Why do black women on this site only like white guys?

[Proud7]

One bad experience does not suggest a pattern. When you identify a pattern, and a toxic one at that, do you still go into the situation with your eyes closed or are you more careful.

Maybe I will date a black guy again. I don't meet so many anymore but I like my lifestyle so I'm not going to change it just for that. and where one usually thinks, ok three strikes and they're out, more likely, it will be just once is enough.

A pattern of what? If you date 3 consecutive black men for example, and they all end poorly for whatever reason, does that indicate that all black men have some kind of issue in your eyes that you should refrain from dating any more in the future? Was what happened to you something that only a black man would do? Or does it indicate that there is some consistent quality in the men you're dating that have NOTHING to do with color? Perhaps you have historically been attracted to men with certain characteristics, which you have happened to find in some black men. That doesn't mean that those characteristics are indigenous to black men, or the black race for that matter.

Again, when did I say 'one bad experience'? I singled out a scenario with an ex-fiance as an example. Guess what? My last three gfs, including my current fiancee, are Portuguese. And it is strictly coincidence that it has happened that way. Now, the first one ended in a big fight, the second one I found out had another guy on the side. Do I then say to myself "well that's it. No more Portuguese women!" I mean, seriously?? The issue with those women had ZERO to do with their skin color, and everything to do with who they are as people. My fiancee is a TOTALLY different person from the previous two Portuguese women, people should not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. Guess who said that? And you know what, truer words have rarely been spoken.

And frankly, if you wish to research the term racism, one of the definitions is a belief that certain qualities exist and are dependent upon one's race. So essentially, if you are saying that you have had negative experience with Black men, if you refuse to date one in the future because you are painting all black men with the same brush as having certain qualities, then that mindset is racist. Which is frankly entirely your prerogative. But let's not pretend it's something other than what it is.

 

[sexyirishboy]

i have no problem with black or white in fact there are some yummy black ladys on this i think what matters is who ever u get along with is fine

 

[galaxus]

I have not noticed them so much. When I used to watch TV, I noticed that the African segement on CNN was supported by some bleaching cream.

Really!? Wow we never see commercials like that in the west. We always beat them them down as racist products.

Whenever I seen news specials about skin bleaching, racism, and beauty, they always bring up the topic of skin bleaching and the topic always end up in areas of Europe and India.

 

[galaxus]

Also let me ask this. So this thread has gone really deep. Lets try to make something clear.

Its not that the ladies think black people are physically unattractive, they just think that "black culture" and black mannerisms are unacttractive. Is this what you guys are trying to say?

 

[blkbro510]

Why would dating a black man change your lifestyle?

One bad experience does not suggest a pattern. When you identify a pattern, and a toxic one at that, do you still go into the situation with your eyes closed or are you more careful.

Maybe I will date a black guy again. I don't meet so many anymore but I like my lifestyle so I'm not going to change it just for that. and where one usually thinks, ok three strikes and they're out, more likely, it will be just once is enough.

 

[blkbro510]

I don't know if BLACK CULTURE or BLACK MANNERISMs are the correct term to use ( from all the posting that was made).

I think you what you are saying is that WOMEN and BLACK WOMEN are tired of the hyper musculinity attitude that Black MEN have protrayed and that they have supported in the past....:wink:

Also let me ask this. So this thread has gone really deep. Lets try to make something clear.

Its not that the ladies think black people are physically unattractive, they just think that "black culture" and black mannerisms are unacttractive. Is this what you guys are trying to say?

 

[helgaleena]

Speaking as a person quite deficient in melanin, I have never understood why even the tiniest acknowledged characteristic of non-European ancestry meant an American wasn't 'white'. We have blue eyed blacks and Native Americans, blond Latinos, Asians with eyes that are not slanted and curly hair, you name it, they all persist in defining themselves by the coloration they exhibit that is not typically 'European.' It truly defies logic.

The real minority world wide is redheads with freckles, and in a few centuries they may go the way of the albino.

 

[Principessa]

Why would dating a black man change your lifestyle?

Seriously? I don't even want to go there dude. :redface:

Speaking as a person quite deficient in melanin, I have never understood why even the tiniest acknowledged characteristic of non-European ancestry meant an American wasn't 'white'. We have blue eyed blacks and Native Americans, blond Latinos, Asians with eyes that are not slanted and curly hair, you name it, they all persist in defining themselves by the coloration they exhibit that is not typically 'European.' It truly defies logic.

The real minority world wide is redheads with freckles, and in a few centuries they may go the way of the albino.

I had a great-great aunt on my mothers side who was very dark skinned and had naturally blue eyes. I thought she had a rare, different kind of beauty; even as a child. Obviously there was white blood there somewhere; but it was never discussed. The fact of the matter, is that black people with blue eyes are as rare as hens teeth.

I know for a fact I have seen more white, redheads with freckles than I have black or native Americans with blue eyes, in my lifetime.

 

[Principessa]

Why do black women on this site only like white guys?

Because most of the black men here are bisexual or gay.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Really!? Wow we never see commercials like that in the west. We always beat them them down as racist products.

