Why are guys so fucking soft? I like being fucked hard
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Well, with my last fuck buddy our agreement was to only have sex with each other. We hung out too much for him to even sleep around. I know of course if i'm not with him ever waking second he could have but i dont know many girls at my school who would like to be a secret girl.
He had called it off for a few times....but each time he crawled back. I don't think its that he didn't want to have sex with me everyday.
I don't know......i'll find me my own personal sex slave one day.
LOL you want them to fuck you hard but to not enjoy any of it.
thats poo!When I fuck a girl hard.. which is pretty much always cause I know I wont hurt anyone. I will come pretty quick usually about 15minutes :frown1:
*rolls eyes*LOL you want them to fuck you hard but to not enjoy any of it.
When I fuck a girl hard.. which is pretty much always cause I know I wont hurt anyone. I will come pretty quick usually about 15minutes :frown1:
LOL you want them to fuck you hard but to not enjoy any of it.
When I fuck a girl hard.. which is pretty much always cause I know I wont hurt anyone. I will come pretty quick usually about 15minutes :frown1:
damn it! I need a man with self control! How easy is it to get viagra?
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So true. My ex talked and talked about rougher, harder, spank me, pull that hair, fuck me harder, etc. etc. The more I gave her the more she wanted. Then one night we're drinking, she wants to smoke up, I do even though I typically don't, we go home and we start messing around. I'm fingering her pussy and ass, she asks me if I like that she's so naughty, if I want to fuck her.
Long story short, I fuck the hell out of her, ripping off her top while I'm behind her, doing all the things she's said she liked. I try for anal, she's not having that, so I try to go back to just straight fucking, but she's not in the mood anymore and I think she's saying no to the anal, which I don't care about. Finally I get the point when she says no, I'm done. I shrug and just pass out.
Later, she tells her sister I tried to rape her, tells me it's over (she stayed at my place all day long the next morning, not a word said about it except that we were too fucked up and she's pissed about the top).
I'm mortified, worried I really went too far, but never apologize, which pisses her off and led to the 'It's over'. Well, I'm pissed she described it in a way that makes me look like that and even says that word, but I feel I may not be in the right, but I'm not completely in the wrong (and hey, I did buy a replacement top even after she wanted to end it
)Smash cut to four weeks later, she's back, wanting more while she's seeing a new guy. C'est la guerre.
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Alot of guys with very large penises... at least ones that really want their partners to enjoy sex too... eventually become conditioned to take it slow and careful. I used to joke with my last girlfriend because without fail she would always say 'be gentle' before I put it in. It's just part of the deal. I'm far from a wimp in bed... but the fact is most women don't want pain from sex. I'd love to meet someone didn't mind a bit of pain... and some serious pounding... it's just extremely uncommon. If a woman wants it that way... she should feel free to say so. Chances are the guy will light up like a Christmas tree!! :biggrin1:
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Short answer: 30 to 50 years of feminist sh_t. That's why.
We now have 2 generations of men that have the primal instinct irretrievably repressed, and a great many other men who are weary and wary of women who expect to be treated like princesses while having the manners of dogs.
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I think slow sensual fucking is just as hot and fun as being pounded hard...both get me off...and both depend on the mood at the moment...I never have understood the pound me 100% of the time or it's not good fucking mantra from some women...totally BS in my opinion. To me, that would be boring. If I wanted to fuck a jackhammer...I would.
I think communication is key...I just do my best to say what I want when I want it and if I don't know, I say I don't know but I'm open or not open to trying it. Talking beforehand helps a lot...learning what each other likes, the foreplay of discussing what you want to do with each other, to each other, the mood before, during, in between sex all determines how the fucking will be.
To me how you'll be fucked all has to do with where both you and your partner's urgency is to fuck, your connection, your arousal and what you and your partner's needs are at that moment...if you don't communicate what you want very well or there isn't a lot of mental and sexual chemistry there to begin with...it'll be hard to get what you want.
I really think some women don't get what they want in bed because they don't communicate all that well what they really want (the whole "sex is dirty" or "women don't like sex" crap in society so they don't discuss it) or at least express interest in trying something new or different if they don't know what they want...so of course men are going to default on the side of caution...I also think another issue is men have bad experiences with women saying they like x, y, z and then it backfiring because they really don't. The typical I love sucking cock...you get married...no more cock sucking...totally lame.
A woman says she likes something when she really doesn't because she's trying to be what she thinks the guy wants. Cliche but true...but just be yourself...if you don't like it one way, don't say you do just to catch a guy. I think both of these reasons are why men error on the side of fucking slower...or being more gentle (along with the obvious previously mentioned social stigmas of being PC).
