Why Are So Many Gay Men on LPSG the Biggest Bitches?

[B_Nick8]

A bitch is a bitch no matter where you find him or her and has nothing to do with sexuality.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

Actually what I've found from being on this site for three years is that the biggest bitches are the 100% straight guys...not gay guys or any women.

I totally agree with this statement. We'll not get into why I think they are this way...but definitely the ones that are the first to comment on someones pic in a negative way. If you do not believe me...go to all the posts about.."what do you think" or "am I too small or too large". Some of the meanest responses come from the straight guys. I dunno if it's about competition or what...but it's the truth and documented on here.

 

[TheRob]

look there can only be one biggest bitch
someone has to be it
may as well be a gay guy
what's the problem

 

[nedly32]

for many being a bitch is just a way of coping with this big bad curel world just a safty wall to protect ones self. i myself believe its a sad way to deal with life but its not going to change a bitch of a person.so with that said fill your life with good and kind people and it will not matter or hurt as much when you come accross people of this nature

 

[invisibleman]

All men aren't under 30. All men aren't hung like horses. All men aren't 5% bodyfat. All men aren't smooth as women. All men aren't GQ "handsome".

But all men, especially those of the past 30 years, deserve respect for "paving" the way for the new generation of young gay men who enjoy a freedom to be who they are in a way never before possible.

I find a variety of men sexy. I don't find constantly cutting a guys down, as many on this site do, because they don't meet the criteria above. I find "men" who do that so unattractive.

I have decided the ones who do that over and over on here really have deep seated emotional issues about themselves. I think a lot of it is fear driven. To be so critical in some sicko way helps them to feel better about themselves.

You would think gay men would have a greater respect and admiration for one another than is shown on this site. Maybe they do, in real life, for I have come to determine this is anything but real life.

Yeah. I really, really understand. It is really hard living up to someone's ideals.
If you feel that a person has too many standards...you give them their allowances. Leave them alone. Not everyone finds every man attractive. Even I don't find every man attractive. I don't even find women attractive. (That doesn't mean that those men and women aren't sexy though...it just means I am not attracted to them. It isn't the end of the world. You can be attracted to someone and them not be interested in you. That doesn't make you a bad person...just a person with sexy feelings towards them. They just don't feel the same way about you. )

 

[Sergeant_Torpedo]

Come; now we seem to be straying into the realms of the kettle calling the skillet, grimey arse. My finding is that allow them to get away with it and any man or woman, gay or straight or undecided can be ascerbic for no good cause other than they are genetically predisposed to being twatheads.

 

[bigbulgelicker45]

I thought I'd throw in my two cents (well four due to inflation) on the subject.

There are some posts I read where certain people do think they are better than most and when I read their post I cringe. It seems like their posts are in the 1,000+ range and if a topic has come up before they're the first to point it out.

When I found out about this site I was amazed at different topics, etc. but that's not the point for discussion now.

In '81 when I started going to the bar (and being underage at 18, I was fat, discovered anorexia to a point) and after a couple of months guys started to hit on me. In my circle of friends at the time, I guess I was the "head bitch" after being relatively shy throughout high school. Whatever I said was the golden rule of the night.

In '81/'82/'83 I couldn't get a job due to yet another recession but coming from a working class family, I only shopped at Saks and wore Calvin's. I remember this one guy who I didn't remember making out with me said he saw me once and he said "You'd be hot if you lost more weight." I think by that point I had lost like 70lbs in three or four months.

I've never considered myself attractive but at the time it seemed the slimmer I became the more attractive I became to people who were older than myself- it ranged from late 20's to 50's (and it didn't help that I had a baby face) and it DID boost my ego, because I've always liked older guys.

The first time I went into a gay bar (aug. 7, 1981) I was "chaperoning" one of my friends who was on a date and didn't want to sleep with the guy. I developed a really huge crush on him and did some stupid things and one was to become a bitch.

With my "crew" in place I think the bitchiest I ever was, was on two accounts. One couple literally hated me and invited my friends to their parties while I'd sit over at one of my friends' house drinking and watching cable (my city wasn't wired then) and then for their Christmas party I wasn't invited but my friends made me go with them.

Of course they were pissed that I was there and I refused to go downstairs to "join the party" so I stayed upstairs and one of my friends I was with commented on how beautiful their tree was.

I said it was as fake as they (the hosts) were and I heard an ice tray crash to the floor. That was probably the bitchiest I'd ever been until I rounded up "the crew" and said we're leaving.

Eventually I woke up and asked myself why was I doing this? I wasn't mean in high school so why should I be this way now? Even though my friends were getting laid and I wasn't of course I was jealous, but it did open my eyes.

As a few people put it, it might be a generational thing where you go to be seen but eventually we all grow old, have a career and remember what it was like. I don't consider myself a pioneer in the gay rights movement (I hate politics), former co-workers hate me and I'm at the point in my life where I can say "who cares?"

There are three "people" who I'm more concerned about: me, myself and I.

But I will confess that while I'm not everyone's ideal, I've learned what life is like and you do find yourself growing old. I don't have the 29" waist I had back then, my friends from then as I said have moved on and after being "responsible" in a job for what would have been my 25th anniversary this year, I quit it last year.

I still like the older guys though.....

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

Yikes! Don't know how I was spared this phenomenon; as a geezer I feel invisible to younger guys here, but have never been dissed by any. Did something unpleasant happen to you in chat? I'm leery of that aspect of the site but otherwise find it very welcoming. BTW re 5% body fat, I'm way more insecure about being an ectomorph than about being old or ugly! Skinny nerds get no respect but I learned the truth at 17 about that

Oh I don't know, fashions are strange things, Skinny Nerds are being booked for tens of thousands of dollars these days for runway/catwalk shows and major photographic campaigns. If I were you I'd cash in on the fad and love it while I lived it. :wink::smile:

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

A bitch is a bitch no matter where you find him or her and has nothing to do with sexuality.

So true dear Nick, so true.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

I totally agree with this statement. We'll not get into why I think they are this way...but definitely the ones that are the first to comment on someones pic in a negative way. If you do not believe me...go to all the posts about.."what do you think" or "am I too small or too large". Some of the meanest responses come from the straight guys. I dunno if it's about competition or what...but it's the truth and documented on here.

Thanks for the comment. To me there seems to be a need by some of the 100% straight guys to react against a feminist pov from women or others. They also like to argue assertively on threads as if this forum is a place to compete and win (which can be the ultimate downfall of males). I never thought of LPSG as a place to show off my debating talents, be critical of women or act obnoxiously. I've also noticed that many of these guys don't have photos in their profiles which I think is a little strange on a site for showing off big dicks. They seem to have another agenda. As far as guys who identify as gay, I want to thank each of you for being so complimentary and really making me feel valued and attractive. :smile: