Why do black women on this site only like white guys?

[invisibleman]

Is it wrong that I want to see you in timberlands, jeans, a wife-beater and jesus piece? :09:

I don't have any Timberlands shooz. I do have a pair of LUGZ that I mow the lawn in. I have two pairs of SKETCHERS. One pair I got for Christmas.

I have lots of jeans. I have T-shirts. I don't own any jewel encrusted DESERT EAGLE pistols...(aka JESUS PIECES) (I wouldn't mind having two pink anodized DESERT EAGLE guns...I think guns are kinda sexy! I use my superpowers for good.) but I do have a glow-in-the-dark Catholic rosary. (aka the other JESUS PIECE). But I am not Catholic. And I don't wear it because I wouldn't want to be misleading anyone. Sounds like the makings of a weird video game character.

I am not much of a showoffy kind of person but maybe when you get some nutless baked goods in the mail in the future...I may even slip my mug shot in there.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

I don't have any Timberlands shooz. I do have a pair of LUGZ that I mow the lawn in. I have two pairs of SKETCHERS. One pair I got for Christmas.

I have lots of jeans. I have T-shirts. I don't own any jewel encrusted DESERT EAGLE pistols...(aka JESUS PIECES) (I wouldn't mind having two pink anodized DESERT EAGLE guns...I think guns are kinda sexy! I use my superpowers for good.) but I do have a glow-in-the-dark Catholic rosary. (aka the other JESUS PIECE). But I am not Catholic. And I don't wear it because I wouldn't want to be misleading anyone. Sounds like the makings of a weird video game character.

I am not much of a showoffy kind of person but maybe when you get some nutless baked goods in the mail in the future...I may even slip my mug shot in there.

:lmao:
Mmm, someday I will savor your nut(less) treats, Invisi. :la: :hug:

 

[ConstantComment]

I do wonder why white people continue to insist that Obama is "half-white" when there are so many other black people in the US who are much ligther than he is. Harold Ford is one example of someone fairer than Obama but no one insists that he half white.

 

[eyescream]

I think it's completely fine for black women to want non-black men. In fact, it's about time too! Most black men I know don't date black women which made me wonder why black women only stick to their kind. So yeah, it's a great shift for black women to explore and find preferences in non-black male.

 

[freyasworld]

it does not matter if the guys are black brown pink or have blue spots on them, the fact is all men on this planet today are SDL's (sad desperate loonies) different socio-economic groups have greater preponderance to ones own. It also has a lot to do with owning property, am I somebodies property...like hell! Am I to be treated like property....you can try, but be assured the maintenance costs are going to cripple you!

All women want regardless of colour creed nationality is to be treated with respect, our desires and needs met, that costs you money! If you haven't got it, you aint getting it!

Oh as since Freya is a norse goddess, I require worshipping and sacrifice too!

 

[ManlyBanisters]

All women want regardless of colour creed nationality is to be treated with respect, our desires and needs met, that costs you money! If you haven't got it, you aint getting it!

Speak for yourself.

I'm not a whore - I do not take money or gifts from anyone for sex or affection.

This and your post in the bigger models in magazines thread show you up to be buying in to all the same stereotypes that have been perpetuated for years. And yet you seem to think you are progressive. Sad.

 

[Kotchanski]

Speak for yourself.

I'm not a whore - I do not take money or gifts from anyone for sex or affection.

Not only am I not a whore, but I am owned, I am property. I made vows to my husband, when I did that, I gave him everything I am and everything I own.

I really dislike women who claim to speak for all women

 

[freyasworld]

To ManlyBanisters In reply to your comment, I never for one moment suggested or implied you were a whore, this is a light hearted site where anyone can express an opinion and yes tongue in cheek replies are the norm, now if that causes you offence then I apologise to you.
The point I was making lamely was this, 50,000 years ago women chose men who could care for them, protect them, feed and clothe them and father their children, provide support and care for those children. What has changed? Whether we like it or not, we have evolution to contend with.
In an ideal world there would be no discrimination, but there is so we deal with it the best way we can. We all want to grow, to be educated to aspire, we want our offspring to be better off, have more and greater opportunities then we had or have.
You go to school, are educated get a job, get your first home, but after a few years you want something more, something better, maybe kids, but we are all trying to improve our lives, some people are achieving this at different rates to others. Some people had better starting points, some people lose everything through redundancies, divorce break-ups and have to start all over again...that’s life, that’s evolution!
I for one do not want or wish my kids to go to live in a cave. hence why we all have our own limits and boundaries and are attracted to similar socio economic groups we are in or aspire to.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

That's funny, Freya - I live in a world where I can make my own money and improve my own situation. I'll agree with you that that's not the case in some third world countries, but you don't seem to be talking outside the scope of the opulent west.

It also doesn't change the fact that you said "...that costs you money! If you haven't got it, you aint getting it!" - that sounds very much like sexual favours in return for material goods. I didn't take personal offence at that - but I'm not in the kind of relationship where I don't 'put out' if my partner is not the main provider and I never have been. I've never chosen a man based on what I thought he had to offer financially. I don't fit the model you insist is standard - neither do most of the women I know.

Oh and by the way - you have no understanding of what evolution actually means if you think that "Some people had better starting points, some people lose everything through redundancies, divorce break-ups and have to start all over again" can be explain by the quip "that's evolution". Honestly - not a clue.

 

[Smooth88]

And this topic has gone to hell.....

 

[Pitbull]

And this topic has gone to hell.....

