Why are some guys insecure with average size dicks?

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  1. Rommette

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    I mean yes we do like big dicks but there is a suck thing as being too big. Recently my fuck buddy asked me is he big enough for me. He's average I must say but he is big enough. Sometimes for me size isn't the problem its that guys are too stiff and don't know what to do with it. I swear with some guys I just wanted to say "fuck me harder now". His size is not a problem for me because he knows what he's doing. I'd rather have a normal sized dick than one that's big for nothing. Basically, any guy can be a woman's best sexual encounter if he just fucks her the right way. I just thought i'd share this thought to the men of lpsg being that some of you are so insecure with their sizes.
     
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    There is a natural competitiveness with men, and when it comes to dicks, being the biggest is seen as the best.
     
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    the only thing i'm not happy about is not being your fuck buddy!
     
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    Amen, this pretty much sum's it up.
     
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    yo rontar step off i got dibs on that
     
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    I have a small dick, in fact it's less than average, but I'm not insecure about it.

    If I meet a size queen then I'm not the guy for her. Simple as that.

    I've had many gf's who are quite happy with my equipment.

    OK, I'd love a big monster dick, but I don't let that inhibit me or spoil my life.
     
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    Well, I am a bit insecure because of having a slender cock. Its a solid 6" long, even a bit over six when super hard, but the girth is just a hair under 4.5" around.

    You hear so many women saying they prefer girth, you hear thin erections called "pencil dicks" or "needle pricks", you see so many thick cocks in porn... it all leaves me being a bit insecure!
     
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    I'm an average guy, just over 6.5" and I was really insecure about my size, for whatever reasons. All that changed with I started posting pictures of myself here though I have to say. Peoples comments really helped with the ol' confidence levels :)
     
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    Gotta work with God gave you. And its already been said, yes, men are naturally competitive and this is something touchy because one) the bigger you are, the bigger "man" you are, two) the bigger dick you have, the more girls you'll have, three) the more girls you'll have, the more sex you'll get.

    Men find a competition out of everything, and its interesting to find that some average guys have no self respect for themselves. I always talk about the perfection of a guys dick when I'm with him sexually, because he has NO say in the size that he has.
     
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    Are people happy making average money? Are people happy when their favorite sports team is average? Are people happy with their average home? Average job? Average life?

    Most of us strive for better. And when their is nothing you can do about their average cock it sucks.
     
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    Nowadays with such ease of access to online porn, men are more often comparing themselves to those with unusually large cocks than comparing themselves with average guys. Therefore they are going to feel insecure because what actually is an average dick can look small compared to porn stars.
     
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    I think it's a natural part of being a man. I never feel more masculine than whan I am rock-hard and ready for sex, it's a real turn on to see me and know what's coming. What's a bigger turn on is to be rock-hard and huge, I can see it and it's so big and ready. We can theorise: for most of human evolution we were non-monogamous, only in the last thousand years or so has this been a part of humanity. Prior to that, for a man to have offspring, he had to compete with other men. A larger penis will deposit semen closer to the uterus, giving men with larger penises a greater chance of propogating into the next generation. Women get turned on and aroused by girth, so during human development in the absence of loving relationships, a thicker penis has a better chance of repeat bouts of sex has a better chance of propogating.

    The other side of size, I feel, is the ready availability of porn, mostly with well-endowed actors. In my lifetime, porn has moved from something fringe to being everywhere. There's no way that an average-sized guy can get away from all of these big dicks, and if his natural evolutionary instinct is to want to be bigger himself, then he can't help but feel insecure.

    There's been penis size jokes since the Roman empire, so while women can say 'it doesn't matter to me', clearly it matters to men and always will. I feel that a large penis DOES make me feel more masculine, and that is a nice feeling.
     
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    Your cock is by no means small. You're above average in length, and pretty much right at average in girth (the average girth is about 4.6"). The real average penis is much smaller than you think.
     
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    Why do women feel insecure about having average bodies?
     
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    It took me a lot of years to realize that I was above average, I spent my youth thinking that I had a small cock because all I saw were the huge porn cocks.

    A lot of boys see adults naked and compare their cocks with them, carrying a lasting impression.

    F Scott Fitzgerald actually asked Ernest Hemmingway how a man could handle having a small cock, because Zelda always mocked him about his dick. Hemmingway responded: "I've got the six inches that most men have, and that is all that any woman needs."

