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Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by earllogjam, Dec 22, 2009.
With the special person you are with now....:smlove2:
I made the mistake of falling in love. Love is for losers who want to get cheated on like my wife cheated on me.
I'm so sorry that you are feeling that way. I can totally empathize and used to feel the same way. It's not love that sucks, it's the people that don't hold have the values to honor it.
People used to tell me that the hurt would go away. The hurt never completely goes away, but it does dull.
Damn, I can remember being exactly where you are at. (((Hugs)))
why is easy: he "gets" me
where is fact: house party at best (female) friend's house, she now admits subversive matchmaking when she introduced us months b4.
when is incremental: sometimes it just sneaks up on u, at first it was nothing but lust
how i knew: he told me i was being an ass at the party--i've met my match.
And for those of us who aren't jaded,...they were special, made me feel like a better man, and laughed at my bad jokes, while also putting me in my place when I was being ridiculous
I fell in love because I thought she was attractive, strong, hard working, intelligent, and sweet. That description was almost perfect- I just needed to substitute "bullheaded, uncompromising, unreasonable, stubborn, self-centered, and bitchy" for "sweet".
Thanks. I am sure I will get past it at least most of it. right now it's still new and raw and at a time of year when I would least want it.
i was tempted tp put because im stupid as an answer, but ill be more upbeat.
Because she the same as me. unfortuantely, probably too similar
Spot on CG, values and respect and trust play a big part, once one or all of them are broken, thats the end for me i guess.
Dunno, can't help it usually.
It's sometimes someone who's a bit of a challenge though, and slightly out of reach - or someone I admire because they have qualities that I don't.
Or...sometimes it's just because I think they're sweet, and either their attitude does it for me, or something
they've said or done highlights that they're a bit special. Grows over time usually though, and I notice more and more aspects of their personality that I like.
We had a wonderful dinner and laughed and got to know each other and afterward from the very first kiss he knocked me off my feet. We celebrated the anniversary of that first date last week and we are still falling in love over and over as the years go by.
For me, there is no reason why. To me, why would insinuate it was something I made a conscious decision to do, when in fact it was very spontaneous.
It just happened. Why I don't know. One minute I was washing dishes at my friend's house during a party, the next minute this gorgeous women was standing next to me drying them and I felt happy all over and we were laughing and I couldn't quite think straight.
Shucks, I would have jumped in and helped had I known you were'nt thinking "straight" :wink:
opportunity missed :frown1:
We were both kind of set up by a mutual friend without knowing it, which just goes to show she is an incredibly deceitful woman, because we both agreed that if we realised what she was trying, we both wouldnt have turned up.
She had a fancy dress (1920's theme) we both met at, we met and I realised he actually got my sense of humour, which is saying something because alot of people take it as criticism rather than me just being a smart ass.
I was actually really keen on him that night, but he seemed to be just a bit of a straight playful flirt, which is apparently what he thought about me too. Didn't realise until close to the end of the night he was into guys (even though it was damn obvious).
Got his details off my friend a day later, took a while to summon up the courage to call (bit out of the game for a while, was actually pretty sure I was heading back to women as a preference) and then he called me instead and apologised for taking so long to call me etc.
Been going great ever since, hes a hard working, very loyal and incredibly trustworthy guy. Into the same music and TV as me (and he has the same soft spot for Joss Whedon and US The Office) which all leads up to the fact he just feels right to me now. He is smart, honest, and is very comfortable in telling me when Im being stupid or ridiculous about something.
The fact that he is well hung and is pratically sex on legs is a great bonus as well
I found what I was looking for.
36D. Pretty face.
The rest happened later and has lasted 25yrs, along with the 36D.
This is interesting. The kinds of things that have made me fall in love (wit, mutual interests, and attraction) are completely different from the kinds of things that make me fall out of love (values, respect, and trust).
This is such a sweet thread. I love hearing these stories!