Why can't i get hard when bottoming

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Not judging, but I think it is mostly in your mind. You say you get / stay hard when getting pegged by your wife....so it doesn't sound like a physical "thing." And you say that it feels good / pleasurable when getting fucked by a man--correct?

I think you just need to relax completely, and focus on the pleasure emanating from your ass. Slow your breathing....and clear your mind....just think about how good it feels to have another man's cock opening you up and sliding deep inside of you...just let go of everything mentally, physically, and emotionally.......and feel that dick inside of you......uuuummmmm...makes me hard just thinking about it!! Good luck my friend......
 

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It doesn't help. No hard on
I always go soft after being entered, but usually after going at it a little while I get hard again stroking myself-lube helps. Try this and see if you haven't done so already.
 

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I've loved anal for decades and I am like the OP, I just don't get or stay hard when being penetrated. I still feel intense pleasure. I have multiple prostate orgasms, ooze whitish fluid, and feel incredibly satisfied.

I also envy the guys who are hard while being fucked. I just don't seem to be wired that way. My anal orgasm epicenter is in a different place than my cocks... deeper, stronger, more whole body encompassing.
 

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I Even stay hard when the wife fucks me with a dildo or strap on but not with a guy


Are you totally cool with letting another guy fuck you? I noticed on your profile that you say you are 99% straight and 1% gay that is why I am asking. I figure most guys with those percentages probably wouldn't go much past a mutual JO session to straight porn with another dude. LOL

I am a whole lot gayer than 1% and it took me a while to warm up to the idea of letting an other guy stick his cock up my ass, and once I started getting fucked it took me a while before I could get past my own internalized homophobia and let go of my hang-ups that made me think I was somehow less of a man because I was being penetrated by another male and just relax enjoy the intense pleasure and intimacy of having another man inside me.