Also..."fuck me harder" or "give it to me" or "I want more" always works for me if I want it harder.
I think communication is key...I just do my best to say what I want when I want it and if I don't know, I say I don't know but I'm open or not open to trying it. Talking beforehand helps a lot...learning what each other likes, the foreplay of discussing what you want to do with each other, to each other, the mood before, during, in between sex all determines how the fucking will be.
To me how you'll be fucked all has to do with where both you and your partner's urgency is to fuck, your connection, your arousal and what you and your partner's needs are at that moment...if you don't communicate what you want very well or there isn't a lot of mental and sexual chemistry there to begin with...it'll be hard to get what you want.
I really think some women don't get what they want in bed because they don't communicate all that well what they really want (the whole "sex is dirty" or "women don't like sex" crap in society so they don't discuss it) or at least express interest in trying something new or different if they don't know what they want...so of course men are going to default on the side of caution...I also think another issue is men have bad experiences with women saying they like x, y, z and then it backfiring because they really don't. The typical I love sucking cock...you get married...no more cock sucking...totally lame.
A woman says she likes something when she really doesn't because she's trying to be what she thinks the guy wants. Cliche but true...but just be yourself...if you don't like it one way, don't say you do just to catch a guy. I think both of these reasons are why men error on the side of fucking slower...or being more gentle (along with the obvious previously mentioned social stigmas of being PC).
Also..."fuck me harder" or "give it to me" or "I want more" always works for me if I want it harder.
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I haven't read the all 7 pages here. but how often do you fuck the guy hard? I'm thinking if you want to be fucked hard, fuck them hard.
Whenever I go really hard with my wife I often end up going too deep and hurting her inside. So, that's not really an option with us. I do love going deep and hard though.
And this is why I loved my marathon weekend fuckfests with my wife. We'd be changing the intensity, positions, rooms, etc. for hours. Always loving the intimacy, always feeling how raw the passion was. This stuff necer gets boring for me.
I couldn't agree more, but I'd like to add one more point. I beleive the most important discussion should be right after the experience. What's spoken before could be so veiled because it's more like it's a part of foreplay. Afterwards, you can express so much more because the memories reinforce the language.
All of my partners have commented on how open and blunt my level of sexual communication is and it's often made them more self-aware in the process. I write on this forum exactly how I speak to women about sex in real life.
I have one friend (who I've never fucked), whose said her sexual fulfillment with her boyfriend has been phenomenal thanks to her talks with me. It makes me feel good in one respect, but it makes me horribly jealous in another.
A lot of times, they don't know what they want to begin with. Similar to men.
Been there, done that. Hate it.
Or sometimes it is legitimately what she wants at the moment until her mood changes. Then the desire is completely gone. I mean utterly and completely fucking non-existent. <-- I have issue if you can't tell.
Also..."fuck me harder" or "give it to me" or "I want more" always works for me if I want it harder.
See, the words, "Give it to me" let's me know I need to shoot my load and quick because she's getting too sore to enjoy the sex. The other 2 phrases work for me as well.... Which brings me to a question. When you say "Fuck me harder" do you enjoy the animalistic nature of the sex and want to amp it up, or do you just want the feeling of his cock deeper inside you?
1st, even if you don't know what you want, I feel like you should at least be open to trying new things and communicating about the experience...definitely talking afterward about it helps reinforce what you liked and didn't like.
2nd, I totally don't get such ambivalence...to me such ambivalence may be consciously legitmate from social pressures (sometimes self-imposed) but subconsciously it's not really what they want...it seems rooted in some women to just tell men what they want to hear...I don't get that at all
3rd, if I tell my guy fuck me harder...since he knows I like it deep...I get both...it almost immediately makes me cum...so I'm a happy girl. I say it because of the animalistic nature of it and because I want it deeper.
Another note to your "give it to me" ...I would just say I'm sore....to me saying "give it to me" is not a cry for mercy because I'm not enjoying myself...I have never understood the mentality of men taking their thoughts elsewhere in order to hold off on cumming, to me it defeats the purpose...he's no longer having fun if he's thinking about something else or in another world
not quite the same but...once the guy I'm sort of with stopped and I asked why and he said so he wouldn't cum...we'd already been fucking for awhile...but it turned me on so much that he was trying to not cum that I just blurted out I wanted him to cum on my face...and he did...it made me super happy...and it was very hot...I tried then to tell him to quit doing that...that if he wanted to cum badly he should
I get the whole edging argument...but sometimes...it's so good you have to cum then...and you should...and I'm the type of girl to ask for it... if we're having a marathon of fucking or even if we're not...I'd rather that he cums when he wants to and enjoys himself (I know I do! and sometimes I do say mercy because he wears me out to the point where I'm a wobbly legged mess) and we'll just take a break or hug and kiss while I feel him inside me and he fucks me slow...I love that.
