There's a woman from my past who kept wanting to get back together, and each time swore up and down that it was not about the sex or my size. The problem is and was always that while we get along famously, the bottom line is never about "us", and it's both our faults. All we ever talked about was our goals for ourselves, all of which was interesting, but it was never about being together. Someone once said something like: love is sharing a dream rather than looking at each other dreamily--- or something like that. We've finally become smart enough to be just friends.