Good points, but I don't think that "being in a relationship" has much to do with being lonely or not.
One can be in a wonderful relationship and STILL be lonely. I don't expect anyone to agree with me, but I think it's unreasonable and unfair to expect a partner to "fill up" all your chinks and holes. What a dreadful burden to place upon another human being!
Most people have MANY sides to themselves. That's what make people unique.
In any case, I think "loneliness" is on the decline because the Internet makes it easier to find people with similar interests and quirks.
Because people don't love themselves, and they aren't happy with themselves.
Good point!Because people don't know how to communicate and other people won't listen.
Frankly, having a hearing loss made me more receptive to people. I spent as much time talking to people as I listened, and it helped.
I still run into people who are insulated from common sense when it comes to talking, interupting a line of thought to make a joke before the end of a statement, and wondering why the talk doesn't go further. When you deliver mixed signals, you get them back.
There are people who are so immersed in their misery and won't consider alternatives.
Etc.
We are alone.
The thing is you can be incredibly lonely surrounded by many many people.
I think it is epidemic especially among teens and elderly people especially here in the land of wealth. Does our societal structure and the way we live unintentionally cut off certain people from the flow of life? Yes and no, bad answer but with all the technological innovations such as cell phones, Blackberrys, ande-mail you can be in constant contact with pretty much anybody. Or do people choose to be lonely? Some people do choose to be lonely. Viking1 comes to mind. Though a nice guy, he doesn't believe it, so other than work he isolates himself. Then there are the curmudgeons among us. They take pride in running people off with their gruff rudeness.
When a society judges worth in terms of usefulness, this is bound to happen. Children and Older people generally are on the taking end of the scale. Those in their prime are producing. Even among those who are producing everyone has his or her grocery list and when someone has a quirk or two it tends to ex them out of the running. Yup! We live with the Im ok but you better be damn near perfect mentality out here. So why is anyone surprised?You are so right! :lmao: That is the sad truth.
Good points, but I don't think that "being in a relationship" has much to do with being lonely or not.One can be in a wonderful relationship and STILL be lonely. True, but thats the fault of the people involved. Though neither of them ever realize it.:tongue: I don't expect anyone to agree with me, but I think it's unreasonable and unfair to expect a partner to "fill up" all your chinks and holes. What a dreadful burden to place upon another human being! Most people have MANY sides to themselves. That's what makes people unique. In any case, I think "loneliness" is on the decline because the Internet makes it easier to find people with similar interests and quirks. Ahh, I was with you on this one Hotmilf until that last sentence. The internet encourages solitude. You can live your life online without ever having to deal with another living being. It is entirely possible to work from home and telecommute, place grocery, clothing, and individual meal orders online and delivered. The only human you ever need see is your delivery person or UPS guy. :tongue:
Great Points. I think also that people often idealize the coupled state when they themselves are not a part of it at the time. Both being alone and being with others have their benefits and drawbacks. True. There are some seasons of one's life where circumstance has made it so that one is too busy to focus the needed attention on a personal relationship that it deserves. So it is best to fill one's life with wholesome activities and find opportunities to enjoy people and things that are not necessarily romantic. If you dont have your family with you make family of others. True, I have done this at various times in my life; but when the deal goes down and night falls, I'm still alone. :redface: I know I am not speaking for everyone. There are those who are shut in or unable in other ways to reach out but for many of us we still do have that ability.Interesting. What place do useless people have in any society? I take it you mean "useful" in the broadest of terms here. I gather not all useless people are lonely though, perhaps they just developed or were taught the social skills to find and keep friendships.Perhaps knowing people has become more of a bother than good thing in our day in age and it is just easier being alone despite the anguish.
What do you mean by people in their prime who are "producing"? I can't speak for her but I took her to mean those who are working and are a valuable productive members of society. Senior citizens and children enrich and add joy to the lives of their family and friends; but rarely are they tax paying citizens in the way that a 35 year old fireman, sanitation worker or nurse are.
They are looking for a heart.
Looking, but never finding. Either in myself or someone else. I cannot find a heart...:sad:
I didn't say it was easy to find a heart. It's not. That's why there are so many lonely people. You have a heart. You must feel your own heart and have it open before you can beat in Sync with another. The Spark must be in your heart before seek a Permanent flame in another heart. I think our world and society in general has grown so complex and cold i fear many people may never find someone.Looking, but never finding. Either in myself or someone else. I cannot find a heart...:sad:
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Looking, but never finding. Either in myself or someone else. I cannot find a heart...:sad:
Why do you think I said that? I don't love myself. I'm not sure I ever have.read invisible man's post
Why do you think I said that? I don't love myself. I'm not sure I ever have. Neither do I know what to do about it...