly being fetishized by them. Now I’ll wait for the black men on the website that’ll again voice their minority option and say, “we’ll i date white men and they don’t fetishize me...”

I meant opinion, not option.

 

[Onlyonly]

True they are your experiences but for me I like to find the “why”. I like to ask, “ok why do I see threads on the internet about why bottoms don’t like to mess around with versatile guys, or why bisexuals complain that gay men don’t want anything to do with them.” There’s a reason why people are asking these questions and making threads like this and in my opinion it’s because there are a number of instances and shared experiences where versatiles haves asked bottoms to top, as well as instances and shared experiences where bisexuals will mess around with but won’t date men who are gay. These shared experiences are the majority, that just how I see it and if things like this continue to happen repeatedly, people will just come to their conclusions.

It’s like these gay white men who only want black men because they want a top and or want to play with BBC. Gay black men have so many shared experiences with this happening to them repeatedly that a lot don’t even want to date or deal with white men because they are tired of constantly being fetishized by them. Now I’ll wait for the black men on the website that’ll again voice their minority option and say, “we’ll i date white men and they don’t fetishize me...”

You generalize too much (as we all do) but your comments come off as you thinking they’re “facts”. Thank you for your opinion. We clearly disagree and I don’t want to argue or go in circles.

 

[Onlyonly]

Yeah I noticed that too, they do the same with me. I think the who height difference turns them on and the dominance thing and they never try to get me to bottom which you would think they would try it's the dudes 5"11-5'8 that do that shit LOL

Hahahaha I know. Find you a muscular bottom with a big dick and he’ll never ask you to bottom.
And why would you? You’re fucking an amazing muscular ass.

 

[902369]

You generalize too much (as we all do) but your comments come off as you thinking they’re “facts”. Thank you for your opinion. We clearly disagree and I don’t want to argue or go in circles.

They aren’t facts but they are the general opinion and honestly I feel like you already knew this from your original question so I don’t even know why this thread was made.

 

[find83]

True they are your experiences but for me I like to find the “why”. I like to ask, “ok why do I see threads on the internet about why bottoms don’t like to mess around with versatile guys, or why bisexuals complain that gay men don’t want anything to do with them.” There’s a reason why people are asking these questions and making threads like this and in my opinion it’s because there are a number of instances and shared experiences where versatiles haves asked bottoms to top, as well as instances and shared experiences where bisexuals will mess around with but won’t date men who are gay. These shared experiences are the majority, that just how I see it and if things like this continue to happen repeatedly, people will just come to their conclusions.

It’s like these gay white men who only want black men because they want a top and or want to play with BBC. Gay black men have so many shared experiences with this happening to them repeatedly that a lot don’t even want to date or deal with white men because they are tired of constantly being fetishized by them. Now I’ll wait for the black men on the website that’ll again voice their minority option and say, “we’ll i date white men and they don’t fetishize me...”

You make some very valid point but the thing is there a point where is you avoid a certain set of people you limit greatly your experience and still get hurt. You're last comment about the black thing I have experienced greatly and it did for a time try to avoid seeing white people because I was so tired of the fetisization, but I still was meeting looser just on a different thing. So I do get it. But I have met some white guys and girls that were genuinely into me because they liked me, so there's always a risk involved when meeting people and with those positive interactions I can now better judge and separate the people with negative intentions and the ones with positive, but I still get fooled from time to time. That is life

 

[Pagebike]

I prefer tops only because I think they are 'cleaner' and have top personalities.

 

[Onlyonly]

You make some very valid point but the thing is there a point where is you avoid a certain set of people you limit greatly your experience and still get hurt. You're last comment about the black thing I have experienced greatly and it did for a time try to avoid seeing white people because I was so tired of the fetisization, but I still was meeting looser just on a different thing. So I do get it. But I have met some white guys and girls that were genuinely into me because they liked me, so there's always a risk involved when meeting people and with those positive interactions I can now better judge and separate the people with negative intentions and the ones with positive, but I still get fooled from time to time. That is life

He will dismiss your comment as “not the majority”

 

[find83]

Hahahaha I know. Find you a muscular bottom with a big dick and he’ll never ask you to bottom.
And why would you? You’re fucking an amazing muscular ass.

dude big dick bottoms are some of the best I've had, they really just want to get fucked because everyone expects them to top hehe

 

[Onlyonly]

They aren’t facts but they are the general opinion and honestly I feel like you already knew this from your original question so I don’t even know why this thread was made.

I wanted to talk about different opinions. You want to focus on the majority opinion and dismiss everything else. You’re not good at conversing my friend.

 

[Onlyonly]

dude big dick bottoms are some of the best I've had, they really just want to get fucked because everyone expects them to top hehe

And here we are ready for the taking lol

 

[902369]

I wanted to talk about different opinions. You want to focus on the majority opinion and dismiss everything else. You’re not good at conversing my friend.

Yea discussing minority opinions is such a great discussion to be had.

 

[Onlyonly]

Yea discussing minority opinions is such a great discussion to be had.

You sound like a very compassionate and intelectual individual. May god continue to bless that soul of yours. I will stop replying to you from now on. Thanks for participating.

 

[902369]

You make some very valid point but the thing is there a point where is you avoid a certain set of people you limit greatly your experience and still get hurt. You're last comment about the black thing I have experienced greatly and it did for a time try to avoid seeing white people because I was so tired of the fetisization, but I still was meeting looser just on a different thing. So I do get it. But I have met some white guys and girls that were genuinely into me because they liked me, so there's always a risk involved when meeting people and with those positive interactions I can now better judge and separate the people with negative intentions and the ones with positive, but I still get fooled from time to time. That is life

This I agree with but along these same lines and from your experience, and the experiences of many other gay black men, there’s no point in asking a question like “why are black men against dating white men?” - we already know why because look at how the majority are fetishized. Just like what’s the point in asking “why are bottoms against fucking vers dudes?” - we already know why because vers wanna get fucked too lol.

 

[902369]

You sound like a very compassionate and intelectual individual. May god continue to bless that soul of yours. I will stop replying to you from now on. Thanks for participating.

Great. May you find many a bottoms that have perfect holes for you to plunder, and may those total bottoms never have versatiles that ask them to top when I’m sure they’ve previously already discussed that topping is out of the question. Good day!