Why Being Only Top Or Bttm?

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For the same reason some people like Brussels sprouts and some don't. There are many things in the sexual canon... there are not many people who like all of them. Do you want to be fisted? Many people do. Do want to include excrement play in your encounters? Yep, there are those that like that too. Some guys like taking it, some like giving it, and some like both, to varying degrees. C'est la vie.

As to why? I'm sure there are as many reasons as there are people. I wouldn't waste time trying to figure it out. Just keep looking... you'll find somebody of like mind, and you'll be flip-fucking the day away!
 

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Being top/bottom/versatile is a fluid thing for me. Currently, I pretty much bottom only. But at various times in my life, I have been top or versatile. A LOT of it depends on the guy that I am in a relationship with. My current partner was top only when we met. But in the last few years he has been wanting to bottom a little bit. I have topped him a few times, but I really didn't enjoy it. So we have started using dildos more often.
 
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Being top/bottom/versatile is a fluid thing for me. Currently, I pretty much bottom only. But at various times in my life, I have been top or versatile. A LOT of it depends on the guy that I am in a relationship with. My current partner was top only when we met. But in the last few years he has been wanting to bottom a little bit. I have topped him a few times, but I really didn't enjoy it. So we have started using dildos more often.

yeah it depends on the person,totally agree with u. thanks for your reply!
 
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I am vers but i've always met a guy who is only top or only bottom and i don't understand why, are they afrad of something? Having sex is one best things in this life, why not enjoy both sides? haha

I wouldn’t say they are afraid of it. There are a universe of reasons for our likes and dislikes. My husband and I are versatile so it’s a great match for us. I have been in relationships where I was more top, or more bottom. I can get off both ways and am thankful for that.
 

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are they afrad of something?

I should add that I love to bottom because I not only get immense pleasure from it, but I also get the most pleasure by giving my body/hole to the top to use however he wants. I'm not satisfied until the top gets off and is finished.
 
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Only one good reason I can think of, when getting fucked just isn't possible because one is too tight. Then it hurts.

Otherwise I agree with everyone else: why not indeed. But it's a personal choice and you like what you like.
 
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I tried both , but I enjoyed bottoming so much . I even enjoy cumming hands free while getting fucked more than cumming in gay’s ass .. so it’s my pleasure which controls me
 
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as a guy who has only ever topped, I've tried bottoming maybe 5 or 6 times in over 30 years with long term partners and it did absolutely nothing for me at all and unlike some on here its not something I dream of. I have wished it was different at times that I did enjoy it both ways but its never happened. The guys I've been with have pretty much been the opposite, for all sorts of reasons, but mostly just because sexually that's what they were in to.

no great 'afraid ofs' or 'concern's just the way we're built
 

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Some people have their likes and dislikes. For me personally, I like to get men off...so if I gotta play with his ass to make him cum hard...I'll do it. I'm pretty freaky but I'm not into fisting but Indo like assplay on a smaller scale.
 

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I was afraid for most of my life. My husband and I are both tops (31 years now) and when we met during the worst of AIDS in the 1980's we had lost so many friends that thinking about fucking was really scary. After a couple of years, I tried bottoming for him but I was way too tight. He's now quite disabled and our last physical intimacy was at least 20 years ago.
I never fucked anyone until I was 60-- just BJs and mutual masturbation before. I now have a steady FB, who is the hottest man I've ever been with, and so far it's only been me topping him. He says I'm very, very good at it, but I want to bottom for him! I've been playing with a few toys for practice, and he's the kindest most gentle hunk imaginable (getting a graduate nursing degree at age 40). He's the one, I just need a few more weeks of practice!
 

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I was afraid for most of my life. My husband and I are both tops (31 years now) and when we met during the worst of AIDS in the 1980's we had lost so many friends that thinking about fucking was really scary. After a couple of years, I tried bottoming for him but I was way too tight. He's now quite disabled and our last physical intimacy was at least 20 years ago.
I never fucked anyone until I was 60-- just BJs and mutual masturbation before. I now have a steady FB, who is the hottest man I've ever been with, and so far it's only been me topping him. He says I'm very, very good at it, but I want to bottom for him! I've been playing with a few toys for practice, and he's the kindest most gentle hunk imaginable (getting a graduate nursing degree at age 40). He's the one, I just need a few more weeks of practice!
Wow,good luck with him! Let me know if you do it.
 

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I'm happy to go versatile in relationships. I find bottoming far too intimate for a more casual encounter, so I tend to top. I'm also a lot more into oral than either topping or bottoming.
I really enjoy your comment. I would love to try to become the bottom if you derive the intimacy you mention.
 

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I came here to ask this specific question. For me as long as there is willingness to try then fine. I cannot compute being in a relationship with someone who won’t try. Sex is a two way street - it isn’t solely about your pleasure. Yes you may not enjoy topping or enjoy bottoming - but where is the selflessness to give please to the other person?
 

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When I was younger, I used to get immense pleasure out of topping. However, once I started bottoming, I found that I can no longer maintain an erection while topping; it's psychological. As a result, I never do it anymore, even though I get very hard erections. Once it's in, it's immediate wilt city.
 

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I came here to ask this specific question. For me as long as there is willingness to try then fine. I cannot compute being in a relationship with someone who won’t try. Sex is a two way street - it isn’t solely about your pleasure. Yes you may not enjoy topping or enjoy bottoming - but where is the selflessness to give please to the other person?

If two people aren't sexually compatible then they should either have an open relationship or find someone more compatible. Neither side should be forced into a situation of doing something they don't want to do.