Why are guys so fucking soft? I like being fucked hard

[Vainglorious]

I think the sexiest thing you can do to make sure you get what you both want is to talk about it. Then he knows you mean you want him to really fuck you hard, and he knows you asked for it beforehand. This would probably make him feel more comfortable letting loose. He can then tell you what he's capable of without feeling the shame and rejection of having something go wrong in the middle of sex. Also, if you talk with him, he'll be able to trust you, see that you're not some crazy axewomb man hater, and he will know that if he gives you what you ask for, you're not going to turn on him. Not to mention, all the talk about what you want to do to each other and planning how you're going to do it can be an incredible turn on.
While it's hot to think about just getting ravaged by some big thick cock with total abandon, there are trade-offs to the anonymity or the random hookup or whatever, and often it means sacrificing the ultimate quality that can come from two people cooperating in making it satisfying for them both.

 

[MTHgasm]

rape is difficult to prove especially if she has a history of casual sex you sissies.

 

[WhiteHammer]

Great thread, I think most people fuck at many different rhythms in one encounter, there is a time for everything, but Romette is right, many men are affraid to hurt a woman, and especially large men, who may actually have hurt woman at one point or another. But yes, you have to hit it hard to really elicit those deep g-spot orgasms, woman love that, if you do it right you open up a whole other world.

 

[EboniGoddess]

I dont have casual sex.....i held on to last last partner for over a yr until.....well...read a few of my threads back. Anyway i'm talking to this dude and we'll probably eventually have sex

 

[Sassy]

Take the initiative. Show him the pace YOU like.

 

[D_Ellerby Eatsprick]

I agree with you Rommette. I've had men who were afraid to pound me hard and be aggressive and dominant in bed and such because most of their past partners were skinny minnies (itty bitty breasts, no hips, flat asses) Their past partners were the kind that they couldn't throw around or be aggressive without breaking a bone. As I am a size 14-16 woman, with big booty and breasts, I'm the kind of gal that they can put their entire weight on, toss me around on the bed, push me against the wall, grab my ass / hips and fuck me violently and crazy.

You possibly might have to be firm in what you want, affirm what you want and reaffirm what you want. And maybe some men are cautious because they don't want to get tooo excited and blow their load sooner than usual.

My ex said that when he met me he knew he was going to be in a lot of trouble because it would mean he would blow his load earlier than usual.

 

[Vainglorious]

sorry Rommette, I didn't mean anything by it, I misread. But I agree with agirlonfire, you have to be firm about it if you want them to handle you more sternly. I think so many men are terrified from hearing "OW, that fucking hurts!" from flimsy girls or they aren't sure they can handle you like they might do one of their guy buddies in football because they think you're a breakable girl. I definitely have had to ask like ten times, please spank me harder, and if they won't do it, well, that doesn't bode well for us sexually. That doesn't happen often though I wish you luck! If anything comes of it you have to come back and tell us the whole naughty tale. Is there a group for curvy girls like us who like it hard? You are so beautiful and lusciously sexy!

 

[B_quietguy]

If you want rough sex, ask for it.

If you want hard pounding, let your partner know.

If you want fast and furious, just say so.

Nothing is better than direct communication.

Guys can't read your mind, but great lovers can respond well to hints and directions.


Now - having said all that ...

I enter slowly because several women have told me that my girth can feel uncomfortable. Women have also said that hitting the cervix can be painful. Being girthy and lengthy has its problems. If a partner wants a hard pounding, I'd be more than happy to give it, but if they are not in the mood for rough play, then why do something that will likely give them pain and put off their mood?

Also, even when I do want to fuck somebody hard, I won't do it in some positions. Just not comfortable for me if she comes down hard on my cock while in cowgirl or reverse-cowgirl positions.

 

[EboniGoddess]

Now, I dont mind guys who want to start off slow for penetration. I actually prefer that. I've always been really tight so usually guys start slow. My last fuck buddy once pounded me from the start....I mean he just rammed it in. That shit hurt like fuck but I just sucked it up....i wanted to scream in pain but i didn't. After about 30 seconds it felt good as shit. When he was finished and pulled out turns out he fucked me so hard my period came on. He was scared as shit. All he saw was blood and freaked out

 

[Gibson]

That can happen when you are about to start your period, especially if you are getting it hard against the cervix.
I know that if you were to say: "harder!" I would go a little harder, but if I were about to penetrate you and you turned to me in my eyes and said:" I want you to fuckin pound me as hard as you can!" You would get it much harder.
Guys with a lot of length are usually kept in check. It's what we get used to. I'd rather go easy and get progressively harder rather than risk ending the sexual encounter all together from risk of internal injury!

 

[lacuna22]

i'd say you're an exception. my experience is almost all of the women i've been with preferred sex to be slower and gentler than you like it. and i'd think my experience is not uncommon.

that's not to say your preferences aren't legit, you certainly deserve to have sex the way you like it. but i like music that most people don't and thus, i have to work harder to find it. may be the same for you with men.

 

[dolfette]

rom, you're right.
a good, semi-violent fucker is hard to find.
have you tried losing your temper, pushing them off and screaming in their faces that ''is a bit of pain too much to ask for???'? ...because it doesn't work either. they just wilt and look like kicked puppies.
ffs.

 

[B_bardox14]

Wow... huh... never had your problem Rommette. Maybe it's the type of guys you're attracted to?? I like the rough stuff too. Nothing like a good hard fucking to polish off the day lol. My boo seems to always know what it is I'm craving before I ask for it. Spank, choke, slap, deeper, harder, etc... He watches my body and gives it what it wants. I've had lovers that were not so "in-tune" though. Had to tell them what to do all the time. They don't last long.

Since hinting, asking, and telling a guy what you want hasn't worked...hmmm...Short of tattooing "FUCK IT HARD" above your ass, you could try doing the driving at first to show the guy how you like it? Deep throat his dick and ride him like a mad woman.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

men aren't mindreaders. if you want the shit banged out of you, then speak up.

 

[Daisy]

It all comes down to communication. It's very simple. If you're with a steady partner who knows you and what your needs are there should be no question about it. My man knows just how hard and fast I want it, and if he happens to be going a little slow I have no problem saying "fuck me!". He knows exactly what that means too. If you have a man who is more than just a booty call communicate your needs outside the bedroom, and that will take the guesswork out of it.

 

[Scroggyou]

Maybe you should come to alabama wink

 

[dolfette]

no, it's not just about communication.

lots of men have a huge mental block which prevents them really letting rip. and even if she says it hurts in a good way, he might still be feeling guilt and shame for not having more self control. we live in a society where a wife beater or a rapist are two of the worst things a man can be, and that can create internal conflict.

 

[EboniGoddess]

rom, you're right.
a good, semi-violent fucker is hard to find.
have you tried losing your temper, pushing them off and screaming in their faces that ''is a bit of pain too much to ask for???'? ...because it doesn't work either. they just wilt and look like kicked puppies.
ffs.

I hate that shti! You're the man then act like one!

no, it's not just about communication.

lots of men have a huge mental block which prevents them really letting rip. and even if she says it hurts in a good way, he might still be feeling guilt and shame for not having more self control. we live in a society where a wife beater or a rapist are two of the worst things a man can be, and that can create internal conflict.

Exactly!

 

[Daisy]

well..all I can say is that if i want a good pounding I get it. I dont know about other women but I've never had a problem with wanting a guy to fuck the hell out of me. If a guy has a mental block well then, maybe talk it over till he gets over it or move on

 

[dolfette]

well..all I can say is that if i want a good pounding I get it. I dont know about other women but I've never had a problem with wanting a guy to fuck the hell out of me. If a guy has a mental block well then, maybe talk it over till he gets over it or move on

it's not a conscious block, so talking doesn't work.

i always seem to bring out the over protective, nurturing side in men...despite the blindingly obvious they'll, on some deep subconscious level, see me as a dear, sweet, frail little girl who needs protecting from the world. i think maybe it's just how i smell.

fucking annoying and very helpful in equal measure.