Whenever I seen news specials about skin bleaching, racism, and beauty, they always bring up the topic of skin bleaching and the topic always end up in areas of Europe and India.

I have watched television from Barbados and seen ads for bleaching cream. We call it vanishing cream in the US, but it does the same thing. Sometimes we call it brightener in the US, too.

 

[DGirl]

you talking about ambi fade cream??

Hell I use that to fade a BLACK SPOT on my face once the darn pimple is gone. I can't make myself lighter.. I am already light! I LOVE my skin as it is. But, I don't want my hubby playing connect the dots..

AMBI SKINCARE | AMBI® Flawless Skin

 

[AlteredEgo]

you talking about ambi fade cream??

Hell I use that to fade a BLACK SPOT on my face once the darn pimple is gone. I can't make myself lighter.. I am already light! I LOVE my skin as it is. But, I don't want my hubby playing connect the dots..

AMBI SKINCARE | AMBI® Flawless Skin

There are many brands carrying that kind of product. I use one from Neutrogena (Visably Even) for the same reason (but I did notice recently that I can't keep a tan and use this product at the same time). A few other brands which come to mind: Mary Kay, Burt's Bees, and Clearasil. They are sold as spot treatments, but if you use them more universally, over time you too can switch races like Michael Jackson! (Is it still too soon?) There are day spas in New York which offer skin bleaching, and I hear people discussing skin bleaching here from time to time.

 

[invisibleman]

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Why do black women on this site only like white guys?

Because most of the black men here are bisexual or gay.

<light-hearted sarcasm>Oh, and there aren't any bisexual or gay white men on here.</light-hearted sarcasm> Pessa, you know you like white cock. You don't have to make excuses or feel guilty about what you want.

 

[invisibleman]

I don't use bleaching creams...and I don't use tanning creams either. I don't use MAGIC SHAVE depilatory shaving powder.

I do use PALMER'S Cocoa Butter stick and NOXZEMA face cleansing cream. That is it.

 

[Icantthinkofaname]

I always feel sad when I miss the fun threads.

I was born and bred in an upper-middle class white community in NJ. I guess it's nature over nurture; because I find I get along best with white men from a similar background. I don't feel the need to pretend to be a 'home girl' with white men. White men don't give me crap for speaking proper English, taking the day off work to stand inline for Springsteen tickets, or having no clue who is at the top of the R&B, rap, or hip-hop lists.

Oh god, are you my older, female twin sister?

 

[invisibleman]

Also let me ask this. So this thread has gone really deep. Lets try to make something clear.

Its not that the ladies think black people are physically unattractive, they just think that "black culture" and black mannerisms are unacttractive. Is this what you guys are trying to say?

No, I think that honestly some black women think that black men are unattractive. And you can't do anything about that. That is that.

Don't fall in love with black women who want white men.

 

[blkbro510]

And most white men on here aren't...It's double standard I see here and I discussed this before in bisexual thread--that there's some to be more of open-ness and acceptance of white men being bisexual and yet there's a zero torrelance for blacks (and browns), however with the numbers raising there's going to have some form acceptance. The question in is "Do black men have the right to a sexuality"

Because most of the black men here are bisexual or gay.

 

[blkbro510]

Nah you can't not fall in love with black women who want white men. I meet women like that all time, we always hit it off, because I'm a black man who want white women--so we have that in common black folks into white folks. It's fun affair because at the basic level, we're both humans, not just black, we like crazy shit and we don't have to explain it or feel like we have to stop.


I think in next few generations this is what its going to come to for black on black relationships--LET GO OF YOUR GOT DAMN ARMOR!

No, I think that honestly some black women think that black men are unattractive. And you can't do anything about that. That is that.

Don't fall in love with black women who want white men.

 

[invisibleman]

there's some to be more of open-ness and acceptance of white men being bisexual and yet there's a zero tolerance for blacks (and browns), however with the numbers raising there's going to have some form acceptance. The question in is "Do black men have the right to a sexuality"?

There are bisexual black men in the world that don't EVEN see themselves as BI or GAY. They see themselves as straight. They get the designation "down low".

My sexuality is tolerated in my family. Honestly, there used to be a time when it wasn't. But times change...people get aware...people get used to a lot. Black men do have a right to being sexual beings and to sexual expression. But I do think that gay or bisexual black men aren't really exposed in the mainstream films. There aren't any black "BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN"S or black "MAKING LOVE"S. But you have black straight men fucking black women in "SOUL FOOD"...in "WILD ORCHID"...in "SHE'S GOTTA HAVE IT". Even in "SHE HATE ME".

I think African-American men shouldn't feel that they aren't entitled to an honest sexual expression in the world.

 

[Smooth88]

I had a great-great aunt on my mothers side who was very dark skinned and had naturally blue eyes. I thought she had a rare, different kind of beauty; even as a child. Obviously there was white blood there somewhere; but it was never discussed. The fact of the matter, is that black people with blue eyes are as rare as hens teeth.

I know for a fact I have seen more white, redheads with freckles than I have black or native Americans with blue eyes, in my lifetime.

The only black people with blue eyes I've ever seen were wearing color contacts. Black people with blue eyes is an extreme rarity. While I knew plenty of redheads with freckles growing up.