Why are women attracted to gay men?

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  1. Dan the man

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    Not all women obviously, but there are a few. Just curious really. Is it because they feel it's an interesting challenge to see if they can persuade the man to be turned on by them? Is it because they don't feel threatened for some reason? Is it because they enjoy a more sensitive and emotional aspect that perhaps gay men have that hetero men may lack a little? I sometimes wonder if I could ever make a lesbian change her mind and be attracted to me, although have never tried that and probably won't. :smile:
     
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    Cleanliness? Ability to shape my brows perfectly? :)

    From living in The Bay and West L.A. I have known a lot of gay men; I wouldn't say they were more sensitive or emotional. The few I dated we managed to do so because there was no pressure or initial attraction, it just kinda grew from spending time together, sleeping together, and clubbing.

    Side note: Many lesbians love to suck dick and get fucked by men. Many gay guys like to taste and fuck pussy. But you will never change them, they are gay. :) If you're lucky, they'll decide you as a person are who they want to be with even though you're missing the wrong bits. Which is very possible!

    Two of my married friends are in gay-straight relationships - one a woman (lesbian) who married her childhood friend. She still sleeps with women on occasion. The other a gay male who's with one of my BF. He sleeps with and is only interested in her. Yes, I am from California, folks...
     
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    girls want what they cant have. simple as that
    thats why girls like when your an asshole to them.. (you know what i mean..) if you give them everything they want, and kiss their ass, 99% of them will lose interest and go find a challenge
     
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    Who told you women are attracted to gay men? I only have one gay friend, and he is just llike any other friend I have, but I do feel confortable around him in ways that i wouldnt with some other guy friends. He doesn't pose a threat to me of any sort, so our friendship is based upon a completely neutral ground.
     
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    Think_Kink is for one, its even in her sig. Chockokittie just mentioned some examples too. :smile:
     
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    1) If they're not feeling horny, they feel safe.

    2) If they are feeling horny - what greater challenge.

    Heads the gay guy wins. Tails the gay guy ...erm...wins.

    Show me the straight guy who isn't convinced he can "convert" a lesbian or at least give her some pleasure that "she's missing from her life".

    A gay friend of mine generally mixes with both gay and straight guys but knows where he can get laid.

    He's open to me, his buddy, though that his greatest kick is bedding a "straight" guy (especially if the guy is in a hetero relationship). He just loves the challenge.


    He gets on like a house on fire with girls cuz he feels "safe".

    he also beds at least one female each year in a sort of catholic confessional ritual and just to prove to himself that he can.

    And he can, so easily, cuz all the girls wanna try to be the one to "convert" him or show that they can even attract a gay guy, or whatevever they do it for.
     
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    Dan,

    This is a very insightful question. I can't speak from experience but I imagine it is the sensitive side some gay men possess. Some know and understand the same things women do; they have the perfect balance of masculinity and femininity.

    I have a friend at work who fell hard for a gay man because he showed here courtesy and sensitivity after a bad divorce.
    But it was of course heartbreak waiting to happen. I don't really understand why women put themselves under such stress. Life is too short to be running after something that will never be.

     
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    So true.
    With #1 You have just described my every youthful encounter with a gay guy. We were chillin', cuddling, sleeping, whatever... Totally comfortable and not sexual until he popped a boner, or said "can I lick you", or I started getting "huggy" (one always got a semi from hugging or close contact :confused:), or we were just returning from a club... and whatever that meant at the time. :wink:
     
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    Oh the passion, the dedication to your orgasm, the curiosity of how it all works, the beauty, the gentle touch, the inquisitive behavior, the lack of awkward feelings when you wake up embraced by someone who loves other men. Simple raw attraction. There is no supposed danger there, they are much more peaceful and interested in you as a person, rather than a hole to fuck, but when they do fuck you... good god.

    I urge everyone to read the story attached in my signature... seriously.

    Now Dan, it must be said. I am attracted to gay men, sleep with gay men, pursue gay men as sex partners, buttt I'm also bi-gendered. Which means I play both gender roles, despite having a vagina. I flip from being a bi-sexual girl to a gay man, so my interest are flawed and heavily drawn to the gender of my choice.. gay men.
     
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    being from CA also, i'm sure you and i are probably the only two people who acknowledge situations like this as a common thing.
     
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    I thought this was true of all men, regardless of their orientation. Being in close personal contact with a female body just trips something that's hardwired in us.
     
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    nope, fish doesn't get a rise outta me anymore whatsoever
     
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    I'd love to meet a women like you Think. Few and far between it seems like. Most women seem threatened by the bi thing let alone the challenge of the gay thing.
     
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    Well, gay marriages has been legal and common for years in Denmark (as usual we was the first to legalise it).
     
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    Gay men are usually the more caring and compassionate type that you can fuck and then sit down and tell all your insecurities to and not feel intimidated or the need to impress. And they dont put on the emotional untouchable front that straight men do which is so unattractive
     
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    Find a copy of the book, "Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys," and give it a read. Really, few of your assertions in the OP are on target, but this book could give you a much better insight into straight-woman-gay-man relationships.
     
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    I just thought of something related to this: how come people get upset over threads like how gay guys can seduce straight guys, but no one objects to straight women seducing gay men? Should straight men start actively pursuing lesbians? I wonder if the reason gay guys accept the woman's attention, when logically they shouldn't, is that it helps take off the societal pressure and stigma of being gay? So are women who pursue gay men actively helping gay men deny their true self? Is it selfish of the woman to do this--all the women here who are into this have listed what they get out of the gay guys but what do they offer gay men--when by definition, a gay man most wants another man? Interesting questions.
     
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    "NO". Natural Order. Also, women are seen as more promiscuous and therefore seductive in nature. A woman could seduce a goat and get away with it. As a matter of fact to my knowledge there's an entire genre of porn dedicated to just that, women training animals to perform sexual favors, or to have sex with them.

    If they want to. In reality it doesn't matter; neither is successful in their "conversions". Sport is sport.

    Or, perhaps, because males like stroking their egos? That's also a possibility. Perhaps it's from the knowledge that their state of mind allows them to do things they otherwise could not, or perhaps it's because they're simply better than you? No, I'm kidding, but some women would hate Ancient Greece; I wonder if gay men view women less like "sex objects" and more like, well... whatever else they are.

    No. The only person who can deny the self is the self.
    As I said: Sport is Sport. In the pursuing of a partner there is no such thing as selflessness. One wants what one wants.
     
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    If they are gay guys, how can they fuck women and still be considered "gay"?
     
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