...and somehow the OP didn't really get Flamed like he was expecting.

 

[ConstantComment]

Well, I hope this was thought provoking. It was cathartic for me.

 

[Smooth88]

Hey it was a good discussion. I'm not even talking about the OP. I'm talking about the recent off-topicness that's detracting from what the thread is about and our intelligent conversation.

 

[SandraSmithCarver]

When you're mixed I guess you identify yourself as what you want to. Like some of the great Black figures in American history are mixed. Barack Obama, Frederick Douglass just to name a couple.

Unfortunatly, in :Racsist America: if you have any black in you, yopur considered black

 

[SandraSmithCarver]

Unfortunatly, in :Racsist America: if you have any black in you, yopur considered black

sorry, cant write :frown1:

 

[SandraSmithCarver]

Maybe you should ask them...

CUZ THEY CAN :wink:

 

[Smooth88]

Unfortunatly, in :Racsist America: if you have any black in you, yopur considered black

Not necessarily. A person identifies with the group they want to or perceived to be. All of my first cousins on my mom's side are half white. A couple of them if you didn't know any better you'd assume they were completely white and wouldn't know they were black unless they told you.

Sometimes it's perception but a lot more often it has to do with self-identity. And what you consider yourself. If Frederick Douglass considered himself white during the times when he was alive he'd have almost no reason to be an instrumental part of getting slaves their freedom.

And also their plenty of people who are black that try run away from and hide the fact they are black like its some kind of curse.

 

[helgaleena]

Good points, Smooth88. People identify with the group that they wish to make most use of, if they have any choices available.

In another thread, Drifterwood expressed interest in the Human GenomeProject. He, a citizen of a former Empire with plenty of 'darkies' to bring 'civilization' to, is like many other nations now experiencing an influx of new citizens from former colonies. The definition of British has not changed, but the genetic makeup and appearance and even the customs are changing. It's a 'vindaloo'. What in the USA is called a 'melting pot' of the 'huddled masses'.

Blacks and Hispanics are the ones still culturally distinct imo, and no longer are the Irish and Itai's the 'northern niggers' they used to be. Fashions change so now it's cool to be one eighth Native, when in my exhusband's time they were still lynching the 'timber niggers' in his county.

Obama is called black because he is finally able to get elected with that designation. It is a good thing, yes?

 

[AlteredEgo]

(Speechless.)

Yup! I asked one guy who said he thought I'd be high-maintenance based on the way I speak and write why looking at me didn't change that perception. I'm certainly not a sharp dresser. My hair is frequently chaotic, and my nails are usually in terrible shape. I don't like sneakers until they are two years old. Most of my dress shoes are in desperate need of polishing. He said he just thought I would be bougie, and was pleasantly surprised when we got to know each other.

He was also surprised when I expressed interest in him. He thought I'd probably prefer someone not so dark-skinned like he. I'll admit that the thought occurred to me he might prefer whites and light-skinned asians like so many other black men I've met who are as affluent as he. He exclusively dates dark-skinned women with kinky hair like mine.

I often wondered if despite his very dark skin, he worried about people challenging his blackness (because of his interests, speech, and success) and if that was why he dressed like a thug when he didnt' have to wear a suit, and wouldn't even consider dating a woman with straightened hair, let alone outside of his race.

Ditto. I was just PMing 24K about this exact experience, which began after my school implemented a busing program. Unfortunately, my experience was quite hostile, not just an issue of refusing to be friends. One boy in particular was intimidating, as in threatened physical violence, and one bitch ( is eight too young to be a bitch? :biggrin1 even cut my hair.

But I do associate that behavior with the "crabs in a barrel" thing.

In my experience, they stole from me, called me names, beat up on me, and generally harrassed me. This wasn't restricted to my own grade, but was the entire school from grades 3-8. There was some relief in the 8th grade when I went into a special class, but some of my bullies were bright too, and also got into that class. Thank God I was popular in high school. I think I would have killed myself if I had to deal with the same bullshit then too. I thought about killing myself at least once a day from grades 5-8. I tried a few times, too. Racist American blacks are the worst, because they hate people who look just like them.

Anyway, those experiences have led to a lingering distrust of blacks and latinos. I do not seek out their company without consciously forcing myself to remember to give individuals a chance.

This thread brings to mind another thing I have only experienced with black guys when I was growing up. Did any other black women here experience the following when they were teenagers? My mother never wanted me to be disconnected from the community from which "we" (meaning she) came. To that end, I always had to go to after-school programs in the ghetto, sleep-away camps with kids from the ghetto, etc. I found that a lot of the black guys would bully me in public, but if we were ever alone, they'd want to be very flirty or even overtly sexual with me. Alone with me, they could admit to themselves that they found me attractive, but in public, I was "too white" and had to be destroyed. Did anyone else experience similarly?

 

[Smooth88]

Racist American blacks are the worst, because they hate people who look just like them.

Oh man don't get me started on them. My younger sister is very dark skinned. A friend from Elementary school father didn't like her hanging out with my sister because she was dark skinned. And he was just as dark if not darker than her. He's very well off and a judge here in North Jersey but it's like he hates his own. He's married to an extremely light skinned women (almost white) and most of his acquaintances are on the lighter side of the African-American shade spectrum.

In my freshman sociology class when I was at Morehouse College we were talking about this. There is a group of rich families in VA. Extremely light skinned who only intermarry with each other to "keep the bloodline" or stay light skinned.