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Absolutely agree. The first step to approaching any experience is the willingness to accept change. I try to go into any new endeavor with that expectation. Life's too short.
Women's libidoes take a dive after the third or fourth year with me. My love for sex never decreases, and the screaming orgasms for them are still there, but for some reason, they want it less and less. Maybe I should just have that approach in my next life.
Fair enough, you want it both.
I've noticed my wife's "fun tolerance" lasts 45 minutes. Her soreness comes from 3 different areas: Her legs become sore from the workout, her introitus starts getting rubbed raw and stretched (no matter how much lube we use) and her deep spot from the deep impact (I love it deep too). Fortunately, and unfortunately, I don't have to slam into her to give her that "stretched full" feeling, but it does generate a lot of soreness in the end.
Absolutely agree! I've never done that. Correction, I did with my first wife who was a dead fish in bed. But that was so I could cum quicker. Sex with her was horrible.
not quite the same but...once the guy I'm sort of with stopped and I asked why and he said so he wouldn't cum...we'd already been fucking for awhile...but it turned me on so much that he was trying to not cum that I just blurted out I wanted him to cum on my face...and he did...it made me super happy...and it was very hot...I tried then to tell him to quit doing that...that if he wanted to cum badly he should
That was so beautiful. I mean in a nasty dirty talk beautiful. If I hadn't had sex in more than 3 days I could cum embarrassingly easy. Like 3 or 4 minutes easy. In times like that, I need to do the start and stoip method otherwise it'll be over just when my wife starts warming up.
Being 44, it takes me about 3 or 4 hours to get recharged and go at it again. Once I do, I can literally last for hours. Cumming isn't really an option for me any longer until the next day (an ex coined the term perma-hard when I get this way). Yet, even without ejaculating/cumming I could still have the best sex of my life. I love the process, not the result. That's icing.
So, my wife and I developed a code, sort of a language within the language to sort things out more easily. "Give it to me" and "Let's do it doggy" means to me, "You can fuck me harder because this would be a good time to blow your load inside me". She's tried the, "I'm sore, can we stop now?", but by then she's too sore to really let me cum inside her.
Ahh, there's the rub... what if he just can't cum? The sex in of itself *is* the enjoyment for me in perma-hard mode.
I equally love the slow fucking as well. When I'm in my perma-hard mode and she's on top feeling me deep inside her, the heat, the tightness, the stretch, motionless in a sea of bliss. Kissing deeply, holding each other. Not knowing where I stop and she starts, molten together in the moment. I can move ever so slightly, and it still surprises me how her resting cunt needing to readjust to the movement makes her cum so easily. Feeling her pussy spasming and squeezing down, rippling all over my engorged, swollen, stiff cock.
Heaven.
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Yeah...I still don't get how it takes a dive. Mine never has.
It's so not the rub! If he's having fun, then I'm happy. I love it too...I highly enjoy it. The beginning, middle, middle, middle, middle, and end... It's fine if he doesn't cum every single time.
Absolutely...I agree 100%.
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roflmao...this thread is very interesting and smart food for thought. Do it like they do on the discovery channel is a good philosophy
Ditto all that Fleur & Raw Dog said.
Girls are really into something, then that moment changes for them, want to do something else cause they're in pain or had enough of that type of stimulus. However, they don't often tell the guy. Guy's do the same - any woman ever said to a guy why did you stop doing that? Exactly the same reason.
Communication eh?
Personally, I'm with the OP, unless unbelievably turned on, it's legs behind your head time, or face in the pillow, balls deep pistoning, pulling hair, hot breath on your neck, ass slapping time. Hard to keep that up for long! I really must start jogging. Women don't f*ck hard in general, because it is such hard work.
Girls are really into something, then that moment changes for them, want to do something else cause they're in pain or had enough of that type of stimulus. However, they don't often tell the guy. Guy's do the same - any woman ever said to a guy why did you stop doing that? Exactly the same reason.
Communication eh?
Personally, I'm with the OP, unless unbelievably turned on, it's legs behind your head time, or face in the pillow, balls deep pistoning, pulling hair, hot breath on your neck, ass slapping time. Hard to keep that up for long! I really must start jogging. Women don't f*ck hard in general, because it is such hard work.
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I kinda think the take your mind other places is bullshit... I mean are you honestly asking for a guy to be fucking you and not have their eye on the prize? On the other hand if you and your guy were in a relationship you could tell him these things and he'd blow your mind, excluding the fact that some people are just terrible lovers.
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