Why are women attracted to gay men?

[Symphonic]

If they are gay guys, how can they fuck women and still be considered "gay"?

Because of today's definition of sexual orientation. "Action" is not the key and "Attraction" is all that matters. Homosexuals can, as with anyone, copulate with people they are not attracted to but still retain their sexuality. It's somewhat like a woman doing a man she does not really prefer; she still retains her preferences but can also have sex with those whom she normally would not, or "optimally", whichever.

 

[invisibleman]

Not all women obviously, but there are a few. Just curious really. Is it because they feel it's an interesting challenge to see if they can persuade the man to be turned on by them? Is it because they don't feel threatened for some reason? Is it because they enjoy a more sensitive and emotional aspect that perhaps gay men have that hetero men may lack a little? I sometimes wonder if I could ever make a lesbian change her mind and be attracted to me, although have never tried that and probably won't. :smile:

Maybe it is because gay men are intuitive and know how women are...I think. And the str8 women wish that their str8 men had a clue.

Gay men invented metrosexuality for str8 men so that they may become sexy or sexier to str8 women and possibly overcome the whole homophobia thing.

What. Did you think QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT GUY was a sitcom? :smile:

 

[HazelGod]

nope, fish doesn't get a rise outta me anymore whatsoever

And you wonder why people think you're a douchebag...

 

[AlteredEgo]

I don't know if I'm more attracted to gay men, or if they are more attracted to me. When I go to a gay bar or lounge and sit down, I make two or three new buddies for the night, before the cocktail server can even get my order. I should clarify: I'm not any more sexually attracted to hot gay men than I am to hot straight men. I do prefer gay bars to straight ones, and deliberately network with gay men. Gay men in bars have never made me feel unwelcome, and when I have extended friendliness to them, it has been returned in spades. I go to a bar on Tuesdays where I'm the equivalent of Norm on Cheers. I get to hug and kiss 30 hot guys before I can sit in the back, and if I don't find the fabulous drag queen hostess and hug her she talks smack about me on the mic (friendly ribbing).

In straight bars I never had this warmth and comradery even if I was a regular. Straight bars have too many women, and I just can't connect to most women in any significant way. The men in straight bars don't really want to talk much about anything real. They really only want to talk as much as they have to talk to achieve their goals which usually just creates a sexual tension I'm not comfortable with.

I've never been that comfortable with men regardless of orientation. On the other hand I get along with men better than with women, and gay men best of all because they don't want anything from me that I'm not already happy to give. I don't go out in search of straight men with whom to be friends because I didn't grow up with a lot of male influence, and I still have remnants of discomfort. I do still manage to make good friends out of heterosexual men, and women, and it pleases me greatly. However, my default companion is the gay man.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

Well, gay marriages has been legal and common for years in Denmark (as usual we was the first to legalise it).

denmark is so liberal it seems like nothing is illegal anymore lol. maybe i should move there.

i love the sarcasm behind the US politics and how they claim to be "ahead of the times" when they won't even legalize gay marriage here.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

I'd love to meet a women like you Think. Few and far between it seems like. Most women seem threatened by the bi thing let alone the challenge of the gay thing.

I really enjoy the challenge. I really do, I'm fascinated and obsessed with gay men.

Find a copy of the book, "Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys," and give it a read. Really, few of your assertions in the OP are on target, but this book could give you a much better insight into straight-woman-gay-man relationships.

I really want to get my hands on this book, see how common I am.

I just thought of something related to this: how come people get upset over threads like how gay guys can seduce straight guys, but no one objects to straight women seducing gay men? Should straight men start actively pursuing lesbians? I wonder if the reason gay guys accept the woman's attention, when logically they shouldn't, is that it helps take off the societal pressure and stigma of being gay? So are women who pursue gay men actively helping gay men deny their true self? Is it selfish of the woman to do this--all the women here who are into this have listed what they get out of the gay guys but what do they offer gay men--when by definition, a gay man most wants another man? Interesting questions.

Nah I'm a gender confused young adult who does what feels best.

 

[HyperHulk]

"NO". Natural Order. Also, women are seen as more promiscuous and therefore seductive in nature. A woman could seduce a goat and get away with it. As a matter of fact to my knowledge there's an entire genre of porn dedicated to just that, women training animals to perform sexual favors, or to have sex with them.

I'm not sure if you intended this, but this reads as being extremely misogynistic and insulting to women. I'm not sure where you live or who you run around with that you would conclude that women are more promiscuous then men. Every dating site and bar I've seen have a disproportionate number of men desperate to meet a woman and going home without a chance. The majority of women who engage in what could be considered "promiscuous" sex do so as part of survival sex--they have sex to make money and live. You'd have to have a pretty skewed world-view to start viewing all women as promiscuous.

Then you state, to underscore your point, that women will go as far as screwing goats as an extension of their promiscuity. Again, I challenge you on this when I will bet you that 100% of any bestiality porn you've ever seen or heard about was produced, directed and "scripted" by men. Yes I know these videos exist but this is no where even close to the number of men who engage in this. Recently a man died from being screwed by a horse. He belonged to a group that did this regularly and they even made a documentary about it. You could travel the world and meet a million people and I doubt you'll meet one woman who has had sex with a goat, but if you polled 100 guys you'll find a couple that have sucked off their dog.

And then you imply that since women will screw animals, of course they'll try and screw gay men. I don't see bestiality and homosexuality on the same level. Also, were talking about a small number of women here who actively pursue men who they know are gay. You'll never see a mainstream magazine writing "How to seduce a gay man". I would image the women who do go after gay men do so because they love guys character and how they treat them. And, as this site attests, that for many, sexuality is quite fluid and sometimes it really comes down to connecting with a decent human being. But to imagine that women go after gay men because you think women are slutty goat fuckers says more about your character than any woman's reality.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I'm not sure if you intended this, but ...

Wow! I was really tired when I first read that post, HH. I didn't see all of that in there. I have to admit, I completely could not understand it! It was so diametrical to anything I had ever thought of on my own that it just could not penetrate my brain. Wow. Thanks for calling them on it.