Why are so many people on LPSG divorced or been married more than once?

[Lex]

NJ -- you really don't have to explain what you do to anyone. Fuck that noise.

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LPSG does not MAKE someone cheat. Lack of morals, self pride, and integrity contribute more.

Exactly. LPSG did not cause my divorce and my divorce was extremely peaceful and amicable.

This site is truly no different than any other porn/sex site on the internet.

 

[Jumbo151]

A big part of the problem is not being to see another side and compromise. No two people think totally alike, Different likes, different dislikes, different libido's. If two people really care for each other, they'll talk about issues that are disconcerting enough to make them think about someone else, they'll talk about how they feel, and how to make things better. Love is not a one way street. It's about compromise. If you really love someone, just meet them half way. And that means not just one, but both.

 

[Pitbull]

Ladies, please!

Can't you just have a nice conversation in private?
Or if not, no conversation at all.

 

[bigbull29]

Same.

Someone I can relate to. I'm freaked out.

 

[Countryguy63]

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One question though to you all who were left by your wife.....did she leave for a younger guy?

roflmao - not because of your question, but because of my ex....When we first started dating, I was worried she would not want me because I was 8 years older than her.

One of her affairs while we were married was her boss, who she is now married to. He has sons as old as she is, AND...they now have a child, lol

 

[lickme69]

I am a female on here and I am divorced. I was married for 20 years and I got divorced over totally different things such as alcohol abuse, and verbal and physical abuse. I did not come on here until after my divorce. It wasn't because I was looking for anyone, because I already have a BF. I enjoy reading some fo the forums and reading the replies. Many of then make me laugh. We have some pretty funny people on here.

 

[EboniGoddess]

Actually we finally got divorced in Jan 2009. Her family is stock full of individuals that have been married/divorced multiple times and most have cheated while being married but who am I to judge. To me the ex-wife represents nothing more than the uterus that brought my daughter into this world. Sadly she has abandoned her too and that is what hurts the most...

Whoa.....most women dont abandon their children for a guy. Most of us have maternal instincts

 

[Pitbull]

Whoa.....most women dont abandon their children for a guy. Most of us have maternal instincts

Whoa - a lot of women do.

 

[Countryguy63]

Whoa.....most women dont abandon their children for a guy. Most of us have maternal instincts

My ex did the 1st time. The next time, she said she wouldn't because she looked bad the last time

 

[D_Doe_Ray_Mi]

First wife left over affair with younger married father of two but that ended before the divorce was final. Second wife had an affair with a guy just a year younger and just last year married a guy my age. Ie., age is not the issue.

 

[mako shark]

and neither do most animals Rommette! I worked at a petting zoo for eight years and am somewhat of an expert on animal behavior... There is really nothing I could tell my daughter and that was the fucked up part....

Whoa.....most women dont abandon their children for a guy. Most of us have maternal instincts

 

[EboniGoddess]

I always thought that women had a stronger bond with their children than men. I f my father argued with my mother I didn't care what happened.....my mother was right. If I went on a trip i'd buy my mother stuff at the gift shop and aint bring my father nothing back. Mother's day was always a more exciting holiday than father's day. Its just something about a mother to me that is more lovable. I remember in school I had plenty of fights when people said "yo mama!". I was ready to kill somebody! If someone said "yo father" i'd simply say "don't talk about my father" but me nor any of the other girls would ever fight over that. The fact that its a daughter thats even worse. I want a daughter so bad....so she can be like me. I want a son too but having a girl is close to my heart. I just find it odd when women have no attachment to their child and can just leave. I'm not sure how old your daughter is but puberty is a tough time. Girls start getting feelings 'down there", menstruation, and bras. When puberty hits may girls (including myself) feel like the world is against them. Its reassuring to have a mother tell you she's been there and done that.

On another note you guys opened up a whole new door that i knew was there put that i didn't believe happen as often. Women and infidelity was something that i knew happened but not as common

 

[invisibleman]

I always thought that women had a stronger bond with their children than men. If my father argued with my mother I didn't care what happened.....my mother was right.

That is sad.

If I went on a trip i'd buy my mother stuff at the gift shop and aint bring my father nothing back.

Not even a box of salt water taffy or a tin of Old Williamsburg roasted shelled peanuts?


Mother's day was always a more exciting holiday than father's day.
Wow. Its just something about a mother to me that is more lovable. I remember in school I had plenty of fights when people said "yo mama!". I was ready to kill somebody! If someone said "yo father" i'd simply say "don't talk about my father" but me nor any of the other girls would ever fight over that.



The fact that its a daughter thats even worse. I want a daughter so bad....so she can be like me. I want a son too but having a girl is close to my heart. I just find it odd when women have no attachment to their child and can just leave. I'm not sure how old your daughter is but puberty is a tough time. Girls start getting feelings 'down there", menstruation, and bras. When puberty hits may girls (including myself) feel like the world is against them. Its reassuring to have a mother tell you she's been there and done that.

I didn't have perfect parents. But I loved doing both Mother's Day and Father's Day for my parents. I have taken both of them out to dinner on their anniversary dinner at Carrabba's Italian Grill. I have made things for them as gifts. When I went on trips, I always brought back stuff for them and pictures as well.

Even though, I have said some bad things about my parents here. I loved them. They weren't perfect but I loved them. I empathized with them. They didn't the right things at the right times that I needed them too. But I know that I haven't been a lot what they expected me to be.

The Yo Mama sides from kids never phased me much. The abuse from African-American kids were brutal though. Those beyotches couldn't EVEN pronounce my name (they could say but they mispronounced my name jokingly.)

