What would you know about it, you fucking pansy truffle-nudger?
lol As far as Gay guys reactions to one another... I think they either do not talk because they are insecure and see you as a threat or someone that MAY ignore them...hence they are less likely to talk to you or be nice... Even tho they still suck for being that way. Again..social graces are forgotten or never learned.
I wonder if this isn't more pronounced in 'macho' cultures like in America, where straight men feel that expressions of courtesy and consideration are a sign of weakness, or worse, girly and gay.
Wow, this isn't my experience at all, certainly not among gay men, generally not among straight men either. Then again, I tend to avoid and move away from meanspirited people. On sites like this it's a different problem though, as they can follow you around and are liable to pop up anywhere.
Well I wasn't really aiming for that result, but I think the attitude speaks for itself, and it probly would have happened sooner or later. Judging from these and other posts, good riddance I'd say.
I'm sure the internet has a lot to do with it, but I think the decline in social graces started long before that. I was raised in an "Emily Post" home, and we were taught not only good manners, but kindness, courtesy, respect, and how to behave in any social situation. I am very grateful for that, and I think it's sad so much of it has been lost in our culture. This is not a knock at working women, but I think the amount of time both parents spend working outside the home has had an effect, as has the elimination of this sort of influence in the public school curriculum. It's sad. Fortunately, I live in the South, where these things are still generally practiced, at least more so than other places I've lived/been.
That's one BIG thing that I do miss about home.
Ya know, I could tell. Where y'all from? I spent 20 yrs in SoCal, btw.Oh I totally agree... I'm a southern boy myself...just a transplant in Cali
Well howdy, neighbor. I'll foller up with you when I gets the chance steada takin this thread too far off topic.
Word of advice, steer clear of Colorado Springs and surrounding environs - a hotbed of radical right-wingers and Evangelical fundamentalists. Areas north of Denver, e.g. Boulder, Ft. Collins are very cool, imho.
Well a couple of those "issues" seem to be really apparent on this site - notably the "macho" image issue and the "compensating" issue. People try to compensate for all sorts of things I guess - looks, lack of money, education, intelligence, etc. Something that has really struck me since arriving here is how obsessed and competitive men are with their cocks, how much it defines them, and how insecure most of them seem to be about that. I always knew men were obsessed, just never realized how much they were obsessed and how universal it seems to be. Of course the main subject of the site naturally brings that into sharp focus. One of the things that's most fascinating here is how frequently that seems to be compensatory subtext to whatever else the poster is saying.
Most revealing.Don't lose hope darlin, I'll be glad to requite your love. Respectully and platonically, of course. :wink:
I'm not denying this, it just doesn't fit my personal experience that gay men are any more catty than any other group, women among women for example. It seems a bit of a stereotype. The only place I ever see this is maybe in competition for sex/romance, more so among immature guys. Otherwise, my interactions with gay, straight, mixed, men, women in social settings, bars, organizations, etc. don't suggest that any group is any more hostile than any other. But then, it may have a lot to do with where and with whom I associate. I dunno.
