Why are some people so mean?

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  1. nakedwally

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    i don't understand why some people have to be so nasty and do things to inentionally hurt you i am sick of it. I am not talking about anything anyone on this forum did i am just talking in general. I mean what do people get out of making another persons life miserable, the past few days i have some really nasty people i have had to deal with. there is a person that is intentionally flagging my classified ads online so they will be removed, ads i depend on for work, and people are just downright nasty, one woman came up to me at bingo outside in the smokers area and said flat out get the fuck outta my way faggot, why are people so mean, and i know it's not just me i know other people go through this, i am really pissed off. a whole lot of other stuff has happened too. am i just being sensitive or reacting normally? i want to cry just about now... what the hell is wrong with some people???:mad::mad::mad:
     
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    I just want to give you a big hug after reading that. I don't know why people are so shitty, and I don't even think it's worth trying to figure out most of the time. Just comfort yourself knowing that you're not a nasty, mean person.

    The other thing to think about is that many of people that are acting like assholes are acting out because of some deep pain they feel-- and if you look at them as people that are hurting and can't get it out in a productive way, it may make you feel better about it. How awful must it be to feel so badly that you're cruel to people you don't even know?

    And sometimes, some people are just plain assholes and that's their problem, not yours.

    Take care,

    Susan
     
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    well some people are so mean cause maybe they feel bad..and a way of making themselves feel better is to make others suffer....i have been very stressed lately at work, so many damn bills...my wife has been going through stuff dealing with the death of her mom...my sons are just in their own private worlds...i am feeling so damned stress...but my usual answere to stress is to fuck..yes..banging has always helped me relieve stress....its like a great work out for me....but wife has been off limits...and i havent been able to contact my regulars...so i am at breaking point...porn and beatin off do not alleviate it.....well...it doesnt make me mean...just higly anxious...sorry didnt mean to ramble....
     
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    Sorry you've been having such negative experiences. Everyone has a nasty side and sometimes you will run into several in a row.

    You deserve to be loved and respected. I hope you always remember that.

    Mega
     
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    I believe that people are mean because of September 11 and the aftermath of it all. This war. The economy is weird. Life as we know it in America will NOT be the same for awhile. People are mean shits. Even in my own immediate family. I think the media's succumbance to schadenfreude has a trickle down effect. All that anger from people directed towards you came from some place else and doesn't have anything to do with you.

    The best thing to do to counteract all that negativity is to do good and to find the good in peeps. I know that is hard after getting the shit.

    This is what I do when I am having a rough time I will rent some REALLY funny movies. Pure comedies. Get some old cartoons you watched as a kid. Buy something humorous. Laughter is the best medicine. You really have to have some pity for people who are mean because they are frustrated. Anger is a part of some form of frustration. People are having a hard time dealing with their own problems. Not everyone knows how to handle things in their own life. Life isn't too good for some. That is a frustration.
     
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    i really wish everyone could be as nice as you guys are to me
     
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    Another great idea would be to form a support/dialogue group about "Why ARE people so DANG angry?" People's frustrations need an outlet. They need a voice. They need a positive non-violent, non-abusive way of coping, dealing, and resolving. People NEED to learn effective ways of coping with life struggles.
     
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    i totally agree
     
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    Sweetheart,

    You are a love bug. I dont know how someone couldnt be nice to you. But then there are lots of very mean people in this world. I think one reason you may find people here is because they have similar experiences and interests to yours This is your urban tribe brought together through electronics. So enjoy your family, baby!
     
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    easier said than done lol :biggrin1:
     
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    I would second this.

    It may seem like cold comfort but the actions of other people, even when you perceive them to be deliberately behaving like assholes toward you, have alot more to do with them than you. Their anger, their jealousy, their discontent, their greed, their issues get vented at any convenient target. Its they who are living in hell, and they'll try to take you with them if you let them. Don't.

    I know its terribly difficult to remember this when you perceive yourself to be under attack. Somehow you've got to find the strength to rise above them. I know its not easy.

    PM me if you'd like to talk more.

    SG
     
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    I wondered what was my missing Native American tribe was. I am African-American with Urban tribe. :smile:
     
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    As others have already said, people are mean because they themselves need to feel better. They need to think they are better than someone else to ease their own insecurities and pain. Chin up, Wally, you know all of us here love you!:smile:
     
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    Much the same as others have already said: people are mean to others and belittle others to make themselves feel better. Of course it doesn't work, and the misery perpetuates itself. Only if you let it get to you. Of course its gonna get to you if you depend on the classified ads for work, but remember: if you're a nice person with a good life and good friends, there's no time to be mean and petty. People who are mean and nasty are really showing how much their life sucks. Or how much they think it sucks. To go off on a bit of a tangent, you know those people who aren't exactly mean, per se... but they find opportunities to insult others disguised as jokes? Those people are also losers. The good news, though is they hate to be called out on it. If you know someone like that, say "y'know... you love to make fun of others, but hate it when the joke is about you. There must be some deep-seated insecurity that makes such a sweetheart." I said that to a dude once, and he sulked for a while... and he no longer makes snarky little remarks.
     
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    If you never learn the lesson that other people are the most valuable thing you can have in your life, you will find your life is truly worthless.

    Pity the true assholes as they will feel empty inside.
     
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    I think this a lot myself. I believe in Karma completly.
    It is those that have a true and good heart that win in the end. Those mean nasty bitter people live their lives in hate and emptyness. All that rage is really what they feel inside and it is just being spat at you. Be thankful that you do not have so much anger inside of you and that people do love you.
    Easier said than done I know. It really does seem unfair that the kindest people get shit on for things they have no control over. I'm sorry you get treated this way. I bet though, on their way home their miserable ass falls as they trip up the stairs or something.
     
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    Well... people who are just mean and nasty in general and get off on making other people miserable are usually pretty miserable themselves and can't stand seeing anyone else having any sort of satisfaction or pride or happiness... things that they lack themselves... and so they seek to undermine these things wherever they see them. That pretty much describes my sister to a T.

    As for people who call you a faggot... I think that comes from a different place. That's more a case of disgusting and flagrant ignorance and bigotry in my book than it is just the sort of general malevolence that I think you were describing. I think the former is probably worse.
     
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    Angry people are jerks, and pretty unpeasent. But luckily you have a place to come to where everyone will comfort you. Don't worry about the angry ones, they have a lot more issues to deal with if they have to take it out on you. Ignore them, and their words, instead just look at them and see that all that anger is their wounds. Typically I feel bad for angry people, but come sit by the fire and enjoy some snacks.

    *gets out some hot coco and cookies*
     
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    This thread has restored my faith in humanity for one more day. There is so much insight in it, and it is genuinely helpful to a kind member. Way to go LPSG.
     
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    Wally! This is the main talking points of a group who have no respect for human life to begin with. Their lack of social skills is the crux of their anger. One look at a recent thread in which they hope death for someone who was about to have surgery says it all. So instead of being mad we must be more understanding and pity them. A true Heathen cant even see his own light. They are the mirror blind. So they live in fear. To look up and not see the sky must be the worst thing and we cant even imagine. Their sky is made of glass and just beams their sad life back down to them............
     
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