Javierdude22: [quote author=DeeBlackthorne link=board=relationships;num=1063737614;start=0#5 date=09/16/03 at 21:40:28]
Micro, on the one hand, there are going to be "ideals" of beauty or attraction or success thrown in your face all the time. On the other hand, it takes quite a bit of fortitude on your own part in order to get past the vulnerability you have toward them. Look at it this way. If someone approached you with the "I want you to be this way" attitude, you'd kick them to the curb, wouldn't you? (I hope you wouldn't deliberately change yourself, just to please enough. And with trump cards like dick size, you can't really do much about that.)
That's empowering -- you know, telling people who want you to be something you're not, to go fuck off.[/quote]
Hm, I don't think it was an actual question, but indeed a question for moral help. But Dee, you hit the spot on this I think.
I've personally asked the same question Micro, but for other reasons, more related to the problems sex can cause you emotionally and also relationship wise. But thats another topic.
I can only add to what Dee said already. You have to get past this and set standards for yoursélf instead of having others set those standards for you. This is a self esteem problem yóu have to overcome, while at the same time telling others to deal with it or hit the curb.
I am compelled to ask however where you meet these people and under what circomstances. In certain places looks, physique and ize are all that matters, when thgese traitas are less important in more low key environments. If you know what I mean. Clubs, no matter if your str8, bi, or gay, are never good for anything else but nookie, I have yet to have a sensible conversation there. Bars give you the opportunity to chat, and move on to the other person if the one you were talking to seems to be shallow. I may be completely off track with this, if so, I apologize.
And concerning your issues around size. I can honestly tell you there are many people that do not care for size., but go for other, more meaningful qualities. Just don't expect to find those people on certain internetpages, or nightlife venues.