Tender: [quote author=wvalady1968 link=board=women;num=1069029803;start=0#0 date=11/16/03 at 16:34:23]Things are NOT happy at Chez David. Perhaps some of you can shed some light on this and keep me from sleeping in one of the other bedrooms tonight.
I am hot. I confess. But I'll take this down to the bottom line to keep it simple.
I have never, ever been in any relationship with any man when he hasn't eventually decided that he has the right and the authority, no,
the God given mandate, to tell me what to do....
AND THEN
he gets pissed off when I say, "That's a nice idea, but, no, I'm gonna do it my way."
And then the fight starts.
WHAT IS IT WITH THAT?
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i have been thinking some on this.
i do not mean this in a bad way so please dont take it as such.
not sure of his age?
but it has occured to me, though your post is vague as to what he is wanting you to do....
that perhaps he was raised in a home where his mother was quite submissive to his father?
i do believe personally that a man has authority over his wife.
oh no im in deep now !!
simply put, if my SB says NO i respect that.
usually hes sorry later and i get apologies lol !!
there have been times that i have put my foot down on something that i could see needed to be done that way.
later he was glad i did it.
but should he have said NO and not been wishy washy i would have to honor that.
exceptions of course are if he is asking you to do something you feel is morally wrong....
i would note there is a difference between controlling, and simply being the head of his home.
now, for the rest of my answer,,,,
it is for the same reason they put diapers on backwards, fry eggs in 2 inches of grease, and mix up the entire box of fast patch at one time... (oh if you know anything about that stuff it sets up like ROCK in 10 minuets lol)
might have something to do with the way they always are late because they had to wash the car, and forget your birthday, and cant remember his own kids middle name... need i go on?!
BOYS! cant live with them cant live without them!
well it could perhaps have to do with the way he mows the yard in half the time it takes me, can fix thingies in the house, or your car. and he always brings flowers or chocolates to say hes sorry he forgot your birthday. no he cant match the girls clothes or fix their hair, but they scream for DADDY! when he comes home in the evening.... play horsie!! and guitars and such....
maybe its the testosterone? but then my SB doesnt have any!!
(er were working on that... :-/)
maybe a pride thing?
an ego thing?
maybe just the way God made us all different?
or the difference between men and women?
:-/
Tender