Why are bottoms rarely erect?

When ever I see pics or vids of gay sex the bottom is nearly always soft. I would have thought that if it's so good he would be hard up and cumming - why not?

Franky

 

Yeah I too have noticed this in porn. Speaking from my personal experience I've never actually had this issue however, maybe I just enjoy myself far too much!

 

I enjoy it much more with a hard on of my own.
But some times Im too focused in the slightly sweet pain so I loose my erection. Still feels nice inside. So when this happens I have to concentrate and stroke myself to get one while being fucked.

And answering your question... I don´t know.

 

why would a bottom need to be erect if he isnt penetrating?

think it has something to do with having ur prostate banged for hours and concentrating on what ur arse is doing rather than trying t maintain a hard on.

 

Doesn't happen to me. I stay hard.

As for porn, remember that they film take after take after take and different angle shots, etc. so unless the guy is on Viagra then staying hard under those hot lights and with a film crew standing around, I'd say those are not the most ideal conditions to stay hard.

 

well maybe its because a lot of guys in gay porn don't identify as gay. maybe they just bottom for the money and aren't really enjoying it so they don't get hard. when i fuck in real life the guys i've topped have always been hard.

 

EggsActly.

If you're in a situation and you're not enjoying it, get out. Or at least fake it well.

Nothing is a bigger turn off to me than a soft bottom in a porn movie.

 

Yeah I don't have that problem either :tongue:

 

Perhaps it has more to do with the stopping and starting that goes on while filming scenes. Since the tops have to stay hard for the scene to continue, they probably take viagra or cialis, but an erection on a bottom isn't deemed necessary. Oh, and btw, when my "special friend" comes by to do the deed for me, I don't experience that problem, either.
;-)

 

Sometimes, it hurts....
that can kill an erection.

But generally, I'm hard... especially when penetrated.

 

HAWT!

 

I've noticed that too...not just in porn. Seems the people that are more bottom than vers. that I've been with cant get fully hard while being fucked. I think they are focusing on the pleasure that they are getting instead of getting hard. However, if you're rubbing the prostate at a certain angle when fucking them...they will still shoot and flux between hard and semi.. love that

 

Quite pointedly, the guys in porn (or real life) not able to sustain wood while getting fucked are simply too distracted by pain to get an erection. However, there is always the possibility that they've just shot their wads and aren't ready to get it up again. But my experience is that when the person on the receiving end of my tool isn't hard and stroking it, they are in pain. Never have been able to understand how or why so many people are wired for pain mixed with the pleasures of sex.

 

The act of arousal releases Dopamine and Endorphins... these hormones can 'short-circuit' the brain's perception of pain. The stimulus that should be perceived as pain is misconstrued as pleasure while experiencing high arousal.

Doesn't work for everyone, but try it out by doing a split... stretch your legs apart to the point of intolerance, but once you begin climaxing, you'll notice the change. :tongue:

 

Whenever I'm getting fucked I never stay hard...that's because the guy that's fucking me has a cock so big that it's painful (and it better be painful!). There's no focus on my own erection, my pleasure strictly comes from my ass getting pounded. Now, if I'm giving him a blowjob, well then I do get hard and stay hard.

 

Why do you personally want it to be painful?

 

It's psychological really. It's just the feeling of knowing that I'm being fucked by a truly large cock. If there's no pain involved, then I don't get that feeling, and that turns me off. I'm not talking about pain to the point of passing out or drawing blood, but just that constant feel of discomfort and pressure in my ass while he's fucking me. It's not a stabbing pain (like what a long thin cock would produce), but an aching pain that I feel every time he thrusts.

 

Isn't it possible that SOME people might not be able to maintain the erection due to the fact there is a lack of stimulation on the cock head?

 

I never understood this either - psychological or otherwise. How is excruciating pain down there ever enjoyable? :frown1:

 

Well, some people do seem to have very elastic bumholes. Cegro's got a very cute bum. If he likes something big in there, I believe him when he says he does enjoy it.