Why are bottoms rarely erect?

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

I've noticed that too...not just in porn. Seems the people that are more bottom than vers. that I've been with cant get fully hard while being fucked. I think they are focusing on the pleasure that they are getting instead of getting hard. However, if you're rubbing the prostate at a certain angle when fucking them...they will still shoot and flux between hard and semi.. love that

Exactly. When y're getting f'd you have to go thru the whole thing of getting it in etc. Not that it's not peasurable. It's just diff for diff guys. Not being hard doesn't mean y're not having a rocking time. I'm not always ard when geetting f'd but Im usually having a great time but usually it's a diff feeling than other sex exploits and it's usually more than enuf to get penetrated and concentrate on the top getting off and having fun as you are. Not every guy is hard during every act and getting f'd it's as much about how it feels as it is the bottom being hard. Sometimes you are sometimes y're not. Doesn't mean y're not enjoying it.

 

[cmmolthr]

I'd have to agree with both "HunginNYC" and "cegro27 on this one, it is very true that many of the actors in these films don't identify as gay, and one while in an actual act could easily get lost in the other person pounding him!!

 

[auncut10in]

you guys are really educating me. I had no idea most bottoms are in pain when being f*d. They always seem so much like they are in ecstasy. I love it when the cum without touching their dicks. But the pain thing, humm, no wonder I am a top.

 

[2322]

you guys are really educating me. I had no idea most bottoms are in pain when being f*d. They always seem so much like they are in ecstasy. I love it when the cum without touching their dicks. But the pain thing, humm, no wonder I am a top.

I don't think it's always painful. Lot of guys love it.

I have read though of guys who find it painful and fantastic. I hate to say it but maybe it's like a woman's first time where it hurts but feels good at the same time?

 

[D_season 5]

a sigh of relief...i was fearing there was some new disorder going on, for i was not aware of this 'condition'. the responses i have read, tho..make sense..why would a bottom need to be erect if his ass is being pounded for a few hours by this top.

when i bottom for my partner...i have a slight problem...my fuckin breeder doesn't not stay soft...all the physical contact from his balls and pubes...just excite me to the point i have a need to loose seed...

 

[D_Portelay Porquesword]

EggsActly.

If you're in a situation and you're not enjoying it, get out. Or at least fake it well.

Nothing is a bigger turn off to me than a soft bottom in a porn movie.

Word. :biggrin1:

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

you guys are really educating me. I had no idea most bottoms are in pain when being f*d. They always seem so much like they are in ecstasy. I love it when the cum without touching their dicks. But the pain thing, humm, no wonder I am a top.

It's not really painful if a BIG guy takes his time and goes slow at first. In my exp.

 

[pasarefun]

I also wonder if the bottoms in pornos have been doing a few drugs..... Alot of times this will make guy unable to get hard...
I always have a hardon when getting fucked...In fact my cock really swings around as I am getting fucked my favorite way, doggy style....

 

[Scott8361]

I love to be penetrated. I use dildos a lot on myself. I am not hard during all the joy and pleasure I get from it. Its not due to pain or anything, its just that the pleasure is not cock centered.

I love the fullness, feeling each thrust deep in me, the pleasure to my prostate. I have waves of pleasure, contractions that cause me to ooze whitish fluid from my cock.

It all feels SO good, and i don't have or feel I need an erection.

 

[HellsKitchenmanNYC]

Scott from one bottom to another you have a KILLER ass!

 

[HotBulge]

My mate has often given the following 2 reasons:

(1) physiologically - as a bottom, one often relaxes the sphincter muscle and the muscles around the anus. One isn't contracting muscles to pump blood into one's penis as much, so there isn't as much of an erection in many cases. Note, that this doesn't preclude ejaculation since the prostrate gland is being massaged internally

(2) psychologically - one's focus in on one's anus and not one's ass.

 

[bc4uintp]

I have never tried to be penetrated yet, but I am wondering wouldn't it be difficut to get an erection and keep it when you have a dick in your ass? I mean if you are erect you actually force your butt muscles to contract restricting the guy who is fucking you from penetrating you successfully. I have tired to use a vibrator before and I find it difficult to push the vibrator too deep without pushing it out of my ass when I contract my penis.

 

[B_Cegro27]

Well, some people do seem to have very elastic bumholes. Cegro's got a very cute bum. If he likes something big in there, I believe him when he says he does enjoy it.

thanks...:smile:

 

[Corius]

I avoid using the word "pain" when speaking of bottoming. I prefer to call it "fleeting discomfort" and that may be due to the fact that my partners have always been very careful and very patient. A good session of anal requires enough time along with the care and patience.

 

[JJIIZZ]

when I'm being fucked, I am always hard. Why else would let someone inside me...not for pain, no thanks. And if I'm fucking a man, I will stop or try something different until they get hard.

 

[Leche por mi cafe]

I'm like you Cegro27...The pleasure can be so intense when my ass is getting pounded, that I too tend to lose an erection. But that doesn't mean that I am not satisfied. There are other times when I'm getting fucked and my fuck buddy or I will play with my cock then I end up with an erection. The hottest moment for me is when my FB will let lose and shoot his load up my chute while I let mine go at the same time! (Fuck, I got to go take care of myself!)

