Why are some guys so against kissing in gay porn?

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I don't understand it. You can put another guy's dick in your mouth. You can lick his butt or even put your tongue in his butt. You can even slide your dick into another man's ass and/or have him do it to you. But suddenly KISSING another guy is the line you won't cross?

It seems insane to me, and I find it such a turnoff in gay porn. If a guy can't kiss and get intimate with another man (or at least fake it well), then I don't want to watch it.
 

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I don't understand it. You can put another guy's dick in your mouth. You can lick his butt or even put your tongue in his butt. You can even slide your dick into another man's ass and/or have him do it to you. But suddenly KISSING another guy is the line you won't cross?

It seems insane to me, and I find it such a turnoff in gay porn. If a guy can't kiss and get intimate with another man (or at least fake it well), then I don't want to watch it.
some dont watch porn for the romance.
 

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In the porn industry gay and straight.. there are guys and girls that don’t kiss during their sex scenes ..
Reason is a lot of these pornstars are dating each other

or dating someone else that’s not in the porn scene and they can tolerate them sucking and fucking other guys (girls in straight porn). As long as no kissing goes on..

It’s kind of weird how they think this way.. but it’s their right to be this way..

Kissing and making out a lot before sex is more pleasurable and intimate than just taking clothes off and going directly to sex ..


I guess I see their point. On this .. I never consider it cheating if my bf at the time sucked another guys dick.. now if anal went on and all.. then that’s when I’d think he was cheating..

That’s why in regular movies when actors kiss and make out during their scene .. it puts a strain on their true life relationships
 
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Kissing =/= romance
Maybe not for you. And that's okay.

But for many, kissing is a show of intimacy and reserved for a partner. For them it may be something they don't want to do with someone who is nothing more than a co-worker, maybe even someone they just met.
 
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Maybe not for you. And that's okay.

But for many, kissing is a show of intimacy and reserved for a partner. For them it may be something they don't want to do with someone who is nothing more than a co-worker, maybe even someone they just met.
Yes this is what some porn stars have expressed. I think it's a bit silly and backwards bht they're allowed to think what they want I guess.

I think a better question is, is kissing something studios should allow performers to opt out of. At all.

Where is the limit? What are the standards we should expect in porn? Are there any at all? Something to think about.
 
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I don't understand it. You can put another guy's dick in your mouth. You can lick his butt or even put your tongue in his butt. You can even slide your dick into another man's ass and/or have him do it to you. But suddenly KISSING another guy is the line you won't cross?

It seems insane to me, and I find it such a turnoff in gay porn. If a guy can't kiss and get intimate with another man (or at least fake it well), then I don't want to watch it.
I think men are typically wired sexual for the raw sex…. Kissing is far more intimate. So when we watch porn or even maybe a hookup…. Kissing is at the bottom of the turn on list.
If I’m sleeping with a man I have a connection with and want him… yeah. Kissing isn’t an issue
 

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I’m not really into guys kissing in porn, I’m not really into gay porn although I have watched some, I love watching guys jerking off, but that’s because I’m not really into guys. I’m just into dicks. I love sucking and jerking cocks, I love making them cum.. I’d happily put a guys cock in my mouth, but that’s all.. I’m not really interested in sex or intimacy with guys.. I’m not even interested in reciprocation, I’d rather be sucked by a woman..

I’d love to suck a football team in the locker room after a game. I’d be completely happy just sucking them all off until they cum. I’d probably be happy to let some of them use my ass too, as long as I’m happily sucking then they might as well make use of it while they're waiting. Plus, It would certainly be quite hot getting spit roasted while they all swap and take turns. I certainly wouldn’t want them kissing me or giving me any other type of affection.. I just want cock

Can’t really explain why that is..
 

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I'll agree with the consensus that fucking without kissing is just "doing a job". Fucking WITH kissing means that there's a level of attraction, or well-played fake attraction on the part of at least one of them.

What I really hate is the spitting in the mouth, but crud like that, along with abuse and torture, float many viewer's boats. Just not mine.
 

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I don't understand it. You can put another guy's dick in your mouth. You can lick his butt or even put your tongue in his butt. You can even slide your dick into another man's ass and/or have him do it to you. But suddenly KISSING another guy is the line you won't cross?

It seems insane to me, and I find it such a turnoff in gay porn. If a guy can't kiss and get intimate with another man (or at least fake it well), then I don't want to watch it.
If someone hasn't already said it - there was an actual study on this phenomena.
When a heterosexual man sees two men kiss, there is a brain reaction that is exactly the same as if he saw someone vomit etc. It is just part of our survival of the species instincts.
Think about it. If all dudes were attracted to other dudes as much as girls - why would anyone date a girl??
 

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If someone hasn't already said it - there was an actual study on this phenomena.
When a heterosexual man sees two men kiss, there is a brain reaction that is exactly the same as if he saw someone vomit etc. It is just part of our survival of the species instincts.
Think about it. If all dudes were attracted to other dudes as much as girls - why would anyone date a girl??
You're just describing bisexuality. Bisexual men date and are attracted to women. If they didn't care for women then they would just be gay. It actually would make more sense to date straight women since there are more of them than gay and bisexual men as far as I know. If you did think about it you would realize that not every man and woman is the same and some might just be more attractive. Another thing, what study are you talking about? Do you have a link to the abstract at least? Describing it as the same response as someone vomiting is certainly a biased description. There is some similarity between the reaction to eating cake and taking drugs. But you don't have to sensationalize it so much you can just say, "disgust/discomfort" or "pleasure."
 

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You're just describing bisexuality. Bisexual men date and are attracted to women. If they didn't care for women then they would just be gay. It actually would make more sense to date straight women since there are more of them than gay and bisexual men as far as I know. If you did think about it you would realize that not every man and woman is the same and some might just be more attractive. Another thing, what study are you talking about? Do you have a link to the abstract at least? Describing it as the same response as someone vomiting is certainly a biased description. There is some similarity between the reaction to eating cake and taking drugs. But you don't have to sensationalize it so much you can just say, "disgust/discomfort" or "pleasure."

Straight men's physiological stress response to seeing two men kissing is the same as seeing maggots

Straight Men React To Two Men Kissing: Same-Sex PDA Heightens Physiological Stress Similar To Maggots

To be clear, I am not expressing an opinion, rather referring to a study that honestly, pretty much everyone already knows.
 
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Those studies don't say if it's an inherent instinct or the result of societal prejudice. Also, your point of bi guys theoretically only dating men still isn't right.
 
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I've watch gay porn off and on since the 70's . I watch it for the sex act alone, weathers it's a blow job, anal or fisting its just the sex act that turns me on.
Kissing just doesn't turn me on in gay porn.
It's the same in regular porn, I 'm not watching the video to see you kissing, I'm watching it so see you have sex.
 

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I've watch gay porn off and on since the 70's . I watch it for the sex act alone, weathers it's a blow job, anal or fisting its just the sex act that turns me on.
Kissing just doesn't turn me on in gay porn.
It's the same in regular porn, I 'm not watching the video to see you kissing, I'm watching it so see you have sex.
Don't some people consider kissing part of sex? Of course, it could be an individual opinion that you don't share but I think for some it is.
 
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Who cares? You're fooling yourself if you think pornstars kissing would make it somehow actually wholesome or romantic. Even applying the word "intimacy" to what happens in porn is ridiculous. But perhaps fooling yourself is what you want to do...
 
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