Why do gay guys insist on using their full given name?

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I use the shortened version. I am also sloppy at home and have little fashion sense.
I had a uncle Lonnie who they called Lon. My family and friends call me Lonnie, not a common name for a guy..I always have people who meet me and ask me is Lonnie short for something else.. I liked how crescendo69 put it. Have they done a study on this ?lol.
 

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My partner bristles when anyone calls him by his full first name; he's 100% happy with the shortened version, which his dad also went by, and now hates to fly because the TSA demands ID with his full name (which, remarkably, he had managed to previously get with his shortened version). Interestingly, he doesn't mind so much when his full first name is used with his middle name, which is a last name that runs in his family.

I grew up being called by a common "short-for" version of my name by close family members. I detested it, and still do. Nobody who meets me makes the mistake of doing it more than once. Family members keep trying to find new short versions to call me (why??) and I've given up caring. My sister grew up with what I consider a very nice short-for name for her lovely -- but rare at the time -- full first name, then she went through a phase around 12 of very vocal resentment of the short-for and it disappeared. It wasn't a very obvious short-for anyway; just nice.

And my brother (straight, like sis) grew up with nothing but his full first name by all family members and friends, but as an adult mostly uses the short-for because that's what his college and adult friends just started calling him and he's cool with it.
 

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My name isn't long at all. But I have had such a hard time from my peers in high school and college over it...I don't go to high school or college reunions because of the name antics. (And I was FACEBOOK chatting with a guy I went to high school with. He was one of those guys that used to make fun of my name and I told him that I could say every guy's name proper: Kwame. Antoine. Calcutta. DeVerge. Sheldon. But you beyotches say my name...you shits have to fuck with it. Thank HEAVEN...my name wasn't NEBUCHADNEZZER. You beyotches would have an excuse to put the N-word in it, then."
 

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A bit stereotyped there don't ya think?

Yeah, it is. Maybe it bothers me because I'm gay and hate to be grouped into the same corral as the prissy gay men who need to have everyone call them by their full given name. I'm just not that uptight and a fan of formality.

I wonder if something inside you changes when you go from being Mikey to Mike then on to Michael. Is adopting a formal first name a way of distancing or separating yourself from people?
 
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tbh
dont think i ever have had this as a priority of sorts in my life
never really cared what folk called me, cept anything racial, and then they copped it big time.
 

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My name is Mark.

It can only be lengthened. One woman at work called my Markymark and one man called me Mistermark. Strangely, they got married!
 

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associating this as a gay thing is bad enough, calling it prisy is even worse, yes people generally want to be called by there name. After all IT'S THERE NAME, how dare they. What is with people named John being called Jack or Margret being called Peg, explain that one please.
 

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associating this as a gay thing is bad enough, calling it prisy is even worse, yes people generally want to be called by there name. After all IT'S THERE NAME, how dare they. What is with people named John being called Jack or Margret being called Peg, explain that one please.

It is prissy when every single time someone calls them by their shortened name they make it a point to put down the other person and correct them. That's prissy.

"The name is Jonathan, not John, Johnny, or Jack. Use my correct name." And if you go ahead and call them by their shortened name again they get all bent out of shape as if it was some power game you are playing with them.

You seem pretty uptight. And BTW it's "their" name not "there". See how it feels to be corrected for something trivial? Pretty prissy of me huh?
 
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"Professionals" and those that seek to show how 'adult' they are tend to be this way. I could care less if I'm called Syd or Sydney. That said, never type/write my name as Sidney or Sid. THAT bugs me because 1 letter isn't hard.
 

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Yeah, it is. Maybe it bothers me because I'm gay and hate to be grouped into the same corral as the prissy gay men who need to have everyone call them by their full given name. I'm just not that uptight and a fan of formality.

You kind of are that uptight if you are irritated by how people address themselves. I've been called Danny, Dan or Daniel my whole life and thats not even my name - go figure that one.
 

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My mother was a stickler for insisting that no one shorted our names and would correct family or friends who done it in front of her.

I'm not a fan of having my name shortened but I'll call friends what ever they feel most comfortable with.

Exactly. Moms spend considerable time fretting over a name and for someone's buddy to all but change it in 5 seconds is annoying. My sister and I are anal about that with our kids.
One day her sons friend came to over to play video games and when she answered the door the kid asked if Bran was home. His name is Brandon.
She replied that there's no one named Bran there and shut the door on him.
 

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an interesting point came up a few posts ago.... when i introduce myself to people, i will always do so with my full given name.... then 5 minutes later people are calling me by the shortened version.... like: did i not just give that person my name? i would have to say that it says a lot more about those who ignorantly shorten a person's name without asking than it is for anyone (gay or straight) to use the full version of their name.... like, if a guy was named william but introduced themselves as bill, then i would call them bill.... that's just showing a person respect.... to presume that someone is being prissy just for using the full version of their name (for whatever reason) is not only ridiculous but it's extremely ignorant....
 

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I fall into another group entirely. My full name is a shortened version of another name, and people continually insist on using the full version, even though it isn't my name. Very few people get away with lengthening my name a second time.

My sister has exactly the same problem. It drives her NUTS having to correct people all the time!