Why are guys so fucking soft? I like being fucked hard

[RawDog]

Yeah...I still don't get how it takes a dive. Mine never has.

I had this same discussion with my ex-wife 8 years ago and hers dropped off the face of the planet 3 years into the relationship. She went as far as accusing me of having an affair.

It's so not the rub! If he's having fun, then I'm happy. I love it too...I highly enjoy it. The beginning, middle, middle, middle, middle, and end... It's fine if he doesn't cum every single time.

There is a god!! There needs to be more women like you in this earth.

 

[Titsdude21]

Did u ever think that maybe it isnt all about you?
It is possible that the guy doesnt like fucking you really hard!

I pretty much get nothing out of slamming a pussy....don't actually enjoy the feeling of my cock sliding in and out. It just makes my nuts sore from slapping against the girl.

 

[B_bardox14]

Well this thread has taken a twist. It's gone from one womans sexual frustration to general complaining. I'm going to break said trend for a bit. Only complaint I have is some bad cramps this month, but that will pass soon... I hope. Back to this thread....

If you don't like what your lover is doing the tell them what you want. If you want them to fuck you raw then tell them that. If you want to go for soft and slow then don't grit your teeth and take it, tell them to slow down. You can't expect them to read your mind.

On the other hand, If you want to be a good lover to your partner you need to understand that everyone has their own pace and fetishes. Be observant and watch your partners reactions to what your doing. Change up your moves and see what they like and listen when they talk. If they ask/tell you to do something you aren't use to then give it a try. You might enjoy it too. If you don't, then mix it up. Give it to them for a while then go back to your way for a while then back to theirs.

Some people are not comfortable doing somethings because they are affraid it might freak out their partner or just something that society has burned in their mind as being a "bad thing".

I had a BF a while back that liked me to bite him. Something I had never even thought about doing (I still do it now and then lol) Another guy liked to suck my toes. I don't get the foot fetish, but it got him off. I know a man now that likes to sit in a closet and jerk off while his wife fucks another guy. I know a woman that travels alot and when she is planning a trip out of town and away from her hubby she sets up fuck dates to let her inner freak out because he just won't do what she needs to get off. Then she tells everyone (that won't tell her hubby) everything she did. She gets off more on the story telling than the actual fucking. Everyone has something.

Watch your patner, listen to what they say, be open to new things, and just enjoy the ride. If you won't or can't do it for them then consider bring someone else in on occassion to do it for you. Other wise, sooner or later, they will eventually find someone that can and will. There, that's my two scents. Take from it what you will.

 

[Bicuri69]

It's about communication. Tell the man what you want. Everybody's desires are different, and I have found it is best to let the other person know what you want. If then they can't or won't provide, then find someone who will. Enough with the bitching.

 

[RawDog]

I had a BF a while back that liked me to bite him. Something I had never even thought about doing (I still do it now and then lol) Another guy liked to suck my toes. I don't get the foot fetish, but it got him off. I know a man now that likes to sit in a closet and jerk off while his wife fucks another guy. I know a woman that travels alot and when she is planning a trip out of town and away from her hubby she sets up fuck dates to let her inner freak out because he just won't do what she needs to get off. Then she tells everyone (that won't tell her hubby) everything she did. She gets off more on the story telling than the actual fucking. Everyone has something.

Ever thought of writing a book about your experiences with people? Sounds fascinating.

 

[68306]

Guys always try to be nice and take things slow. I don't want to be fucked slow. I like getting my ass pounded. I like pain. I want my legs lifted up behind my head . Guys dont like to do this. Why is it so hard to find guys to give me a descent fuck? Do any other women have this problem? I've had enough of fucking wimps.....im sorry if i seems kinda mean but this shit is getting crazy

Eh... even pornography seems lukewarm to me.

 

[Fleur]

I had this same discussion with my ex-wife 8 years ago and hers dropped off the face of the planet 3 years into the relationship. She went as far as accusing me of having an affair.

That's nuts...she should have gone to the doctor...if I lost my sex drive (which I really can't see happening) that's what I'd do...I'd travel thousands of miles to get it back!

There is a god!! There needs to be more women like you in this earth.

Thank you.

 

[RawDog]

That's nuts...she should have gone to the doctor...if I lost my sex drive (which I really can't see happening) that's what I'd do...I'd travel thousands of miles to get it back!

She got on birth control pills, lost her sex drive and the it gradually came back. The we decided to try having kids, she got off of her BC pills and oddly that's when her libido dropped off and we got a divorce a few months later.

Thank you.

Welcome.

My wife and I had a bit of a discussion about libidoes this morning and she asked what my ideal "frequency" would be. I said on the weekdays, I'd love it right after we woke up (or as we're waking up), then I'd love it after we get home from work, one more before we go to sleep and then once again at 3 am when one of us can't get back to sleep (I'm a bit of an insomniac).

The weekend would be a totally different story.

 

[jmn5]

The gf taught me to be hard with her. Now I am a fine tuned pain inflicting machine. She'll say she can feel me for days afterwords if I've done a good job. She especially liked having a guy at the other end in her mouth while I slammed her. The guy was turned on too having her throat him with every stroke.

Some girls just like it rough. They like their man to be dominant. I set out to listen and learn everything I can about how to be her best lover. We have a fabulous sex life that most would envy.

 

[L_egit]

and grossly unfair to men too. how could it stand up in court, if the only witness is in his favour?

The majority of testimony in sexual assault and rape cases is simply a he said she said affair. Men can't even raise the majority of their defenses unless judges deem them to be acceptable.

Unless you have substantial evidence to support the claim, you can't even say that you honestly thought there was consent.

The current laws on sexual assault place the burden of determining consent generally on the man; it isn't enough for a woman to go along with it, he needs to actively ask if she's okay with the event.

This is painting the picture in broad strokes, but this is one area (along with family law) where the courts have been very aggressive in going after men to the point of having the traditional requirements for convictions reduced or waived in order to increase the amount of successful incarcerations.

 

[Guy-jin]

She got on birth control pills, lost her sex drive and the it gradually came back. The we decided to try having kids, she got off of her BC pills and oddly that's when her libido dropped off and we got a divorce a few months later.

BC causing libido to disappear after stopping them happened to an ex of mine when we were together. The BC made her extremely emotional, so she generally had a low libido when she was on it, but when she stopped taking it, her libido disappeared completely. She would not go see a doctor about it out of embarrassment.

Sufficed to say, I have been wary of my girlfriends taking BC following that experience.

 

[hud01]

I don't feel like reading 8 pages and I know this thread is a little old, but I am going to answer.

Be straight to the point. Communicate. I had a girl friend who liked pre-work morning sex. She would say, don't worry about me, get yourself off as fast and as hard as you like. It worked best when she was lying on the bed with her ankles around my neck and I was standing off the bed.

I would pound her hard for about 7-10 minutes non-stop until I came. Sometimes a little longer, sometimes a little shorter. I always had trouble walking for the next hour or two after that, but god it felt good.

 

[RawDog]

BC causing libido to disappear after stopping them happened to an ex of mine when we were together. The BC made her extremely emotional, so she generally had a low libido when she was on it, but when she stopped taking it, her libido disappeared completely. She would not go see a doctor about it out of embarrassment.

Yup, exactly same thing with my ex.

 

[535664]

I am gonna give you the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you, pertaining to this matter. Let him know who you are at the very beginning. what men want and what women want are amazingly complete fucking opposites! If you want to be treated like a "whore", act like one. It sounds bad, but you will be amazed at how many men want to treat you this way, if only they can maintain there image.

 

[Aplus]

Sometimes people just aren't sexually compatible either. Not every guy is conditioned (physically or mentally) to go hard and fast all the time, everytime. Given my preference, I prefer slower sex, or at least a mixture, to full-out back-breaking sex if I'm the driver. I've found myself (at times) getting bored with hard and fast sex because sometimes it literally does nothing for me unless there is some build-up to it or I'm extremely turned on before.

Unless a woman tells me she wants or likes it that way, I may not go there at all, or at least take my time getting there. It can vary though, there have been a few times where I just went there because the urge was simply there. I have no problem (generally) with a woman (more or less) taking what she wants from me sexually though. Even though I don't necessarily like to fuck hard at all, I absolutely loved being fucked hard. Some women simply aren't good at being the aggressor though. So I guess I feel the OP pain to a great extent, just from the male perspective.

 

[Mike7]

Some girls just like it rough. They like their man to be dominant. I set out to listen and learn everything I can about how to be her best lover. We have a fabulous sex life that most would envy.

I agree. For us it just evolved that way as we both learned that she just gets more enjoyment from firmer sex. We can start out sensual but at some point it needs to kick up a few notches. The sexual dynamic just works for us with her more submissive and me being in control.

YMMV so everyone has to find what works for them.

 

[RawDog]

For us it just evolved that way as we both learned that she just gets more enjoyment from firmer sex. We can start out sensual but at some point it needs to kick up a few notches. The sexual dynamic just works for us with her more submissive and me being in control.

One of my exes (who I'm convinced is certifiably crazy) was always Ms. Opinionated/knows everything about everything/dominatrix/Don't tell me what to do, would go limp and totally subservient the minute I got the slightest bit violent in bed.

It was scarey the way she "switched", but I had to be violent. I'm glad she's outta my life.

 

[schwulboy1989]

you asked for advice, and people gave it to you, and you countered it. Then more people gave you the same advice, and you countered it. Rinse. Repeat.

Is it possible that you're making excuses? Is it possible that you're expecting either too much from a guy too quickly, or that you're sleeping with the wrong types of guys.

Are you sleeping with guys multiple times, or is it a new guy every time? if you're looking for instant gratification with each new sexual partner, you're in for a world of disappointment.

Maybe i'm wrong. who knows. give it a shot. what can it hurt?

 

[jamesjohnson8]

Hey Rommette - I'll fuck you fast and hard,and you won't need your toy afterwards.You don't even have to ask. - James

 

[EboniGoddess]

WOW! I had no idea my thread had been revived. I don't get on much when I'm at school but spring break is here.

Short answer: 30 to 50 years of feminist sh_t. That's why.

We now have 2 generations of men that have the primal instinct irretrievably repressed, and a great many other men who are weary and wary of women who expect to be treated like princesses while having the manners of dogs.

I know...it's sad that men have been repressed out of fear. :frown1:

roflmao...this thread is very interesting and smart food for thought. Do it like they do on the discovery channel is a good philosophy

Great Philosophy! It's like nature intended.

It's about communication. Tell the man what you want. Everybody's desires are different, and I have found it is best to let the other person know what you want. If then they can't or won't provide, then find someone who will. Enough with the bitching.

I've done the communication thing. Besides, if i'm riding the shit of out him then when we change positions and do doggystlye he should go slow. Doggystyle is an isult to me if it's going slow.

Hey Rommette - I'll fuck you fast and hard,and you won't need your toy afterwards.You don't even have to ask. - James

I sure wish you were here right now.