Why Can't Some Gays Understand The Concept Of "straight"?

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So many of the threads in "Ask a straight man" are just gay men asking if straight men would sleep with other men, or jerk off with other guys, or would they let a guy give them a blowjob. NO straight man would do those things. And if they do, they're not straight.

I'm not saying all of you ask those things, but if you do. Why?
 

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Three problems:

1) sexuality exists on a spectrum and very few "straight" people are 100%... it's very much a bell curve distribution according to most research

2) people's sexual desires change over time; someone who may have been curious at one moment might not be at another moment, and might be curious again a few weeks later

3) "straight" is self defined... plenty of self-professed straight men have had sex with other men; plenty of gay people have had sex with the opposite sex... "straight" is not a binary state for the vast majority of straight people. An occasional bit of same-sex fun doesn't mean someone is not focused on opposite sex for romantic relationship interests
 
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Three problems:

1) sexuality exists on a spectrum and very few "straight" people are 100%... it's very much a bell curve distribution according to most research

2) people's sexual desires change over time; someone who may have been curious at one moment might not be at another moment, and might be curious again a few weeks later

3) "straight" is self defined... plenty of self-professed straight men have had sex with other men; plenty of gay people have had sex with the opposite sex... "straight" is not a binary state for the vast majority of straight people. An occasional bit of same-sex fun doesn't mean someone is not focused on opposite sex for romantic relationship interests

what you say may or may not be true and valid, however, it ignores the question that @Le_Asmith proposed doesn't it?

The same happens on the AAW thread by straight guys asking the same questions to them - its just a bit boring, self centred, egotistical, pointless and as @malakos said just a bit creepy.

There's nothing to stop the self defined/on a spectrum straight guys approaching the gay guys on here if they're up for something but this constant theme by *some* gay guys on this site abusing the straight guys on the site is just a bit ......can't think of an appropriate word !!!
 
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I understand what you are saying but...

I'll add a question: Why straight men think that all gays want to have sex with them and they repeat (literally and indirectly) each gay they meet "I'm unreachable to you". This happends a lot and It's the reverse question you are asking, why do straight men do not know the concept of "gay".
 

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I understand what you are saying but...

I'll add a question: Why straight men think that all gays want to have sex with them and they repeat (literally and indirectly) each gay they meet "I'm unreachable to you". This happends a lot and It's the reverse question you are asking, why do straight men do not know the concept of "gay".
But that's not answer to my question, now it is
 
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I understand what you are saying but...

I'll add a question: Why straight men think that all gays want to have sex with them and they repeat (literally and indirectly) each gay they meet "I'm unreachable to you". This happends a lot and It's the reverse question you are asking, why do straight men do not know the concept of "gay".

I have quite the opposite experience. I don't ever witness adults behaving this way, including (more relevantly) on this site.
 

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I don't think it's an issue of not understanding someone being straight. Some people don't understand or respect boundaries. There are many profiles with pictures of beautiful cocks in them. If that person identifies as straight, I'm going to admire their pictures, maybe click the heart to signal that I like it, but I'm not going to engage them in conversation. What would be the point of doing that when I know they aren't interested. They are a sexual human being who likes different things than I do, not a conquest.
 
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But that's not answer to my question, now it is

No, but this post answered your question and you conveniently glossed over it.

Three problems:

1) sexuality exists on a spectrum and very few "straight" people are 100%... it's very much a bell curve distribution according to most research

2) people's sexual desires change over time; someone who may have been curious at one moment might not be at another moment, and might be curious again a few weeks later

3) "straight" is self defined... plenty of self-professed straight men have had sex with other men; plenty of gay people have had sex with the opposite sex... "straight" is not a binary state for the vast majority of straight people. An occasional bit of same-sex fun doesn't mean someone is not focused on opposite sex for romantic relationship interests

And I'll add that the personal experience you refer to in your question is a clear example of fragile masculinity combined with hetero-patriarchal supremacy. Your concept of "straight" is clearly wrong, one dimensional and personal to your own experience, and breaking news, your experience of straightness is not a universal law.
And by the way, the section is "ask a straight man" so anyone and everyone can go there and ask whatever they want without your self proclaimed gatekeeper arse feeling attacked by sexual nuances that you can't or won't comprehend.
 
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I'm assuming you're referring to @winesthel945 post. I ignored it because after "very few straight people are 100%", they lost all of their credibility. It wasn't worth my time

Right, so you are consciously choosing your own opinion as universal law and "standard of straightness".
So then why do you even bother to ask anything? I guess you just want to find other "straight" guys that fit your profile, do a bit of gay bashing and leave feeling vindicated in your own sexual ignorance.
Lovely attitude.
 

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This thread is quite toxic and just reenforces stereotypes. Gay men do not have a mission to ‘convert’ straight men, and straight men are allowed to be who they want to be. There have been many studies with straight homophobic men getting aroused by gay porn. If there is no stigma or labels, people would be much better off.
 

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I don't think it's an issue of not understanding someone being straight. Some people don't understand or respect boundaries.
I honestly think you're right on the money here that it is more of a boundaries thing than anything else. And I get it to a certain extent, the forum is specifically to facilitate open communication so people are going to ask what's on their mind. But sometimes the recipient of a bunch of horny guys' questions can feel like it's aggressively targeted. And I don't mean just from gay guys, straight guys do this sort of thing to women online and in person all the time. It's no wonder why women get sick of it. LOL
 

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So many of the threads in "Ask a straight man" are just gay men asking if straight men would sleep with other men, or jerk off with other guys, or would they let a guy give them a blowjob. NO straight man would do those things. And if they do, they're not straight.

I'm not saying all of you ask those things, but if you do. Why?
Because these queens are desperate, and some habe the mentality that "everyone, or every man is bisexual..." But they do not say this about themselves and being attracted to women.
 

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While i do agree with the above i can add something too: some gays just can’t get over with the fact that they are gay and that the world is working against them without them being guilty of anything. So the just keep wondering and wondering and wondering... quite a painful state of living. Wouldnt you say?