 

[EboniGoddess]

I didn't have perfect parents. But I loved doing both Mother's Day and Father's Day for my parents. I have taken both of them out to dinner on their anniversary dinner at Carrabba's Italian Grill. I have made things for them as gifts. When I went on trips, I always brought back stuff for them and pictures as well.

Even though, I have said some bad things about my parents here. I loved them. They weren't perfect but I loved them. I empathized with them. They didn't the right things at the right times that I needed them too. But I know that I haven't been a lot what they expected me to be.

The Yo Mama sides from kids never phased me much. The abuse from African-American kids were brutal though. Those beyotches couldn't EVEN pronounce my name (they could say but they mispronounced my name jokingly.)

Its not that I didn't love my father....its just that I loved my mother more. I would give my mother the world because I bonded more with her naturally. My father often went out to play pool or over one of the guys house to watch the NBA finals but what do women do? They take their kids with them. I went everywhere my mother went. Tupperware party....I was there. Baby showers....I was there. Bus trips to to Atlantic City...I was there.

Thats what strikes me when I hear that women just give up on being a parent. Children are for life. They're cute when they're infants, give you a headache when they're the terrible 2's, and get a bit mouthy when they try to rebel but none the less they're youre child forever. How many men that have kids take them everywhere with them? Many guys would rather let them stay home with their mother than to take their kid. Dont get me wrong. I applaude men who take up the role of mother. It's a tough one

 

[mako shark]

My gf was much much tighter with her dad than her mom so it can go either way. Try to take this objectively please... not all adults were meant to be parents, some "mothers" aren't "moms" and I am certain the same can be said about men. My daughter is almost 22 and will have her own kids so I am curious how to willing she will be to share them with her blood mother. Only time will tell...

 

[lickme69]

I am a daddy's girl. I was born on his birthday and we have always had a real strong bond. Don't get me wrong, I love my mother, but I have always been more partial to my Dad.

 

[EboniGoddess]

My gf was much much tighter with her dad than her mom so it can go either way. Try to take this objectively please... not all adults were meant to be parents, some "mothers" aren't "moms" and I am certain the same can be said about men. My daughter is almost 22 and will have her own kids so I am curious how to willing she will be to share them with her blood mother. Only time will tell...

If women don't want children then they shouldnt have any. Children can't be disposed of when unwanted.

I'm also wondering what toll divorce has on children. How do parents explain that daddy or mommy is moving out and isn't coming back?

 

[invisibleman]

I didn't have perfect parents. But I loved doing both Mother's Day and Father's Day for my parents. I have taken both of them out to dinner on their anniversary dinner at Carrabba's Italian Grill. I have made things for them as gifts. When I went on trips, I always brought back stuff for them and pictures as well.

Even though, I have said some bad things about my parents here. I loved them. They weren't perfect but I loved them. I empathized with them. They didn't the right things at the right times that I needed them too. But I know that I haven't been a lot what they expected me to be.

The Yo Mama sides from kids never phased me much. The abuse from African-American kids were brutal though. Those beyotches couldn't EVEN pronounce my name (they could say but they mispronounced my name jokingly.)

Its not that I didn't love my father....its just that I loved my mother more. I would give my mother the world because I bonded more with her naturally. My father often went out to play pool or over one of the guys house to watch the NBA finals but what do women do? They take their kids with them. I went everywhere my mother went. Tupperware party....I was there. Baby showers....I was there. Bus trips to to Atlantic City...I was there.

Thats what strikes me when I hear that women just give up on being a parent. Children are for life. They're cute when they're infants, give you a headache when they're the terrible 2's, and get a bit mouthy when they try to rebel but none the less they're youre child forever.

How many men that have kids take them everywhere with them? Many guys would rather let them stay home with their mother than to take their kid. Dont get me wrong. I applaud men who take up the role of mother. It's a tough one.

Well. I don't know if men can take up the role of "mother". (Unless you are Arnold Schwarzeneggar. Hehehe.:biggrin1::wink

There are many fathers that are REALLY close with their kids no matter the gender. As a matter of fact-- there is a guy up the street from where I live. He has two of the cutest little sons. He lugs them up every evening in a colorful LITTLE TIKES wagon to the park. He has a little cooler in there with them with juice boxes and snacks. They go to the park and he watches them play. Helps them get on the slides. Pushes them in the swings. Helps them ride the springy animals*. *(I don't know what those things are actually called. But they are those big iron animal thingys with handles with large iron spring buried in the ground...those things.) He even reads to his kids. He takes them everywhere.

But I understood where you were coming from, Romm. Your father probably wasn't as involved in your life because he really didn't feel like he was supposed to be. That is a dynamic and that is kinda sad: Being a father and you don't feel like you are a part of your own child's or children's life. But there are dynamics like that in families.

Yeah, the kids bond with the mother but they can bond with the father as well.

 

[invisibleman]

If women don't want children then they shouldnt have any. Children can't be disposed of when unwanted.

Yeah.

I'm also wondering what toll divorce has on children. How do parents explain that daddy or mommy is moving out and isn't coming back?

Divorce affects kids. But it is the duty of the parents make the transitions better for the kids. Consider what is best for them in the long run.

 

[EboniGoddess]

Divorce affects kids. But it is the duty of the parents make the transitions better for the kids. Consider what is best for them in the long run.

Well, often times whats best for them is that the parents stay together. I remember watching Dr. Phil and these girls (they were adults) said that they wanted a husband just like their father because they thought they had the perfect family. They were on Dr. Phil because their father all of a sudden wanted a divorce from their mother because he said he's gay and couldn't "keep it a secret anymore". I thought that was aweful. If he was gay he should have never married his wife or had children. Sometimes parents can be selfish and only care about themselves