 

[hrconsulttex]

Whenever I'm getting fucked I never stay hard...that's because the guy that's fucking me has a cock so big that it's painful (and it better be painful!). There's no focus on my own erection, my pleasure strictly comes from my ass getting pounded. Now, if I'm giving him a blowjob, well then I do get hard and stay hard.

My partner is the same way. He's often not hard when I'm inside him but he does enjoy it.

When I've bottomed, I've often not maintained an erection the entire time.

 

[D_Pubert Stabbingpain]

When ever I see pics or vids of gay sex the bottom is nearly always soft. I would have thought that if it's so good he would be hard up and cumming - why not?

Franky

1- Imagine those stupid nelly directors bitch screaming at you to keep your dick and balls pulled up tight because they can't get a good angle of the other dude's cock pumping your asshole because both the camerman and the director as such stupid amateurs they don't have a clue about anything remotely concerned with real filiming.
2- Porn always concentrates on the raw sex
3- Getting fucked is still considered to be "submissive" in the sense that the "fucker" is agressive and everyone is looking at him whereas the "fuckee" no one really cares about, just his ass.
4- The fuckee really is not turned on at all and is just getting through the scene so he can get his $$ and get the fuck out of there.
5- The guys are not all that "into each other."

It is a very rare piece of porn that takes the time to let the "actors" get comfortable enough with each other without "prompting" and making the "actors" do all the work that the director and camermen should be doing to get all the angles.

OTOH, the best M/M porn has the "fucker" at least stroking the "fuckee" at the same time and/or the "fuckee" stroking himself. Ideally, the fuckee is so large that all the fucker needs to do is bend over and suck it. Now that is the hottest ever scene!

For all those posting above who say that pain is part of it. Pain should not be present if you are doing it right.

 

[B_bttmaaron]

Wow, I'm pretty surprised by some of the posters who say that they would think something was wrong, or would even be turned off if their mate wasn't hard. I rarely get hard when I'm having sex and I think that there are a couple of reasons for it:

1) I get extremely intense (all pleasurable) sensations from getting fucked. My mind focuses on my ass, and my ass alone. I also think about pleasing my partner, but my cock rarely comes into my thought process. Part of that is because the sensations I get from being stimulated from the inside are so much more intense and longer lasting than the ones I get from having my cock touched.

2) The second reason ties directly to the first, but it is much more scientific. When being erotically stimulated, blood rushes to engorge the anus, and that is why the area becomes so much more sensitive during sex. The more blood, the more intense the feelings are, and vice versa. If I am really getting pounded, the blood that would go to my cock goes to the back door instead. It would be a shame to lose some of that pleasure because my partner wanted the visual stimulation of seeing my dick get hard.

Everyone has heard the saying that every woman's body is different; well every guy's ass is different too. You should never assume that because your guy isn't erect he isn't loving what you're doing to him. There have been dozens of times where I have been literally drooling from sex, but my cock has been as soft as can be. It just so happens that my ass is as red as a tomato.

 

[jorpollew]

Wow, I'm pretty surprised by some of the posters who say that they would think something was wrong, or would even be turned off if their mate wasn't hard. I rarely get hard when I'm having sex and I think that there are a couple of reasons for it:

1) I get extremely intense (all pleasurable) sensations from getting fucked. My mind focuses on my ass, and my ass alone. I also think about pleasing my partner, but my cock rarely comes into my thought process. Part of that is because the sensations I get from being stimulated from the inside are so much more intense and longer lasting than the ones I get from having my cock touched.

2) The second reason ties directly to the first, but it is much more scientific. When being erotically stimulated, blood rushes to engorge the anus, and that is why the area becomes so much more sensitive during sex. The more blood, the more intense the feelings are, and vice versa. If I am really getting pounded, the blood that would go to my cock goes to the back door instead. It would be a shame to lose some of that pleasure because my partner wanted the visual stimulation of seeing my dick get hard.

Everyone has heard the saying that every woman's body is different; well every guy's ass is different too. You should never assume that because your guy isn't erect he isn't loving what you're doing to him. There have been dozens of times where I have been literally drooling from sex, but my cock has been as soft as can be. It just so happens that my ass is as red as a tomato.

TOTALLY AGREE!! BEST RESPONSE SO FAR!!

I'm a bottom. Love it!! For me, there's only pain during the initial penetration. After about the 2nd or 3rd entry, I relax and get used to the size and feel of the guy's dick. By then, I'm willing and ready for whatever-- slow & easy, fast & furious, slam-dunk rough. It doesn't matter-- I enjoy every which way: doggie, sideways, missionary, cowboy, on the floor or the stairs, on a chair or a sofa, or pressed up against a window.

I'm soft all the time, but I can't imagine any of my top partners thinking I wasn't enjoying the sex. I moan. I scream. I grab onto furniture and beg the guy to do me harder, deeper, faster... and still I'm soft the entire time.

In fact, if I got hard during anal sex it would dull the sensation. And if I were to cum, then the anal sex would have to stop-- b/c there'd be no more pleasure for me. I climax after anal sex-- usually with him doing nipple play on me and a good hand job.

When I look at porn, it doesn't matter to me if the bottom is erect or not. I can tell if he's enjoying the sex by how he's reacting to the penetration-- because I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE!! It's so hot to watch a man lose his inhibitions and truly enjoy being a bottom. I hate to see a bottom ruin a good fuck scene by not showing any emotion at all.

It takes a REAL MAN to be a good bottom, otherwise being just a top and a man is so redundant.