    I have exactly what I want, except the fact that sometimes I'm with a guy and he gets wierd about having a smaller cock. I just wish he'd shut up and be thankful, because anything bigger than 6", and the back door becomes off limits!
     
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    There's suck thing as being to big? Fruedian slip?

    the same goes for guys. What do you want me to do with that thing, club a baby seal with it? Hit a homerun? I want to make love, not wrestle an alligator!

    Plus, anything I can't suck on or sit on is just a waste.
     
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    Insecurity is caused by many things. The first thing is that as children we often see Fathers or older Brothers nude who are in a different stage of life than we are. At the time this is not a problem, but later as the size issue is introduced to our brains, we compare the memories of what we were at that time with the larger ones we have seen and as a result we are never large enough.

    When I was in HS I was in a flaccid state probably slightly above the norm. There was one kid who was a "late bloomer" and that kid took a ton of abuse because of this. I can guarantee you that in adulthood that he suffered some damage as a result.

    As a gay man I was around and by total accident grew to know some men from the gay porn industry. People I had met in person included the late Scott O'Hara, Lee Ryder, Lance, Ed Wiley, Al Parker, Jeff Stryker and a host more than that. It was a total fluke, but I was in West Hollywood at the right or wrong time depending on how one would look at it. I also developed long term friendships with several of these men. Most of these men are now long gone and that is sad.

    Let's discuss the porn illusion and how it works. Scott O'Hara was one of the most interesting. Scott when he was in good health never weighed over 115 pounds in his life and his height was just over 5' tall. I heard incredible numbers quoted, but in reality Scott was probably no more than 7.5-8.0 inches. This looked absolutely monstrous on his small body. Ed Wiley became a good friend. Ed was in truth one of the really big boys and his height was between 5'10-5'11" tall. I was at numerous pool parties with Ed (not his real name) in Palm Springs. These parties were at the very end of his health. In reality that one quite possibly was close to double digits. Al Parker became a good friend and I spent time at his home at the beach before he relocated to the San Francisco Bay area shortly before his sad death. Al, (Born Drew Okun) was a really nice guy who stood about 5'5" tall and weighed about 135-140 pounds. His body proportion made him look larger than he was and this of course magnified his assets as well. Probable real size was somewhere in the area of just over 8 inches. Jeff Stryker (also not his real name) is about 5'4" and has the same proportion that gives a slightly larger than average penis the effect of looking much larger than it is. This is a common trait to most men in porn. Camera angles and lighting are all done to accentuate the size of their genitals and remove focus from other things that could give away their photographic secrets.

    Porn is an illusion and the idea of it is arousal. The idea of a very large penis is more arousing than the illusion of an average one. There was a time I was one of those individuals who was insecure about my size. I am average and have nothing to be ashamed of though like most I would like more. When I had the good fortune to meet many of these people I learned so much that it removed most but not all of my own insecurity.

    There are many men with very large penile dimensions. Like everything else in life it is a mixed bag. I have a friend in LA who is blessed (cursed in his opinion) with genitals that belong on a Clydesdale. This man is so large that he has been rejected numerous times by sex partners when they are unable to figure out how to give him pleasure. One person I know who tried made the coment: "It would be like trying to go down on the Washington Monument". He has two Brothers and both have similar endowments. In his case it has not been a blessing. He is a good friend and for that reason his identity will remain private, but it is not magic for everyone. There is nothing wrong with being average.........
     
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    Average guy here
    Worked all ways with m/f over the years taken large .. and have had no probs at all
    GREAT for those with Large and for those who enjoy such
    similar with average and smaller just so nice that it all works
    As long as theres no problems to anyone
    Just feel so much for those who feel intimidated re there given equipment...so sad for them to go thru life with a possible inferiority complex
    (then again i imagine theres folk who have .. say 9' and feel intimidated seeing say a 9.1'?)
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    OP i can sympathize with you .. i am just imagining some sensless horrible person with a weapon thats Stiff as a board...eeewww yuk'
     
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    I'm 7.3 x 6ish and I am told I am large, and I see myself as big, and yet you still get guys come on here and say "I'm just average but I'm happy with it bla bla" and yet they are 6.5 x good girth. If they think they are average, then what am I etc etc? Do some guys prefer to play themselves down?
     
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    I have an average sized dick (5.5 - 6 inch) which I consider small, but I'm not insecure about it. I've had many women and I have sexually satified them all and they were quite happy with my size as it was a case of what I did with my dick that counted.

    Yes, I'd love a big fat dick, but I don't let that inhibit me or spoil my life.
     
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